How And Ways To Stop Repeating Past Mistakes In Love

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; clear: left; color: #333333; float: left; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img alt=" While many of your difficulties in love are not really your fault How and ways to Stop Repeating Past Mistakes in Love" src="http://static.eharmony.com/dating-advice/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/stoprepeatingpatternsinrelationships1-397x267.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <br /> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> While many of your difficulties in love are not really your fault (poor role models, dysfunctional patterns in your family growing up, etc.), it is your responsibility to move beyond them. The good news is that you can absolutely get past those old patterns in love and attract someone who will meet you on even ground and become the romantic partner you’ve always dreamed of having. The only hard part is that no one else is coming to make this situation better for you, and it is up to you to invest in doing the necessary work.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Why some people find love and others don’t has nothing to do with fate or worthiness but whether one has identified and cultivated the capacities that support happy, healthy, real love to flourish and thrive. The best place to begin creating a very different kind of relationship than any you’ve had in your past, <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">is in your own relationship with yourself.</em></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Any relationship you’ll ever have is only going to be as good as the relationship you have with yourself. And those places where you have problems relating to yourself will also be troublesome in creating a relationship with someone else. For instance, if you’re constantly making yourself wrong, you’ll find that eventually others will be more than happy for you to take the blame for everything going wrong between you. If you chronically berate yourself and speak in disrespectful ways to yourself and about yourself, you will exert an almost magnetic pull on even the most loving people around you to begin doing the same.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Some of these patterns might not show up immediately, but eventually they will. And when they do, you’ll be startled. You’ll wonder, how did I create another relationship with my critical father? How did I get into bed yet again with someone who is always making me wrong just like my mom? Yet, it’s not really your mother or your father. They may have treated you that way 20, 30, even 40 years ago, but actually it’s you who has been treating yourself the same way ever since.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Inside of not evolving that dynamic in your own relationship with yourself (which we will often not do when stuck in blaming our parents to the point where we are not taking responsibility for the choices we are making to perpetuate the same dynamic with ourselves), you will have a tendency to duplicate your old painful patterns in love again and again and again.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">The way you can begin to make great progress in your relationship with yourself is to make a deep commitment to recognize and stand for your own value and worthiness to love and be loved.</em></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Make a promise to yourself to do whatever it takes…to go the extra mile in your efforts to become the man or woman you’d need to be in order to prepare yourself to have authentic love in your life.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Your commitment to yourself needs to then begin showing up in your actions…</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Are they reflective of your commitment to have a great love in your life?</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Are you living in integrity with that vision?</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Are you taking the risk to show up in ways that are generative of the life you’re committed to creating?</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> To support you in your budding commitment towards self-love, let me explain where most people tend to get stuck: It’s often in learning how to connect with and gaji our own feelings and needs. Most of us were not taught how to check in with ourselves so we could learn to be aware and respectful of our own needs and desires. Some of us were even trained out of having our feelings and asserting our needs in ways that would have created healthy dynamics of mutuality, depth, understanding and authentic care. Yet these skills of self-awareness and self-care are foundational to being able to set clear, healthy boundaries that allow a relationship to flourish.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> I’m not talking about walls here. Walls don’t let anybody else in. Boundaries, however, are fluid and allow us to be clear with others about what we can do, and what we can’t do, what we want and what we don’t want. They allow us to say no when something doesn’t feel aligned with our own well-being or integrity, and to say yes to those things that do. And, contrary to our fear that if we don’t give someone else everything they want from us, they might leave, boundaries actually serve to make our container of love stronger.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> For good boundaries, the ability to recognize yourself as a separate autonomous individual who is holding ultimate responsibility for your own happiness in life, is necessary in order to create a healthy, happy relationship with another human being.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> A wonderful way to begin practicing honoring your own feelings and needs and setting good, healthy boundaries is to ask yourself in any given moment, “Where is my attention?” Most of us have our first attention on others and are more aware of the feelings and needs of others than we are of our own feelings and needs. This is the core of co-dependence and will create toxicity in relationships over time. For example, have you ever felt yourself merge so much with another that you became unable to differentiate their emotions and needs from your own? Have you ever believed that things would get better and that the relationship would succeed if you could just give more and step so fully into the other person’s shoes that you could entirely understand them? Have you ever found yourself disappearing your own feelings and needs in order to care for the feelings and needs of someone else? Many of us have. And it’s a misunderstanding of what mature love really is.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> And so, in taking a stand to create happy, healthy love, you want to identify the growth and development you must begin to engage now in preparation for having this love. This particular practice is learning how to keep your first attention on yourself while also being sensitive and available to care for the feelings and needs of others.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> For many of us, this is a real evolutionary edge, for we have only before known either self-abandonment or self-absorption! But true love will require more of us. And our task in making a commitment to call in great love is to become a great lover. A lover of maturity and depth who has cultivated the capacity to show up as a grown-up in order to co-create a grown-up love. Commit to your own evolution in love…and your beloved cannot help but follow.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">With love,</em></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <i> Team</i></div> </div>

How And Ways To Stop Repeating Past Mistakes In Love

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10 Ways To Build Loving Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img alt="THIS is a one size fits all guide to building the right kind of relationship 10 Ways to Build Loving Relationship" height="316" src="https://static.yourtango.com/cdn/farfuture/Y9Rm_i3NF-KSh9tEEJJHXwMubGAv0Mhwsai8mPYXA9g/mtime:1438161330/sites/default/files/styles/header_slider/public/image_blog/Z_7.jpg?itok=pLRen4Vl" width="640" /><br /> <br />  <span style="background-color: white; color: #131313; font-family: "fselliot" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 700;">THIS is a one size fits all guide to building the right kind of relationship.</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These are indispensable tips, written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family, and even work relationships.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without fear. </span><br /> Don't interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don't make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you're too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe, and calm down.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Remember: your partner is not the enemy.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">2. Separate the facts from the feelings.</span><br /> What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I'm seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What's the real truth?</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Once you're able to differentiate facts from feelings, you'll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">3. Connect with the different parts of yourself. </span><br /> Each of us is not a solo instrument. We're more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your "gut" saying?</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> For example: My mind is saying "definitely leave her," but my heart says "I really love her."</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">4. Develop compassion.</span><br /> Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don't have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoguing respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">5. Create a "we" that can house two "I's." </span><br /> The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually supportive relationship is being separate, yet connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or herself — compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual "I" contributes to creatimg a "we" that is stronger than the sum of its parts. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">6. Partner, heal thyself.</span><br /> Don't expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don't try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can support the journey as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">7. Relish the differences between you. </span><br /> The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don't need a relationship with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they're often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">8. Ask questions.</span><br /> All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners' behavior means. For example: "She doesn't want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore." We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what's not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">9. Make time for your relationship. </span>No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making "play dates" and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">10. Say the "hard things" from love.</span><br /> Become aware of the hard things that you're not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you're feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.</div> </div>

10 Ways To Build Loving Relationship

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Ninetips For Building A Loving Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; clear: left; color: #222222; float: left; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img height="266" src="http://ioneblackdoctor.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/179133949.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" width="400" /></div> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px;"> <div id="mobile_ad_top"> </div> </div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself,breathe and “calm down.”</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <em>Remember: your partner is not the enemy.</em></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <em><br /></em></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>2. Separate the facts from the feelings.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong><br /></strong><strong>3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.</strong>What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>4. Develop and cultivate compassion.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of <em>good fire</em>.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>6. Partner, heal thyself.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>8. Make time for your relationship.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>9. Say the “hard things” from love.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.</div> </div>

Ninetips For Building A Loving Relationship

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Is Sex Causing Anxiety In Your Relationship?

<h2 style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: #5d696f; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.3; margin: 18px 0px;"> Sex & Relationships: Is sex causing anxiety in your relationship?</h2> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-H2wmkMd_7orJudmPW1SUTlVnGalDupgZT5rz1bKkrNt2jJ67qWUUE6-6BfmzStkj5soq4TeAwOECKl4S7jmkAH3BVJc3jQMr6lo19XYgA0vG-3ph86wcTI1CDyVjAvoah1N5LJ1mcReU/s1600/sex+and+relationship.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="sex and relationship" border="0" data-original-height="299" data-original-width="592" height="161" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-H2wmkMd_7orJudmPW1SUTlVnGalDupgZT5rz1bKkrNt2jJ67qWUUE6-6BfmzStkj5soq4TeAwOECKl4S7jmkAH3BVJc3jQMr6lo19XYgA0vG-3ph86wcTI1CDyVjAvoah1N5LJ1mcReU/s320/sex+and+relationship.jpg" title="sex and relationship" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> How is it that sex, something so magical and intimate, can once feel like an act of pure connection and pleasure, then seemingly turn into an overwhelming topic that only creates tension, insecurity, rejection and discomfort in your relationship? Many couples suffer from intimacy “issues” and I often hear complaints by my clients in regards to “incompatible sex drives.” This can often lead to arguments, full-blown resentment and even affairs, as the lack of understanding the underlying issues of each other’s sexual needs, desires, and (especially) discomfort and expectations fall to the waist-side.</div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> My approach to understanding physical intimacy is largely influenced by the emotional security and understanding of each other within the relationship. This doesn’t mean that sex has to become rigid and overly emotional, but it does mean that in order for both parties to feel desire and passion, emotional vulnerability is truly key. Can you trust your partner? Do you feel they really understand you (or want to?) Do you feel the commitment you have to each other is sacred? Do you enjoy your relationship, feel appreciated and acknowledged?</div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> Sexual issues within a relationship are most often a symptom of a deeper problem. Identifying what that may be requires personal reflection, but also involves strengthening your communication and challenging yourself to be open about your own feelings about love, sex, and overall emotions.</div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> While sex may have felt “easy” and safe in the beginning of your relationship, it may now cause conflict between you and your partner. It may feel like an obligation; it may feel overwhelming or not reciprocated; you may feel rejected, embarrassed or frustrated.</div> <blockquote style="background: url("images/quote.png") 7px 5px no-repeat scroll rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; hyphens: none; line-height: 30px; margin: 24px 40px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 50px; position: relative; quotes: none; width: auto;"> <div style="box-sizing: border-box;"> (Relax… this is quite normal and here’s what you can do about it).</div> </blockquote> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> First thing’s first. Get clarification!</div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> Don’t be afraid to ask your partner about sex, even if you feel these are things you <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">should already know. </em></div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> What does sex represent to them? How do they feel they show love and feel connected to you? How important is sex? How often do they expect it?  What helps create the mood for them? How does it make them feel when sex isn’t fully enjoyable or when it isn’t present in your relationship? How comfortable with sex do they feel they are? How do they view intimacy and is that important to them? What specific things really turn them on?  What are their biggest fantasies? <span style="box-sizing: border-box; text-decoration-line: underline;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Most importantly, are they feeling connected to you on all other levels of your relationship?</strong></span></div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> All of these questions about sex in relationships require trust, honesty, and vulnerability. All of these questions embody truths that outline your partners underlying meaning(s) of your relationship, sex in its entirety, and <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">how they feel about themselves</em> in relation to sex with you. Answering these questions may allow you both to uncover the hidden issues that haven’t been discussed or fully understood, which have been displaced onto the topic of sex in your relationship.</div> <blockquote style="background: url("images/quote.png") 7px 5px no-repeat scroll rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; hyphens: none; line-height: 30px; margin: 24px 40px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 50px; position: relative; quotes: none; width: auto;"> <div style="box-sizing: border-box;"> Communicating about sex in relationships is part of strengthening your entire connection and can even positively affect your self-esteem and sex drive. Good sex, along with other elements of your relationship, <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">take effort, patience and emotional vulnerability for both members.</span></div> </blockquote> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> Sex may feel like a dark cloud hovering over your bed, but once you start understanding the elements that have contributed to it, you may find that it’s an opportunity to really bond with each other, rather than be the percieved cause of disconnection. You may also uncover each other’s perception of sex altogether which can be very helpful when identifying each other’s needs and overall differences that have been fueling the disconnection.</div> <div style="background-color: #eae7e2; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Muli, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> Bottom line, “sex” changes as the relationship changes and it’s important to realize that sex in relationships may have underlying meanings to each person that aren’t easy to address. Best practice is to remember that if sex in your relationship is creating anxiety and frustration, there is a good chance that both partners aren’t feeling secure in their relationship.</div>

Is Sex Causing Anxiety In Your Relationship?

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The Impact Of Words On Your Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-QeJj3TbxtY6L6Ny4nAa2iLA3rqMihk7Ua5qpKXWnc4dnyvkYMb0aolAZNRpSxDK9Oert8ffxjbMqh7ZvZPHGR-kS0mZsOVaTnowmt1e-8QE-A4Rclnd-a9z7v8ohSw09Me2wbDnjY8U/s1600/coupledating.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-QeJj3TbxtY6L6Ny4nAa2iLA3rqMihk7Ua5qpKXWnc4dnyvkYMb0aolAZNRpSxDK9Oert8ffxjbMqh7ZvZPHGR-kS0mZsOVaTnowmt1e-8QE-A4Rclnd-a9z7v8ohSw09Me2wbDnjY8U/s1600/coupledating.jpeg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Words can build and words can break. Over the years man has come to know the importance of words and the effects it can create in the lives of individuals. In every one’s life, one can attribute the level of success or failure that one has seen to the kind of words that he/she has received in the cause of his/her life. Whether the word spurred him on to do things that brought him to a point of success or whether the words contributed to the failure that he has experienced. That’s to show you the power of words and the effects it can have on someone’s live.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> I have seen people because they constantly heard that they will never be anything in life grew up to believe and accept the fact that they will never achieve great success in their lives, so they have come to a point in their life where they see anything that happens to them as a natural cause of his destiny, that is to show you once again what words can do to a man’s life.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> In this same way, the words that you use constantly in your relationship will either build your relationship or break your relationship. Very few people know about this, that’s why they seem not to know what the cause of the break ups they constantly have in their love life. If you want your relationship to grow and flourish, you need to make sure that you say words that build each other in every way possible. Just a simple word that you think wouldn’t mean anything can ruin the relationship you have been building for a long time. So you need to make sure that the words that normally come out of your mouth to your partner are words that will build the person and not words that will literally kill the person.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> There are people that their tongue is a time bomb in disguise, they say anything that comes to mind without a second thought, and they wonder why they never get to last long in any relationship they get into.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Use Words to Show That You Care</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Like most couples say in a relationship, ‘My boyfriend knows that I love him, I don’t have to tell him, he already knows that’ or my girlfriend knows that I love her, I don’t have to tell her, she already knows that’. It doesn’t matter if they know that you love them, you have to learn how to express it in your words, and you have to do it often. When you tell your spouse or your partner that you love them you create in them a sense of certainty that your love for them is unending, and they are confident that their relationship with you will only make them happy. There are people who will say that, ‘My boyfriend tells me that he loves me but he never shows that he loves me. I know that might make you feel bad, but the more he tells you that he loves, the more he starts having the consciousness that he has to start doing things that will prove that he loves you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Saying words that shows that you care about your partner will strengthen the bond that you have with your partner. Words that will make them happy, words that will make them feel loved, words that will build them up emotionally and not words that will rather tear them down.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Use Words That Build</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Few years ago, I had a small get together party in my house where my friends came over to have a nice time. It was a party for my friends and family that I usually have once in a year, this is where we come together to talk about how the year has been and the things that we are expecting to achieve the coming year and what we want to have in the coming year.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> During one of these parties, a friend of my came with his son and while the party was going on, the little boy who was about 8 years of age was somewhere in the corner of the house unhappy and sad, nobody noticed him and no one paid attention to him, but my mum, being an elderly woman noticed him and went straight up to him and asked him quietly what the kasus was, and the young man told my mum that he was constantly ridiculed that he has the nose of a monkey.<br />Because of that single comment, he has been unhappy for weeks now and unable to perform at his highest level. My mum told him that he has the best nose in the world and that he should be proud of it, after hearing that, his mood was changed and he came out dancing and eating everything that he could lay his hands on. Few days later his dad called to ask me what happened, that his son has changed since they came to my house for that party, that his always happy now and always looking alive and he has also improved in his academic pursuit.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Just few days ago, I saw this little boy, but now he is no longer a little boy, he is now grown and mature, and he told me, that single word that my mum told him years back then has made his life what is it now, and with what I saw, I was happy because he is doing very well.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> So it is also in relationships too, you should constantly say words that will empower your partner, words that will build and lift their spirits. Words like ‘You are the best thing that has ever happened to me’, ‘you are the best in the world’, ‘you are beautiful or you are handsome’, and so forth. Saying these different words will empower your partner positively and that will make your relationship stronger.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Have Word Sessions</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Find a time during your week or days when you just say nice words to each other, even though if it is for just 10 minutes, make out the time to do this and you will be amazed at what this singular act will do to your relationship.<br />I always have word sessions with my partner; we make out time every week where we tell each other the good things that we know and feel about each other. These word sessions that I have with my partner lasts from 30-60 minutes and the results that we get from these word sessions never ceases to amaze me and my partner. Even when we are having challenges, we never miss this time together, and the miracle it does is that in that challenging moment we find out that we just overcome whatever challenge that we were facing before.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Communication and Words</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You can’t have a solid word session if you don’t communicate very well with your partner. Communication is very vital in any relationship and if that aspect of a relationship is missing, then no matter what you do, it never workout. If you to know the good qualities of your partner, you ought to know many things about your partner and that can only happen if you have regular communication with your partner. Have quality communication with your partner so that you will have what to say during your word sessions.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Take it Back</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Now that you are trying as much as possible to make sure that you use only the right words in your relationship, there will be times that you might utter words that are not right for your relationship. At that moment, you should immediately apologize for every negative word that you uttered to your spouse.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You can say ‘I am sorry for using that word, I know I shouldn’t use it and I have realized that it will not build our relationship and I promise not to use it again’. Saying something like that will awaken you to the fact that you should be careful of the words that you use.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you don’t know or think that words have a big role to play in your relationship, then you have to know that from now and start working towards making every word that comes out of your mouth “ear worthy”, that means every word that should come out of your mouth should be words that will take your relationship to a higher level.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> I really appreciate for the time you spent to read this article, and I believe that it will help you build the kind of relationship that you desire to have. Thank you and keep saying the right words always.</div> </div>

The Impact Of Words On Your Relationship

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75 Love & Relationship Quotes That Will Change Your Life

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img src="http://sophisticatedignorance.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/black-happy-couple.jpg" /></div> <br /> <ol style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.799999237060547px; margin: 0px 0px 15px 40px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">In life you’ll realize there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.  If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off.  It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.  </li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling.  And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Choose your relationships wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean<span id="more-483" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"></span>you are alone.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life.  Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Some relationships are like glass.  It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Just because one person doesn’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">It is okay to be angry.  It is never okay to be cruel.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Silence is often the loudest cry.  Pay attention to those you care about.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">We don’t always need advice.  Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down.  Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Don’t expect others to read your mind, and don’t play games with their heads and hearts.  Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out.  Half-truths are no better than lies.  And don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Lies help no one in the long run.  So… 1) Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it. 2) Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue. 3) Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not. 4) Be honest with yourself and your loved ones.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you.  </li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Falling in love is not a choice.  To stay in love is.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Love doesn’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority.  Loyalty is everything.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own.  Don’t waste your time on jealousy.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Do not become possessive.  The purpose of a relationship is to complement each other, grow together, and achieve your common goals as a couple.  At the same time, you must each maintain your individual identity as a human being.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t ever change just to impress someone.  Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used.  Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">You don’t really need someone to complete you.  You only need someone to accept you completely.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.  Let it go.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends will.  Stay in touch.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never waste a moment, it may be the last with someone you love.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If you love someone, tell them.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never stop doing little things for others.  Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">A real person is not perfect, and a perfect person is not real.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">To the world, you might be just one person.  But to one person, you might be the world.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">No relationship is a waste of time.  The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The first to apologize is the bravest.  The first to forgive is the strongest.  The first to move forward is the happiest.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If a friend is in trouble, don’t bother them by asking if there is anything you can do.  Think of something appropriate and do it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right.  We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Be the friend that you want to have.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family.  Both sets of people are priceless.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t try to be everything to everyone.  Be everything to someone.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Let us remember that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We can’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave and be with someone else.  This is what love is all about. However, the end of love is not the end of life.  It should be the beginning of understanding that love leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When things fall apart, consider the possibility that life knocked it down on purpose.  Not to bully you, or to punish you, but to prompt you to build something that better suits your personality and your purpose.  Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together.  </li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Everyone wants a perfect ending.  But over the years I’ve learned that some of the best poems don’t rhyme, and many great stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, or end.  Life is about not knowing, embracing change, and taking a moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection.  Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart.  So stay in touch with those who truly matter to you.  Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never neglect the people who are most important to you simply because you think they will always be there.  Because one morning you might wake up and realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive.  Don’t waste it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.</li> </ol> </div>

75 Love & Relationship Quotes That Will Change Your Life

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Ten Ways To Create A Strong, Intimate Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><img src="http://cdn.tinybuddha.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Love1.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></strong></div> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Here are 10 ways to create true intimacy, find pure love, and be truly happy in your relationship:</strong></div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. Use relationships to teach you how to be whole within.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Relationships aren’t about having another person complete you, but coming to the relationship whole and sharing your life interdependently. By letting go of the romantic ideal of merging and becoming “one,” you learn as Rainer Maria Rilke says, to love the distances in relationship as much as the togetherness<em style="box-sizing: border-box;">.</em></div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. See your partner for who he or she really is.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> The romantic tragedy occurs when you view the person you are in love with as a symbol of what they have come to represent, the<em style="box-sizing: border-box;"> idea</em> of them. When you realize that more often than not you don’t really know your partner, you begin to discover who they are and how they change and evolve.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. Be willing to learn from each other.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> The key is to see the other as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. Get comfortable being alone.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> In order to accept that love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5. Look closely at why a fight may begin.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Some couples create separateness by fighting and then making up over and over again. This allows you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy. If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6. Own who you are.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> We generally grasp at<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"> </strong>romantic love because we’re yearning for something that is out of reach, something in another person that we don’t think we possess in ourselves. Unfortunately, when we finally get love, we discover that we didn’t get what we were looking for.</div> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> True love only exists by loving yourself first. You can only get from another person what you’re willing to give yourself.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">7. Embrace ordinariness</strong>.</h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> After the fairy-dust start of a relationship ends, we discover ordinariness, and we often do everything we can to avoid it. The trick is to see that ordinariness can become the real “juice” of intimacy. The day-to-day loveliness of sharing life with a partner can, and does, become extraordinary.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">8. Expand your heart.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> One thing that unites us is that we all long to be happy. This happiness usually includes the desire to be close to someone in a loving way. To create real intimacy, get in touch with the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you.</div> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> It’s easier to recognize the good in your partner when you’re connected to the good in yourself.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">9. Focus on giving love.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Genuine happiness is not about feeling good about ourselves because other people love us; it’s more about how well we have loved ourselves and others. The unintentional outcome of loving others more deeply is that <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">we</em> are loved more deeply.</div> <h4 style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Bitter; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin: 1em 0px 0.8em;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">10. Let go of expectations.</strong></h4> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> You may look to things such as romance and constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will immediately cause suffering. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways to avoid giving that love to yourself, you will put your sense of security in someone else.</div> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Draw upon your own inner-resources to offer love, attention, and nurturance to yourself when you need it. Then you can let love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it needs to look like.</div> <div style="background-color: #fcfcfc; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.11680030822754px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> These are only a few ways to explore real intimacy.</div> </div>

Ten Ways To Create A Strong, Intimate Relationship

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Six Reasons Why Trust Is More Important Than Love

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> <img alt=" Most people believe that love can conquer all Six reasons why trust is more important than love" src="https://i1.wp.com/www.relrules.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/shutterstock_189202697.jpg?fit=1000,541" /></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> Most people believe that love can conquer all, and that the only thing you need in order to make your relationship successful is just pure and honest love. I would beg to differ! After 21 years of living and two long relationships, one thing I’m completely sure of is the fact that trust is the most essential component of a successful relationship. In its absence, you can end up feeling constantly worried and hurt.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> If you don’t completely trust your partner, you end up wasting all your time worrying about where your partner is, who they’re with, and what they’re doing, and ultimately end up feeling psychotic. I’m pretty sure that’s not the kind of relationship you would ever sign up for.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> Here are 6 reasons why trust is always more important than love:</div> <ol style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin: 0px 0px 26px 24px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: inherit; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> You can only love a person truly if you trust them</h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> Love is always built on trust and not the other way around. Being rational human beings, we tend to love the people we already trust. And if we enter a relationship without building its base around trust, it is bound to fail as soon as the hard times come.</div> <ol start="2" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin: 0px 0px 26px 24px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: inherit; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> Trust is used to control our emotions</h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> We are all emotional beings. In most situations, we tend to place more emphasis on the means rather than the selesai end. We tend to engage in relationships that are meaningful, relationships that we can truly value.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> And how do we decide in the start if a relationship will prove to be that way? We use trust! We use it to gauge the kind of relationship we have with others. And we use it to decide exactly how much of our own self we should give to others.</div> <ol start="3" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin: 0px 0px 26px 24px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: inherit; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> Trust is the building block of all relationships</h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> Once we truly trust a person, once we find the comfort to open ourselves to them and to share all the deepest, darkest thoughts in our minds, that is the moment when a relationship truly becomes unbreakable.</div> <ol start="4" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin: 0px 0px 26px 24px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: inherit; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> Love can cloud your judgments but trust illuminates them</h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> We always believe that love can be our one true savior in times of need. But the truth is, we’re usually too blinded by love to actually make sane judgments. We get too involved in trying to gain the acceptance, approval, and admiration of those we love. And we fail to realize the fact that love is suppressing our ability to reason.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> This is where trust comes in. It helps you get back to the real reasons behind your relationship. It helps you realize whether the person standing in front of you is actually worth the effort. And it helps you distinguish between the people who you’ll have a lifelong connection with and the people who will eventually leave.</div> <ol start="5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin: 0px 0px 26px 24px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: inherit; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> Trust conquers all</h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> We’re all familiar with the phrase ‘Love conquers all’. But the truth is that trust is the one thing that can truly push us to believe that we can and we will conquer all obstacles. It holds everything together when all the things around you seem to be falling apart. It’s the glue that fills every gap and every difference you might have with your partner.</div> <ol start="6" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin: 0px 0px 26px 24px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: inherit; font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> Trust is what makes you love again</h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> When all is said and done, when you feel like life keeps pulling you to the ground, when you get your heart-broken a thousand times over, the only thing that can help you bring back the hope in your life is trust. It enables you to believe in something bigger and better than all the heart breaks. It helps you get yourself back on track in life. And it helps you get the motivation back to find your one true soul mate.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "Open Sans", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 29px; line-height: 1.2069; margin: 1.414em 0px 0.5em; opacity: 1; transition: opacity 0.24s ease-in-out; visibility: visible;"> Talk to me</h2> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: "PT Serif", Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 26px;"> Has your trust ever been broken before? Let me know about it in the comments below!</div> </div>

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10 Signs You’Re Just Forcing Your Relationship To Last

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAQKFn_rYVoECS3f7O__zcojfMHKGdeeWGQQ7n0eBQabprLRlTpgoXZJGej8HJBt4bJlRsg3XYChsF9LqDX8Knn6BxfV_5cz2VTA63-Ay1oRm3NGktgDrmASE0VPBxOJMaMdSABZtdJFU/s1600/African-American-Couple-Arguing-in-Bed-1024x682.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="425" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAQKFn_rYVoECS3f7O__zcojfMHKGdeeWGQQ7n0eBQabprLRlTpgoXZJGej8HJBt4bJlRsg3XYChsF9LqDX8Knn6BxfV_5cz2VTA63-Ay1oRm3NGktgDrmASE0VPBxOJMaMdSABZtdJFU/s640/African-American-Couple-Arguing-in-Bed-1024x682.jpg" width="640" /></a></div> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Relationships are hard to maintain, some work out till the end and some fail no matter how two people work on them. This one is for those of you who think you’re living a lie, those of you who think you’re “dragging the relationship” or are “being dragged with someone”. This is about the harsh realities that all of us have to face at least once in our lives, the harsh realities of the fact that we don’t always get what we want no matter how badly we may want it. If your relationships matches more than three signs, you need to sit and talk about it and see where it goes.</span><br /> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 22px;"></span></span><br /> <h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 10. You fight constantly over measly and petty issues</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> Two people who care about each other and respect each other tend to ignore measly problems and small issues for the love of their partners. They have a lot of patience for their partners and they don’t want them to get into any arguments with them, they try to avoid arguments with everything they have. But when a relationship is dying, people lose their level of patience and they don’t think twice before fighting over the smallest of things.</div> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 9. You don’t think of them before taking big steps anymore</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> When two people are in love with each other, they make sure that their love plays a big part in the important steps of their lives, they make sure that their partners are involved in every big decision they take and every big life plan they make. But when love starts dying, we start thinking for ourselves without keeping our partners in mind because they don’t have the same position in our minds anymore. This leads to a lot of fights and a lot of taunts like “You don’t even think of me anymore”.</div> <h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 8. You consume your time in other things more</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> When two people are in love and are happy with each other, they tend to take out as much time as they can for each other regardless of how busy they are, because love cannot be bothered with busy schedules and no one is busy when it comes to sentiments and feelings. When people start falling out of love, they tend to occupy themselves in other activities more, they tend to do more things that would make them busy and keep them at a distance with their partners. It feels like even the smallest of activities are more important than trying to plan a meetup with your partner.</div> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 7. The future doesn’t matter to you anymore</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> When people are in love, their main motive and goal is to spend a life together; spending a happy life together is the ultimate goal of every relationship. But when love fades away, the future doesn’t really matter anymore because you aren’t as hopeful about it as you once were. So you don’t plan things anymore, you don’t save anymore and you just live life each day as it comes.</div> <h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 6. You find yourself taking interest in other people</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> It’s natural to be charmed by someone even when you’re in a relationship, but it’s a completely different think when can sometimes imagine a life with those people and think of how different things would had been had it been them. This happens because your heart isn’t completely a hundred percent in that relationship anymore and it’s looking for happiness and peace elsewhere.</div> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 5. You start remembering their mistakes</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> People in love tend to let things go for the sake of their relationships. They let go of the fights and forget the arguments and continue working for a better and happier future. But when love fades away, even the smallest of fight is remembered and you may use it against them during another fight. This is a very destructive thing to do because the fights never end and the couple is found stuck within a vicious cycle of fights and heated arguments and they can’t remember the last time they were “just okay” with each other.</div> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 4. You can’t discuss your feelings without having an argument</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> This is a continuation to my last point, when two people start falling out of love, they tend to develop a fear of sentimental discussions. They don’t want to talk about their feelings because every little topic leads to a fight. This is highly destructive because open communication is a vital part of every long-lasting and happy relationship and people can’t be happy with each other without having complete transparency when it comes to letting the feelings out.</div> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 3. “Emotional Silence”</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> People who are truly in love are very emotional and affectionate about each other. Their actions and their words are filled with emotions and affection. But when love falls out of place, the affection starts dying and the emotions start fading away. You think twice before saying anything sweet because you think your feelings aren’t being cherished and you’re just wasting your emotions on someone who’d just ignore them. This leads to a condition I call “Emotional Silence”.</div> <h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 2. You’re not proud of having them anymore</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> When someone asks me about my girlfriend, I very happily and proudly tell them about how happy I am to have her in my life. This is because that’s what love does to you, it gives you a very different feeling of pride because of your partner and the love you share together. You don’t think twice before putting up nice pictures with them and talking about them with family and friends. But when love starts dying, people don’t feel the same pride anymore and they tend to ignore the topic of their relationships. They usually say “it’s complicated” or “we are working on it.”.</div> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> 1. You don’t get scared at the thought of a breakup</h2> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> The thought of a breakup makes me shiver, it has the same effect on people who are madly in love with each other and are in a happy relationship together. If you’re at a stage in your relationship where you just don’t fear a breakup happening, you’re completely damaged in that relationship and it doesn’t really matter to you.</div> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px;"><div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <br /></div> </span></div>

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10 Traits That Matters On How To Be A Good Boyfriend

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; color: #333333; float: left; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; margin-top: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img src="http://www.mjemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/blackcouplediscuss.jpg" style="background-color: transparent; text-align: left;" /></h2> <br /> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin: 0px 0px 0.5em; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Figuring out how to treat your girlfriend with love and respect can be confusing at times. Find out how to be a good boyfriend and be the guy your girlfriend wishes you could be.</h2> <div> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> There are a few things guys need to understand when it comes to knowing how to be a good boyfriend.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> While men and women don’t really think along the same lines in a relationship, it’s rather simple to understand what it takes to keep a relationship happy.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> For most men, intimacy is sexual companionship, while it’s just not the same for women.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> But if you can learn to see the world through the eyes of your girlfriend, you’ll be able to understand what it really takes to be a good boyfriend.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>How to be a good boyfriend</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> One of the easiest ways to be a great boyfriend is to understand your partner and put yourself in your partner’s shoes.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> But for an easier way out, here are ten tips on how to be a good boyfriend that can help you make all the difference in your love life.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#1 Treat her like a lady</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Boyfriends aren’t born great. They become good boyfriends by knowing how to behave with women and the girl they love.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> One of the first steps in getting the admiration of a girl you like is to treat her like a lady.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Learn to be chivalrous and understand what it takes to make her feel special. </div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> It’s easy to play nice until you get the girl, and treat her like you don’t care once the chase is over, but guys who do that will never be able to hold on to a great girl who’s desired by all guys. </div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#2 Respect her as a person</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> You can’t expect your girlfriend to do everything you want or behave the way you expect her to, just because she’s your girlfriend. Remember that she’s just your girlfriend, you don’t own her and shouldn’t expect her to behave like a trained monkey just because she’s likes you or you’re getting some action in bed with her.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, learn to treat your girlfriend with respect and pay attention to her needs. Don’t take her words lightly or ignore her advice just because she’s a ‘girl’. If you truly do love your girlfriend, you would respect her too.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> And if you can’t respect her, it’s obvious it’s not love that’s holding the relationship together.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#3 Remember the special days</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Do you ever forget your birthday? Of course, you don’t. You never forget your birthday because it’s a really special day that comes just once a year, right?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Don’t you think your anniversary is special too, or perhaps your girlfriend’s birthday? It’s really arrogant when a guy forgets a special occasion and then says it’s no big deal. If your own special day can be important, why can’t you understand that women give equal attention to their special days too. Try to make a conscious effort to understand your girlfriend and remember the special days if she’s indeed important to you. </div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#4 Be caring and affectionate</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> For men, what matters is physical intimacy and sex. For women, sex is equally important, but they do appreciate a lot of affection too. Just like sex matters to men, cuddles and affection matter just as much for women. Show your affection by spending time holding hands or sitting down in each other’s arms while having a conversation.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> A warm hug and a few affectionate kisses mean more in love than wild sexual escapades. And it’ll help your relationship last longer too.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#5 Don’t take your girlfriend for granted</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> One of the most important aspects of knowing how to be a good boyfriend is to avoid taking your girlfriend for granted. If she gives you a foot massage or cooks a delicious meal for you over the weekend, just don’t take your girlfriend for granted and expect the same every weekend. In a great relationship, both partners have to understand the efforts of their lover and realize that every simple gesture is a sign of love and affection that should never be taken for granted.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Never ever take your girlfriend for granted or take a special gesture for granted. Instead, always learn to be thankful and appreciative of every single affectionate gesture.</div> <div id="menpost468x60" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; text-align: justify;">#6 Support your girlfriend when she’s in need</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> All of us need a helpful hand when we’re in need. You don’t need to be clingy and become her Man Friday who’s there to answer her every beck and call. But when your girlfriend genuinely asks you for advice or help, be there to help her out.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Your weekend games or your male bonding time may be important to you, but on a rare occasion that your girlfriend asks you for a bit of help, make sure you’re by her side. It’s always reassuring for a girl to know that she can depend on her man for a helpful hand.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#7 Learn to apologize</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Now this isn’t just isolated to boyfriends, but since we’re going over how to be a good boyfriend, we’ll stick to the man’s side of things. It may be egoistically painful to apologize, but sometimes, it’s a generous and yet humble move when a man can apologize to his girlfriend even if he’s not the one who’s wrong.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> In the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get egoistic and have tempers flying on a high, but always remember that a simple apology can end the fight and help both of you communicate better. At times, apologize to your girlfriend even if it’s not your fault for the sake of the relationship.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> P.S. You can always hint to your girlfriend that you’re still right when both of you are having a laugh after a few hours. It’ll help both of you sort your differences without getting blinded by anger or ego.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#8 Listen to her needs</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Communicate and understand her needs and wants. Try to understand your girlfriend’s feelings, and even if she ever does sulk or behave grumpily, try to understand what’s going on in her mind instead of retaliating back in anger. Sometimes, women may find it easier to sit by themselves or throw an angry fit instead of getting straight to the point. It’s one of the differences in the way men and women react to pain or anger.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Instead of getting angry over her behavior, realize that men and women are different in such cases and try to understand her mind without losing your cool. It’ll make her feel better, and you a lot more understanding over time.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#9 Don’t try to dominate her</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Most guys have a tendency to dominate their girlfriends. It may start out subtly in little ways like watching a favorite show or telling the girlfriend to avoid speaking to a few particular friends. But eventually, the urge to control a partner grows to an uncontrollable level, especially after marriage and even more so if the man’s the sole breadwinner.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> This is one of the worst ways of trying to hold a relationship together. Instead of trying to dominate, learn to communicate. You can’t cage a lover or try to manipulate them into becoming what you want them to be. Love is about the attraction between two individuals. If you try to change someone, it’s not love that’s holding both of you together, it’s your insecurity and cowardliness. </div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>#10 Push your girlfriend to be a better person</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, this is as good as it gets. You know your girlfriend better than anybody else, flaws and all. Most guys assume a relationship is all about being happy and in love, and having a great time in bed. But that’s not where love ends.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> Help your girlfriend become a better person and help her overcome her flaws. When both of you try to make each other better individuals by overcoming each other’s flaws, you can achieve more happiness and satisfaction out of life. Learn to positively criticize your girlfriend and help her with her flaws at the same time. By helping her become a better person, she’ll love you and respect you a lot more.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.52em; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong>Always remember that knowing how to be a good boyfriend is easy, as long as you have the patience to look at the world through your girlfriend’s eyes and learn to understand her thoughts and her wants.</strong></div> </div>

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