10 Ways To Really Make Your Woman Happy

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img height="225" src="https://thegrio.files.wordpress.com/2013/09/black-couple-nearlywed.jpg?w=650" style="background-color: transparent;" width="400" /></div> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> </div> <br /> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;">  It finally happened, I finally found someone I can actually be myself with and not be scared to hide the fact. I was madly in love with this girl and I finally proposed, she said yes. We’ve been together for a month and in that month I met some of her friends who were also in relationships (keep in mind, none of these people except for my girlfriend know I’m the founder of Relationship Rules). I noticed a lot of negativity in their relationships and they were majorly caused by the men in the relationships. So I decided to write a piece on this. You know what really makes me happy? Making other people happy. And there’s no better feeling in the world I know of than making the love of my life happy, when the woman of your dreams smiles and laughs because of something you did, that’s genuine and pure happiness that money can’t ever buy. It takes a little effort to get to know the person, to get to know what makes them happy and what makes them super happy! Every now and then, I bring back one of these things to let her know I care, because she has the most beautiful smile in the world. Here are a few pointers to making your lady happy. Let’s begin.<span id="more-108" style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span></div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 10. Don’t get frustrated during shopping</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Women differ from men in a lot of ways, some are more obvious than others. I remember the first time I went shopping with her, I wanted to buy a pair of sneakers and she needed some shoes. I went straight into the Nike store and bought this one very nice pair of Air Jordans I liked. It took me hardly fifteen minutes to get them. When it was her turn to get shoes, we went to six different stores, spend almost 45 minutes in total and she still had no idea what to buy. Did I get frustrated? No. I appreciated the fact that she’s a woman, and no matter how much she loves me it doesn’t change the fact that women usually take longer than men in shopping. She kept asking me to take a seat in every store because she thought I was getting frustrated, I just smiled every time and tried helping her in her selections. Women appreciate small gestures, she still remembers to this day how I never complained when we went shopping for the first time. Understand the fact that they have certain habits that are going to stay that way, don’t try to change them or judge them based on those habits, appreciate the differences and love them even more for the differences. Oh and remember, women can NEVER have too many clothes, seriously.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 9. Women care more than men, accept it</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> I learned this from my mother, her nurturing nature, it was incredible. She always made sure I was happy before her, I was fed before her, I smiled before her. My mother taught me this very important fact about women, that they care a little too much. That helped me be a better boyfriend to my lady. I recently had the flu, and she reminded me of my mother. She took care of me more than I wanted her to. Women are like that, appreciate it as much as you can. Women will take longer to think about sensitive decisions. Women will take everything a little too seriously, women will listen to each and every word you are saying while us men just try running through conversations. I’m not trying to say women are weak, I’m actually saying they’re so much more caring than men. I’m a guy and I find no shame in saying that. It’s not a competition, I care for her as much as I humanly can, but it’s in her nature to be that much more caring for me. When I try thanking her for being so caring, she obviously shuts me up and says “don’t thank me”, but she also smiles a little at the end, because she knows I appreciate her for everything she does to me, and that’s more important than anything.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 8. Every woman is different</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> You need to understand that every woman is different. Don’t trust what you see in movies, don’t follow stereotypes. Some women are completely swoon by romantic gestures, some women like cute little things, some women want a very simple relationship. The thing you need to remember here is to NEVER compare your woman with someone else and say stuff like “why can’t you be more like her?”. Remember that you fell in love with her for who she was, who she still is, and NOT who you want her to be. Some women would love it if they got breakfast it bed, some women want to cook for you rather than you cooking for them. Some women love getting flowers, some women don’t like flowers at all (I’ve had similar experiences). Some women love chocolate, some don’t. Some women love bike rides, some hate leather jackets. Pay attention to what she loves and make sure she gets what she loves rather than being forced to like something she doesn’t want to.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 7. Give her all of your attention</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> This is one of the simplest ones I can name right now but it’s actually funny how easily people skip this part because they assume it’s already happening when in reality it actually isn’t. Women love attention, especially from their significant others. It’s not that difficult, they can actually tell if you’re paying attention or just nodding your heads, just try listening. Listen to what they say, respond with all of your heart and they’ll know you care. Communication is one of the most vital parts of a relationship and you both need to work on it to make it last. It’s easy to lose touch with communication and it’s very difficult to get it back. Women need to know you’re there for them, that you actually listen to them when they have something to say. I know she’s reading this article so I’ll try making it a little subtle, my girlfriend is a little too caring when it comes to me so she always tries to keep me as happy as possible. And she thinks not sharing her problems with me (because she thinks I’m “busy enough with work” already) will keep me happy. So I always ask her if something’s wrong and if she has something to talk about, she hesitates at first but then she eventually opens up because she knows I won’t stop asking until I know what’s bothering her and I want her to know I’m always there for her. She always thanks me later for being so concerned and for giving her all of my attention and time. It’s one of the best feelings when she appreciates me. Pay attention, it’s not that difficult.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 6. Enjoy her presence</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Pick a certain day and make it more special than ever, take her on on a very romantic date, watch a movie with her, try cooking with her (I say try because I myself can’t cook at all, but I still try), watch her favorite TV show with her (no matter how much you really don’t want to), learn to enjoy her company more than usual. It’s very rewarding and it makes a relationship very strong and successful if you want nothing more but to spend just one more second with your significant other. When I drop her home, I always take the long route because I want her to be with me even if it’s for a few more minutes. Once you truly enjoy “hanging out” with her, you’ll know why some people say “I can’t live without her” and THAT’s what true love is.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 5. Show every possible bit of affection</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> This one is going to make some people say “Well, duh!”, yeah I know, I would say that too, but apparently this point needs to be raised too because some people ignore it during the middle of their relationships and then complain later on why their relationships are going downhill. Show as much affection as you can, she’s a woman, she needs to be cared for more than you think. Again, I’m not saying women are weak in any way or men are stronger, I’m saying men need to love their women more, because this habit is slowly fading away. People nowadays take relationships too calmly, they think relationships are temporary and have to end anyway so why put in the extra effort. WRONG! Relationships are solely based on how you treat them, how you groom them, how much effort both of you put in them. So be loving, as loving as you possibly can be, or stay single.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 4. Surprise Her</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> All women love surprises, men need to start surprising them more. She could wake one morning with her husband/boyfriend in the kitchen, cooking her favorite meal, she would never forget the gesture. Do things that they would never expect. Write her a love letter, because people don’t do that anymore, it makes it more unique and it takes a lot more effort to grab a piece of paper and write your feelings on it than just sending a text. Surprises keep the relationship growing, make a habit of giving surprises!</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 3. Go out of your way</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> My girlfriend had a tiring day at college and she was getting ready to go home, so I showed up when she was getting out, picked her up, took her to her favorite restaurant, had a very relaxing lunch with her and gave her a basket of her favorite chocolate, she was smitten! It’s not that difficult to get out of your way every now and then. Make sure they’re comfortable and take care of their needs, they might not ask you to. When I picked her up, I actually got scolded for driving all the way to her college, but being with her makes me happy and knowing that she had a tiring day just made me want to get up and show her a nice and calming day. As always, she kept thanking me afterwards.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 2. Notice the little things</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> One time, I was very tired and had to take an hour long nap before a Skype meeting. So I asked her to wake me up. She woke me up in exactly one hour like I asked. When I looked at my phone, I was surprised and shocked and I had a big fat smile on my face. Right after I slept, she kept sending me very sweet text messages after every five minutes until I woke up. One of them was, “I love you and I know how hard you work and I support you with all of my life and love, wake up smiling please”. Right after I read them, I called her and told her how much I love and appreciate all of these little things she does for me. Women are very good with simple and deep gestures of love that most men just ignore, don’t be one of those men!</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 1. Compliments!</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Your woman wants nothing more from you than complete appreciation. Women are more insecure than men, because men have a habit of making them feel that way. Always tell her she looks beautiful, always compliment her on her dress even if you’ve seen it on her a hundred times. I’m the sort of guy who doesn’t really like makeup and all that, so I always tell her to be natural because I love her that way. When we started going out, she thought I was only being nice, but she slowly understood that I actually meant it. Women are beautiful, in every way of the word. Look at your wife/girlfriend and tell her you love her more than anything, tell her she’s beautiful, tell her she’s amazing, tell her she’s perfect in her own way. Be the best man you can be! That wraps it up for this one, hope you guys learned from it. Some men might find this article “weak”, some men might tell me to “grow some balls and man up”, some men might think this article was written by a woman, I don’t really care about those men because they’re not men enough to take care of their women. My lady loves me because she knows the lengths I’m willing to go for her, it’s not emasculating to love. Stay blessed and spread the love!</div> </div>

10 Ways To Really Make Your Woman Happy

 It finally happened, I finally found someone I can actually be myself with and not be scared to hide the fact. I was madly in love with this girl and I finally proposed, she said yes. We’v…

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How To Keep The Hope Alive, When Dating Gets You Down

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img alt="t get too attached to him because he will leave me anyways How to Keep the Hope Alive, When Dating Gets You Down" src="http://static.eharmony.com/dating-advice/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/dating-positively.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <br /> <br /> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> “I just don’t do well with women. They are like a puzzle I’ll never be able to solve.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> “I shouldn’t get too attached to him because he will leave me anyways. That’s what they always do.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> “She’s nice and we had a great time, but I feel jaded from being burned by other women. There’s no point in asking her out again.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> “I shouldn’t get my hopes up because nothing ever works out. I should just quit before I get rejected.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> These four statements are typical of my single clients who are struggling to form a relationship, male and female alike.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> These thoughts are protective measures your brain takes to attempt to make you feel better about your situation, which may include loneliness, insecurity, dating difficulties, and chronic singlehood. While these thoughts are part of the endless mind chatter that fills your life, they can keep you closed and impede connection due to their self-defeating, negative, emotionally charged, and assumingly permanent nature.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Buying into thoughts and fears may lead you to unconsciously committing that dating will not work. As this becomes your norm and expectation of dating, it creates disengagement, tension, and resentment that seeps into dates. When these thoughts run your dating life and you do not work to reframe them and create a safe distance from them, in some ways, you have given up.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You have given up on the chance that dating could be different, better, and more satisfying in the present and future. You have given up on the reality that not everyone will abandon you, betray you, hurt you or reject you.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You might be thinking, “Me, give up? No way, I am constantly utilizing online dating sites, I message anyone who might be my ideal partner and I go on dates. How is this giving up?”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> With a negative mindset or an underlying assumption that each date will go miserably, you naturally go on dates, especially first dates, on guard. While it is appropriate to have healthy boundaries, to resist the need to over-share or over-commit early on and to take your time getting to know your date, the “nothing ever works out for me” perception negatively impacts how you show up and relate to the men and women you meet. Whether you know it or not, you become less likely to let someone new into your life, you are less able to tolerate vulnerability, and less likely to take a chance on love, or even just a second date.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> While it is understandable that you don’t want to get your hopes up after a long stretch of unsuccessful experiences, bringing passion, openness, and excitement to your date are the means to create true connection.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> So, how can you date in a more positive way without letting the past or fear-based thinking bring you down?</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 1.<strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Imagine each date as a clean slate.</strong> It is separate from your thoughts about dating and separate from your past, including bad dates and any negative encounters with previous partners. View each date as a new opportunity to connect with someone who has nothing to do with your past.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 2. <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">When negative thoughts creep in, acknowledge them without attachment and bring yourself back to the moment, reminding yourself to be open to what is happening presently</strong>. Dating works best when you are actually on the date instead of in your head.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 3. <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Be open to a different or new reality</strong>. Your mind says the past equals the present? Take deliberate action not to believe it. Your mind tells you that the current man you are dating is likely cheating on you because you’ve been cheated on before even though there is nothing signaling that he is? Let it go and work with your mind to handle the unknown with an open heart and mind.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 4. <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Understand the difference between getting your hopes up unrealistically and being open and available for connection</strong>. In turn, do not change your dating life and associated decisions to avoid potential pain or rejection. Dating involves taking risks, so if you like her, ask her out; if you want to see her again, let her know; and if you want to kiss him and the moment feels right, go for it.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 5. <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">While you have no control of others, date in a way that works for you</strong>. Focus on making choices that feel right to you, in terms of the pace, how many people you date at one time, etc. When you focus on yourself and what is in your control, you will naturally feel more confident and empowered to handle the bumps along the road to love.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Connect with the part of you who wants a relationship, and bring this energy to your date. To do this, visualize yourself in your ideal relationship with a great partner. You have to put yourself out there — that is what love is.</div> </div>

How To Keep The Hope Alive, When Dating Gets You Down

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10 Relationship Truths Every Woman Needs To Know

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipYl7XE_sEUVrMTD0OZ9Pwn2SyPUwmKglSJxy-QmJo8e8zkgT9FdDTEMyV0Wf0D3jpqd4xFT4jV7TQEBks2dkFXmEsvbrvvDq4QJXihA-6Kxn65QMAuf-7KYe2PZcd8fgLLy8eWOOw1Yk/s1600/secrets.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="353" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipYl7XE_sEUVrMTD0OZ9Pwn2SyPUwmKglSJxy-QmJo8e8zkgT9FdDTEMyV0Wf0D3jpqd4xFT4jV7TQEBks2dkFXmEsvbrvvDq4QJXihA-6Kxn65QMAuf-7KYe2PZcd8fgLLy8eWOOw1Yk/s640/secrets.jpg" width="640" /></a></div> <br /> Living in the society we do, we’re force fed ideas and belief systems. Unconsciously we are molded by everything that goes on around us. Consequently we grow used to them, and fail to see the wrong in them. Some of us lose the ability to see beyond what we’ve always been taught or made to believe. And those of us who dare even think let alone do anything differently face numerous difficulties. It’s virtually impossible for someone to be themselves and to go after what they truly desire.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> When it comes to relationships, we’ve been brought up thinking that only when you’re with someone, you feel complete; otherwise something will always be missing. And that being in love creates dependency and so on. Women particularly tend to get carried away with these ideas and set unrealistic expectations of their relationships.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> They need to understand that relationships play out very differently in real life than fiction. And it’s absolutely normal to think and feel against the norms set forth. You can shape your relationships along with your partner the way you see fit.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> A few realities about relationships that women should know are as follows:</div> <ol style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">The only person capable of saving you is YOU!</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Unlike the movies, there isn’t going to be a knight in shining armor to save you from your <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">demons.</em> You are your own savior. You can’t depend on anyone, including him, to catch you every time you fall. Just like you’d like for him to be capable of taking care of himself, he’d prefer the same from you. If saving you is all he ever does, the relationship won’t be fulfilling for either of you. So may be lay off the whole damsel in distress bit and learn to take care of yourself. He can only be there for you when you need him, but you alone are responsible for your life and happiness.</div> <ol start="2" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">You cannot be anyone else’s saviour</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> If you’re responsible for yourself, so are they. There’s only so much you can do for someone. This doesn’t mean that you should abandon them in times of need. Be the unwavering support they need. But remember, it’s up to them to help themselves. The urge to keep them safe from everything comes naturally, but you need to realise that they need to take care of things themselves. And it is essential for everyone to face the difficult times to grow as a person.</div> <ol start="3" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571434020996px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">Recognise the difference between being supportive and agreeing</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Just because he doesn’t agree with you on something does not mean he wouldn’t support you. You might not be on the same page with him, but it shouldn’t keep you from being there for him when he needs you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> For instance, you might think that a certain career path isn’t the best choice, but if it’s something they’d love to do, you should do your part in helping them get there. Similarly, if there’s something you want and he’s not particularly a fan of, he’d still be on board with it just for your sake.</div> <ol start="4" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571434020996px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">You don’t need to play caretaker just to show them support</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> The only way to love someone wholeheartedly is to love yourself first. There is nothing wrong with placing your needs above everyone else’s. Unless you feel content, you won’t be able to make anyone else feel the same. Sure you should be there when they need you, but that does not mean enabling them in anyway. It’s crucial for everyone as an individual to take care of themselves on their own. And don’t expect them to be constantly fulfilling all your needs either.</div> <ol start="5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571434020996px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">First impressions matter</span></h2> </li> </ol> <blockquote style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(221, 221, 221); border-bottom-style: solid; border-top-color: rgb(221, 221, 221); border-top-style: solid; border-width: 1px 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #444444; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17.5px; margin: 0px 0px 16px; padding: 10px 10px 14px;"> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1.6 !important; padding: 0px !important;"> <span style="color: #353535; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">Pay close attention to what they say and more importantly to how they act. Don’t fool yourself into believing that they might change somewhere along the way. If you can’t accept them the way they are then you’re only setting yourself up for regret. If there’s something that you find unacceptable about them, and you keep up with it initially hoping for it to go away, you won’t like the result.</span></div> </blockquote> <ol start="6" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571434020996px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Learn to accept things and people the way they are</span></h2> </li> </ol> <span style="background-color: white; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">Be very clear on what you want and if you choose to be with a certain someone, who wants different things, come to terms with it. This is the only way you’re going to have a viable relationship. Don’t suppress your needs/wants and don’t make your significant other do that either. Accept them as they are, and you’ll be at peace with your relationship.</span><br /> <ol start="7" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Face the difficulties instead of running away from them</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> No matter how difficult, terrifying or hopeless a situation may be, running away is never an option. If you’re out the door at the very sign of trouble, you probably need to reconsider your idea of a relationship. You’ll face problems regardless of who ever you’re with and whatever you do. So bring yourself to deal with them. In relationships, it serves to be a cornerstone, and if done right, strengthens the foundation.</div> <ol start="8" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">You are equally responsible for the condition of your relationship</span></h2> </li> </ol> <span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Whenever something goes wrong, we tend to blame the next person. It’s the easier thing to do. In doing so, we fail to acknowledge our shortcomings. There is a pretty good chance that if you’re not particularly happy with your relationship, it could be because you are either doing something wrong or maybe not doing anything at all. The way your relationship turns out depends on you as much as it does on them.</span><br /> <ol start="9" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Your soul mate might not necessarily be your partner</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Contrary to popular belief, your partner and your soul mate <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">can be </em>two entirely different people. So even if you find that sort of connection with someone other than your partner, it does not mean that your relationship is any less meaningful. Your feelings don’t go away just like that. Some of might also discover that our partner is our soul mate. There is nothing wrong with either of the situations.</div> <ol start="10" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Some relationships inevitably end</span></h2> </li> </ol> <span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Whenever you meet someone that you decide to be with, you naturally want them to be</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;"> </span><em style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">the one.</em><span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;"> </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Where it could happen, there’s always a chance that it couldn’t. Life has its uncertainties. In some cases, you both might not be on the same page, or you drift apart while in others, even if you two want to ne together, things just don’t work out. That does not have to be the end of the world, you still have yourself. Love yourself and whoever is meant to stay, will stay. Some things are beyond your control and there’s no point in stressing over them.</span> </div>

10 Relationship Truths Every Woman Needs To Know

Living in the society we do, we’re force fed ideas and belief systems. Unconsciously we are molded by everything that goes on around us. Consequently we grow used to them, and fail to see the wro…

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7 Signs They’Re Cheating On You

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; padding: 0px;"> <img alt=" let alone process the bitter truth that your partner is cheating on you 7 signs they’re cheating on you" height="355" src="http://cdn.relrules.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/cheatingonyou.jpg" width="640" /></div> <br /> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">It’s difficult to accept, let alone process the bitter truth that your partner is cheating on you. Because you don’t expect them to hurt you in any imaginable way, it seems surreal when you find out about it. It’s even worse when you confront them and they deny it.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> You know deep down that they’re keeping something from you and the relationship is not what it used to be, but you keep shrugging off that feeling. You keep telling yourself that it’s probably nothing and your mind is playing games with you. Maybe so, but if that feeling persists, you should do something about it.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> There’s a good chance that your partner is cheating on you if you start noticing the following signs:</div> <ol style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">They feel like you’re interrogating them</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Even if it’s something as simple as asking them about their day, they get irritated and try to make you feel bad for your harmless inquiry. You may think that they’re in a mood, but can someone be irritable all the time? I don’t think so. If they’re unable to answer innocent questions, it’s a pretty clear sign that they are in fact hiding something from you. And it would be your biggest mistake to ignore it.</div> <ol start="2" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">They dodge your calls when they’re out</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Lately, they fail to find time to answer your calls or get back to you. The reason usually is work or friends or family. And if they don’t call you back, it’s because they conveniently forgot to do so. No one would fail to notice the change. The person, who was once comfortable talking to you around their friends and family, suddenly doesn’t feel the same way anymore. Maybe it’s time you get them to see you and talk about it.</div> <ol start="3" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">They avoid seeing you</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Well if anything, this definitely should be a wakeup call. Yes, people get busy, too busy at times, but if they can find time for everyone else but you, it’s pretty obvious that something’s off about the situation. That friend who they’re supposedly always meeting, maybe it’s time you knew a little more about the friend.</div> <ol start="4" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">They NEVER show/let you use their phone</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> It’s true that no one should have their privacy invaded. Having said that, if they’re absolutely paranoid about you even so much as looking at their phone, then they’re obviously hiding something. And what else would they hide from someone who knows them inside out, the other man/woman of course.</div> <ol start="5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">The constant lying</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> The few times that they’re generous enough to answer your questions, all you get are lies. Be it about what they’ve been doing, or where they’ve been, or who they’ve been with, all you get are lies. You shouldn’t be afraid to confront them about the lies just because it’d hurt them or infuriate them. They’re on the wrong here, and no one should allow themselves to be treated like that.</div> <ol start="6" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">The sudden makeover</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> They’re doing their hair differently, switching wardrobes and working out just because they “feel like doing it”. Even though you’ve been after them for the longest time to join the gym, they do so long after you’ve given up trying. And it’s not even for you. They don’t even care if you notice the change or not. And you know them too well to be sure that they’re not doing it just for the sake of it. There’s definitely someone else in the picture, someone to take your place.</div> <ol start="7" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">The scent on them is not their own alone</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Have they been smelling different lately? You’d obviously know if they were trying a new scent, but that’s not the case. Additionally, you know that it’s something that the opposite gender would be wearing, and that it’s not yours. The last option left is the worst; they’ve been with someone else. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Maybe you fail to notice these signs in them even when they’re present. You feel bad for doubting their loyalty to you. Trust your instinct. If it is persistent on telling you that your partner might be cheating you then it may actually be true. Don’t be afraid of confronting them. Don’t be scared of hurting their feelings, they’re to blame and you’re the one who’s actually been wronged. You shouldn’t allow yourself to be treated like that. Just don’t ignore these signs, when you see them, and then do something about it.</span></div> </div>

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Ten Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img alt="t expect someone to just hand it over to you Ten ways to build trust in a relationship" height="221" src="http://cdn.relrules.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/buildtrust.jpg" width="400" /></div> <br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Love, respect and trust all go together. Even if one of the links is missing, the whole thing falls apart. The thing about trust is that; it needs to be earned. You can’t expect someone to just hand it over to you. Some of us are very reluctant to place our trust in people, either as a virtue of our personality or past experiences that have driven us to this point. A healthy relationship is built on trust and cannot thrive without it. It is the most satisfying feeling to know that you have someone’s trust. They choose to let you in on things no one else knows of.</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> To know this feeling of content, one must adopt a few conducts such as the following:</div> <ol style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Be open</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Whatever it is that goes on in your life; let your partner know about it. Don’t keep secrets. Even if there is something you can’t tell them presently, but might do so when you’re ready, make sure they know. Withholding something only creates doubts. Doubts lead to trust issues.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Be open about your relationship with your family, friends, co-workers etc. especially when it involves people from the opposite gender. Since jealousy takes the better of us, this is something not to be taken lightly.</div> <ol start="2" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Your words shouldn’t contradict your actions</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> You definitely don’t want to come off as a hypocrite by saying something and then doing the exact opposite of it. Always do what you say.</div> <ol start="3" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Be honest</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Lying doesn’t get you anywhere. You might be able to get away with for a while, but it will eventually catch up to you. But then it might be too late to come clean. You would’ve pushed them to the point where they won’t be able to believe anything you say. At that point, even truth from you would appear to be a lie. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Even when they’re asking for your opinion, say what needs to be said and not what they’d want to hear. If you give them an honest opinion, it’d actually help them. This way they’d always rely on your opinions.</span></div> <ol start="4" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Don’t make promises you can’t keep</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> This is probably something we’ve all done at some point or another. For instance, you make plans and then fail to show up, and in the haste to make it up to them you give them your word to do something which you later realize is unmanageable for you. No matter how much you try to explain it to them, the damage is already done. They might think that you’re lying to them or just making up excuses to avoid seeing you.</div> <ol start="5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Keep their secrets secret</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> There are countless things that we’re only comfortable sharing with our partner. These may include the most intimate details of one’s life. Not only is it indecent to publicize what has been told to you in confidence, you lose your partner’s trust. They start feeling insecure. They might even start feeling suffocated as they might have stuff to tell you, but can’t do so out of fear. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Don’t be judgmental either. This again would keep them from saying/doing what they want to, to avoid being judged.</span></div> <ol start="6" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Maintain the privacy of your relationship</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Whatever happens in your relationship is none of anyone else’s business, and should remain so. If either of you share details that the other person is not on board with, it’s just going create unnecessary problems. The relationship no longer remains as comfortable as it used to be, with the element of insecurity slowly creeping in.</div> <ol start="7" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Trust your partner</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Do for them what you’d like for yourself. Trust them and you can expect them to trust you. Trust doesn’t only have to be in terms of what you’re sharing with each other. It also grows when you trust your partner in their abilities. This helps them gain confidence in themselves and grow as a person. They’d also return you the favour and would create a healthy and supportive relationship.</div> <ol start="8" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Don’t pay heed to what people have to say</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Have faith in your partner to tell you what you need to know so that no matter what you hear from anyone other than them holds no value. This will save you from doubting them. It will also save you from hurting your partner in leading them to believe that you don’t trust them enough.</div> <ol start="9" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Reassurance is the key!</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Never stop making efforts to reassure them about your feelings towards them. This way they’ll never develop doubts, hence no room for insecurities remain, leaving the trust intact.</div> <ol start="10" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Share your vulnerabilities</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Share details about yourself with them in order to gain their trust and they’d also reciprocate. It takes a great deal of courage to share your flaws with someone, and putting yourself in a vulnerable position. This proves to be a huge gesture to gain their trust. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Be patient. Remember that trust can’t be earned over night. Every one of us is trying to look out for ourselves, hence don’t trust easily. It is gained one action at a time. Never say anything that you can’t live up to. Leave room for mistakes. Be accepting of each other, and make sure that both of you can be open with each other. Learn to trust and let go of the little things and you’ll do just fine.</span></div> </div>

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How To Reduce The Pressure Of The First Date

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLH-X9v3WePD73wpP4Iz3rFPw7YxkbsXSm4QJqitW2hEa5N-rVa8vbDc6E0w4_bwmOpBeQsgASuzSs8IA8ZDCn4joNzPWm1sIzfqpCOw87wgcCZ-NxdMgqsURmEC0pGclw0Gzx9BU52Hs/s1600/tip.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLH-X9v3WePD73wpP4Iz3rFPw7YxkbsXSm4QJqitW2hEa5N-rVa8vbDc6E0w4_bwmOpBeQsgASuzSs8IA8ZDCn4joNzPWm1sIzfqpCOw87wgcCZ-NxdMgqsURmEC0pGclw0Gzx9BU52Hs/s400/tip.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <br /></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Whether you’re 25 and fancy free or 65 with grown children, first dates for the majority of people are <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">pressure moments</em>—a situation in which you have something at stake and the outcome is dependent on your performance.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When pressure is your chaperone, you become overly self-conscious, anxious, a poor listener, and abrupt speaker, and poor judgment that causes you to be unlike a “gentleman or lady.” Pressure makes you unattractive — it’s the opposite of your Fairy Godmother. And while performing under pressure does not guarantee love at first meeting, it does increase the chances that there will be a second date. Then, anything is possible. Here are the 4 most common first date pressures and how to reduce them so you can be your best when it matters most.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. The Pressure to Look Good</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Pressure on first dates is created by wanting to be attractive to others and uncertain if you will be. Most try to reduce this pressure by enhancing how they look via their dress or hairstyle. These “attractiveness boosters” help but physical appearance only takes you so far. It’s more effective to reduce first date pressure by <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">switching your focus</em> from how you <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">look</em> to others to how you <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">feel </em>about yourself.  Prior to the date, remember your assets, reaffirm your self worth, and look for fun. You’ll feel more confident and positive and your own experiences will confirm — as do many studies — that people who are positive and confident are attractive to others.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. Date Place Pressure</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Dates, like battles, can be won and lost because of location, and choosing the wrong location can turn a date into a battle. Where to go becomes a pressured decision and decisions made under pressure are usually bad. Reduce <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">right place pressure</em> by remembering that nature guides you to seek an empowering environment so you can flourish. Be considerate of your date, but take more time to think about what type of location allows you to be authentic. A restaurant you can’t afford doesn’t. Even if your date doesn’t choose the meeting place, if you are relaxed and authentic, you will be having fun and most likely he or she will too. Case in point is that most people try to reduce this first date pressure by selecting a place his or her date would like. A hot place might be impressive to your date, but it could also prevent you from having a charming, fun conversation, let alone hearing one. A celebrity chef restaurant might be impressive, but the expensive hidangan makes you jittery, especially when ordering!</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Conversational Pressure</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Conversation is a natural and spontaneous occurrence, but when it comes to a first date, people feel pressured to do it “right.” Topics to discuss or not, what information to share or keep private, often turn into worry. Nobody wants a dating aftermath to be, “I never should have said that. I was boring, and we had nothing to talk about. I was too quiet, and I sounded silly.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Most people reduce conversational pressure by increasing their awareness to what they will say and how they say it and before the date, deciding what they will not disclose, like past relationships, or financial status.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You can reduce conversational pressure by expressing your thoughts and feelings about the topics you discuss in the moment. Thoughts and feelings represent intimate levels of communication—they are your uniqueness and add color to the conversation. Sharing them makes you more interesting to others and knowing their thoughts and feelings make them more interesting to you.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> It’s easy to integrate thoughts and feelings into your first date conversation. Just preference your statements with “I think…I feel.” Instead of giving details of your job, express your thoughts and feelings about your job –your date will learn a lot more about what makes you tick.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Encourage your date to share his thoughts and feelings too and refrain from evaluating them – that would add pressure; rather ask for more of his thoughts and feelings so you make the conversation even more authentic. The goal is to have a first date conversation that helps you feel connected. If you do, you will want a second date. If you don’t, you don’t.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Because it’s a hardwired human need to want a relationship, first dates are important to us. Your most effective way to reduce the pressure is to remember that a first date is not a do or die situation, but an <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">opportunit</em>y to have <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">fun</em> and meet someone that can enhance your life and even if it doesn’t work out, there are always more dates to come. When you date along these lines, you’ll feel less first-date pressure and enjoy yourself when it matters most!</div> </div>

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