Finally Accepting Myself

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-size: large; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhwxtqcjuOEuRzLnkw78IaSXWlxAeWSxt-ZDBQ6vaZ4lVfH6b1FKzuLYdK91Hg66sJWbSIw9JjZxPd5WmXngJ7-T0qPxe3_kqCTzJIGsXFTKMdQMbtDLdieziXZVTo1BisNEcqnhNK9mQ/s1600/how-to-accept-myself-2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" thirteen was the age I started paying money to change how I look Finally Accepting Myself" border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhwxtqcjuOEuRzLnkw78IaSXWlxAeWSxt-ZDBQ6vaZ4lVfH6b1FKzuLYdK91Hg66sJWbSIw9JjZxPd5WmXngJ7-T0qPxe3_kqCTzJIGsXFTKMdQMbtDLdieziXZVTo1BisNEcqnhNK9mQ/s1600/how-to-accept-myself-2.jpg" title="Finally Accepting Myself" width="740" /></a></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I was thirteen when I started dyeing my hair. Thirteen was also the age I started wearing fake tan. I'd already began wearing makeup and using straighteners. So essentially, thirteen was the age I started paying money to change how I look.</span><br /> <a name='more'></a></div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It seems crazy to me when I read that back, that yes, I willingly pay money to businesses and people in order to change the way I naturally am. We all do, whether it's getting a haircut, getting our brows waxed or wearing concealer, we essentially pay out our earnings to change something about ourselves. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">A lot of the time this is a perfectly acceptable thing to do, heck I have no duduk kasus paying a few quid on something to cover up my under eyes or fill in my sparse brows. There's nothing wrong at all in changing little things about our appearance to give us a bit more confidence, or purely because you like the way it looks. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">But not that long ago I realised I was making so many changes about myself that I'd forgotten who the real 'me' was.</span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It was a few months ago when I had just gotten off the phone with my hairdresser to make an appointment to get my roots bleached (because 'God forbid anyone see my natural hair colour' my subconscious would say) that I started to think, 'Why am I paying so much money to change the colour of my hair?' For those of you who haven't endured the painful process of being platinum blonde, you're advised to get your roots re-bleached every six to eight weeks, and it costs roughly £100 each time. </span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If I sat down and worked out how much money I've spent over the years so I could be blonde, brunette or any other colour I've adorned, I'd be pretty shocked at the number. </span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"> then started to think, who am I doing this for? Am I doing it for myself? Am I doing it because subconsciously this is what instagram and pinterest have told me what's 'pretty?' </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I started to ask my myself why? For years why have I essentially paid someone (a heck of a lot of money) to put a load of chemicals on my hair, to change the colour of it so it won't look how it naturally should. What is wrong with me?!</span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">After this 'epiphany' should I call it, I looked down at my patchy fake-tanned hands and thought, I'm basically doing the exact same thing with my skin. I don't even want to think how much money I've racked up on bottles of fake tan and tanning mitts over the years, and the same thought process went through my mind. Why am I spending money to change the colour of my skin?</span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Whenever I put fake tan on I usually feel more comfortable in myself and feel generally better about the way I look. I want to break out of that mould and way of thinking and embrace my pasty white pale skin. I shouldn't feel uncomfortable or unattractive for being very pale. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It was at that point I decided to stop bleaching my hair and let my own natural hair grow out, and to shelve the bottle of fake tan. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It might seem like a very minute detail to care about, but I realised it has taken me so many years to finally accept something about myself.</span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I finally changed the thought process that I need to look different in order to feel good about myself. I don't need to have more tanned skin to look good. I don't need to have bleached hair to be classed as 'beautiful'. I just need to be me.</span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">When I look back on photos from before I was thirteen, I see an incredibly happy person with no cares of how society thinks she should look, no worries about the shade of her skin not being appealing enough, not a thought towards her hair not being dark enough or the right shade of platinum blonde. Just a happy girl who was content in herself, in her image. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I'm glad that I've finally got to a stage in my life where I don't need to reach for the bottle of fake tan before I leave the front door, where I don't need to worry about my roots growing out because hey, I love my natural hair colour. Where I don't need to spend money to change how I naturally am. </span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> </div> <div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It's taken me a long time to start finally accepting these things and it'll take a long time until I'm fully accepting of myself, but I've made a start that's the most important thing.</span></div> </div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> <div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Let me know if you've ever experienced issues with self acceptance or body image, I'd love to know your thoughts on this. Emily x</span><br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">Pin me for later:</span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglHuly9VpwHs8mp0pSU6cVuhOVE1qanz-XmCSFl-wiIM_BezR5PTAouOJoCg2PzI8gyDW7ITo2AWs6jdrNM9IOSpU9VUpDYnj_OWzLTeMSl4LBstVDAJ2_3vIcBULX2qwS2LAG6bqLI_0/s1600/how-to-accept-yourself-love-yourself-how-to-be-happy.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" thirteen was the age I started paying money to change how I look Finally Accepting Myself" border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglHuly9VpwHs8mp0pSU6cVuhOVE1qanz-XmCSFl-wiIM_BezR5PTAouOJoCg2PzI8gyDW7ITo2AWs6jdrNM9IOSpU9VUpDYnj_OWzLTeMSl4LBstVDAJ2_3vIcBULX2qwS2LAG6bqLI_0/s400/how-to-accept-yourself-love-yourself-how-to-be-happy.png" title="Finally Accepting Myself" width="266" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></div> </div> </div> <!-- Go to www.addthis.com/dashboard to customize your tools -->

Finally Accepting Myself

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I Don't Know What To Do With My Life

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWu9fQfWk2VGw54egplJrl594ngOjHrN2k8gjJzyGJwKp6ze3KpUDzO2_qJKthC_d1HB89fkPqSYOFs_7O5Vxp2tTW-JXpNMLCvTNd_3Aa7E3LdHLkUb4k77eW5OLJraBOKb0gapH5JAI/s1600/what-should-I-do-with-my-life-now.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="A lot of people find themselves in a place where they think I Don't Know What to Do With My Life" border="0" height="358" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWu9fQfWk2VGw54egplJrl594ngOjHrN2k8gjJzyGJwKp6ze3KpUDzO2_qJKthC_d1HB89fkPqSYOFs_7O5Vxp2tTW-JXpNMLCvTNd_3Aa7E3LdHLkUb4k77eW5OLJraBOKb0gapH5JAI/s1600/what-should-I-do-with-my-life-now.jpg" title="I Don't Know What to Do With My Life" width="800" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;">A lot of people find themselves in a place where they think 'I don't know what to do with my life.' Now, that isn't necessarily true. What we mean by not knowing what to do with our lives is that we have so many options to choose from, but we just don't know which is the right one to choose.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I've been in a position recently where I've found myself saying, more often than I'd like, that I don't know what I should do with my life. Although, the reality is that I have a few different career/life options in mind and I just don't have a frickin clue which one to pick.</span><br /> <a name='more'></a></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm not going to lie, sometimes I stay awake for hours at night thinking about which road is the right one to take (this suddenly seems like a Miley Cyrus circa 2009 song) which can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, which can then lead to everything being too much to handle and completely shutting down, then back to square one.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It's so easy to get filled with doubt and think, 'what if that doesn't work out', 'what if I end up hating that,' or 'I'll be in so much debt if I do that, I don't know if it's worth it.' </span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">We get caught up in this idea that everyone has to have life figured out by a certain age and if we're still at stage one when someone else is at stage 5, then we're failing. Truth is, that's completely false. I'm sure you've heard of the term, 'Don't compare your hustle to their highlight reel.' Even if you're still in your hustle and others around you have reached their highlight reel, don't compare it. Keep hustling.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I don't feel completely qualified to tell you exactly what to do with your life, seeing as I haven't quite figured that out myself, but what I can give you is advice on how to get there. The best way I've found is to try as many things as possible. Say you have 10 things in mind that you could possibly see yourself doing in the future, go out and try those things on a small scale first. This could be work experience, volunteering, self employment, a hobby or anything that gives you a feel for it.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh81-lmXmt4dYonLCYxXFrH4aRD2CaVeLGPHszOSZVJvshc_-7ueasYJnprHiPdm17X6g-9mMsv8wn-TtS02l5Pm19oCeLw4YOo981O-GND7aGe8iOZURGUAzrv6wDZ4n4N6gMQniZhxSA/s1600/i-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-life.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="A lot of people find themselves in a place where they think I Don't Know What to Do With My Life" border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh81-lmXmt4dYonLCYxXFrH4aRD2CaVeLGPHszOSZVJvshc_-7ueasYJnprHiPdm17X6g-9mMsv8wn-TtS02l5Pm19oCeLw4YOo981O-GND7aGe8iOZURGUAzrv6wDZ4n4N6gMQniZhxSA/s1600/i-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-life.jpg" title="I Don't Know What to Do With My Life" width="640" /></a></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I've pretty much lost count of the things I've tried my hand at just to grow as a person and narrow down my choices. I've joined acting classes, started martial arts, worked in a shoe shop, been a musician, started a Youtube channel and even a blog (and here we are!)</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Although I didn't continue on with some of those things, they built my confidence and helped me to decide what I enjoyed and what wasn't for me.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm flying to a new city next week to check out a course I'm interested in and get a feel for the place, I have no idea how it'll turn out or if I'll like it but the only way to know is if I try. Another thing I haven't mentioned before is that I'm writing a book! I haven't been given a book deal and I'm not being paid to write it, I'm doing it purely because I enjoy it and hey who knows, maybe I'll try and get it published one day! (Emily from the future if you're reading this, kudos if you're a published author girl!)</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">The point is, is that I'm trying out everything that I can that interests me, to find out where I belong in this crazy world and you should too.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">A lot of people also suggest travelling is a good way to 'find yourself' or discover your purpose in life and although that's not something I've tried myself, I am thinking about travelling to discover new cultures and develop my interests. (Ok I've gone off on a, 'just be free, man', tangent)</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you don't know what the heck to do with your life, don't stress about it, because neither do most people. Try something new, join a class, take up a part time job, start a blog, travel, do anything that can make you grow as a person to find your niche and discover what really makes you happy in life, and once you narrow it down to the one thing that gives you the most fulfilment, go for it!</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX6huKY8h56XhIJIDSX-dqmOP5ySCA8pDids-PtR2JwfB1eArSlAFEPXROsVSdNsA9BteLrVoAkELyI_Ag5M8xPjA40yV-eN6PCT_4N7b8ZeNMsPz6J1wFDPbp8EhVZBq8xNWMwXJUnZI/s1600/belfast-city.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="A lot of people find themselves in a place where they think I Don't Know What to Do With My Life" border="0" height="362" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX6huKY8h56XhIJIDSX-dqmOP5ySCA8pDids-PtR2JwfB1eArSlAFEPXROsVSdNsA9BteLrVoAkELyI_Ag5M8xPjA40yV-eN6PCT_4N7b8ZeNMsPz6J1wFDPbp8EhVZBq8xNWMwXJUnZI/s1600/belfast-city.jpg" title="I Don't Know What to Do With My Life" width="640" /></a></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Let me know if you've had any experience or tips on finding your purpose in life. Emily x</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;"> </div> </div> <!-- Go to www.addthis.com/dashboard to customize your tools -->

I Don't Know What To Do With My Life

A lot of people find themselves in a place where they think 'I don't know what to do with my life.' Now, that isn't necessarily true. What we mean by not knowing what to do with our …

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Why I Stopped Giving A F*Ck About What Other People Think

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLp9FbqCsXDrV7QRQmJjIeZf_tcFMrG58-cFslsIdLR-VSarUVSTRks9UkYUNweNp-6PShkT5SwOK9SNJI5XcidhuFmndIg30puZ6kb63rZXBXAvgOx_kV5zoexfZxPccq30TclXeZaoI/s1600/IMG_9418.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"></span></a></div> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfyjHEF_Oj0oDw6UegzEauGAAKMgZu5qbdBywzwAgkdkIoaEOCMoynoHk6o1KO7Jwv-DJ5RimoWj4aCAI4yb5UkmIif_VW8wf0EZxxsJkkC6EQp912mRzSJIb8KE99Bmi0fsNLpwG0lJQ/s1600/why+I+stopped+giving+a+fuck.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Why I stopped caring what other people think Why I Stopped Giving a F*ck About What Other People Think" border="0" data-original-height="845" data-original-width="564" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfyjHEF_Oj0oDw6UegzEauGAAKMgZu5qbdBywzwAgkdkIoaEOCMoynoHk6o1KO7Jwv-DJ5RimoWj4aCAI4yb5UkmIif_VW8wf0EZxxsJkkC6EQp912mRzSJIb8KE99Bmi0fsNLpwG0lJQ/s1600/why+I+stopped+giving+a+fuck.jpg" title="Why I Stopped Giving a F*ck About What Other People Think" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsT88JteJWiqPYyPLdvxHOwloZsX0ggPcr8Q7DQKkRkEAAFx4A51IK9os8shbpnUgfZd5Miu87WNBtxRMHM0r1wkxNyFaI0mwIjPZmm4rgsS5E1sMBkCjVhAHNAoQoVVjsDw5VfExKQAw/s1600/how-to-stop-caring-about-what-others-think.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-size: large;"></span></a></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">The unrequested opinions of others should </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">never</span><span style="font-kerning: none;"> matter to you. Ever. </span></span><br /> <br /></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /> I used to care so much about what people thought of me. Whether it be my makeup, my hair colour, what I was wearing or how fat I thought I was, everyone's opinion mattered  but mine. When I look back to situations where I was so caught up on how strangers perceived me, I just want to shake myself and say, 'Stop giving a f*ck!' I can finally say that I've got to a point in my life where the number of f*cks I give = zero.</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2npamLN"><span style="color: #e06666;">Read: The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving A F*ck</span></a></span><br /> <a name='more'></a></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /> We all do it. We live in a society where we're so concerned with how everyone else sees us and what they think, when really the only approval we need is from ourselves.</span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">You're walking down the street and you're feeling self conscious about your appearance, you feel like everyone is looking at you. Maybe you think your bum looks too big in these jeans, or your hair is a mess or your arms look awful in this top. You think everyone walking past you is noticing the small things that you're worried about. Truth is, they're probably walking past you thinking you're noticing the exact same things about them, and are you? No.</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjyRbEjzu_EdNpbZ_Rx3ZGUesUO36aziT8cvr-tF8jQp0o7eQhrChj0EL04GGWn6qP2bHbafuanrQsW7Y3md84iBgVd6MGV_9RXeFa2on5z6XA7L0SeyPcyoovbSVp55kAZFlBuak16Eg/s1600/how-to-stop-caring-about-what-other-people-think.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-size: large;"><img alt="Why I stopped caring what other people think Why I Stopped Giving a F*ck About What Other People Think" border="0" height="392" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjyRbEjzu_EdNpbZ_Rx3ZGUesUO36aziT8cvr-tF8jQp0o7eQhrChj0EL04GGWn6qP2bHbafuanrQsW7Y3md84iBgVd6MGV_9RXeFa2on5z6XA7L0SeyPcyoovbSVp55kAZFlBuak16Eg/s1600/how-to-stop-caring-about-what-other-people-think.jpg" title="Why I Stopped Giving a F*ck About What Other People Think" width="720" /></span></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"> We get so worried about people judging us that we forget everyone is too busy thinking about themselves to even notice. I became so much more confident in myself when I just stopped caring. Now no one's opinion matters to me but my own. </span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /> I finally realised that I don't exist to please everyone else. I dress in what I feel good in. I do my makeup how I like it. I'm not afraid to go in the opposite direction to where everyone else is going. I do what makes me happy. When it comes to your body, how you look and how you feel, <i>your</i> opinion is the only one that matters. I'm glad I've gotten to this place where I can put my own feelings first but this wasn't always the case.</span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4ymA8CNtpgH8n07nkAdsF7iO_WSS_PX6di-at9MQGefQm_JBtvFZeikaMmJMhUeY2VEw6aeVAmWv0HP9pQ4e3Uiwk-DC6FaMf-sKpyerYvfkSF6T8Byolkd8ISASF2ApQ4FMymsGFbEA/s1600/denim-jacket-style-femme-forever-sunglasses.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-size: large;"><img alt="Why I stopped caring what other people think Why I Stopped Giving a F*ck About What Other People Think" border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4ymA8CNtpgH8n07nkAdsF7iO_WSS_PX6di-at9MQGefQm_JBtvFZeikaMmJMhUeY2VEw6aeVAmWv0HP9pQ4e3Uiwk-DC6FaMf-sKpyerYvfkSF6T8Byolkd8ISASF2ApQ4FMymsGFbEA/s1200/denim-jacket-style-femme-forever-sunglasses.jpg" title="Why I Stopped Giving a F*ck About What Other People Think" width="720" /></span></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: large;">SHOP MY OUTFIT</span></div> </div> <div class="shopthepost-widget" data-widget-id="2664716"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <div class="rs-adblock"> <span style="font-size: large;"><img onerror="this.parentNode.innerHTML='Disable your ad blocking software to view this content.'" src="//assets.rewardstyle.com/production/dc6133f7de9cdeeda389118f9f60e24e37d0216b/images/search/350.gif" style="height: 15px; width: 15px;" /><noscript>JavaScript is currently disabled in this browser. Reactivate it to view this content.</noscript></span></div> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I dyed my hair dark brown when I was thirteen because people made fun of my natural hair colour. If the current me was in this situation I would politely tell those people to piss off, but thirteen year old me wasn't that courageous. I dyed it because I thought I wanted dark brown hair but subconsciously it was because I cared what they thought. I'm currently growing out my natural hair colour because I bloody love it and screw what anyone thinks!</span></span><br /> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"> - If you want to officially stop giving a crap and start living then you need to read <a href="http://amzn.to/2y3ksJK"><span style="color: #e06666;">The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k</span></a> by Sarah Knight. This is a life-changer and will definitely make you think differently about caring so much.</span></span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Not that long ago I couldn't leave the house without a full face of makeup on. In a world filled with perfected Instagram selfies and where 'on fleek' makeup is the norm, I felt that if my makeup wasn't perfect then everyone would notice. 'God forbid that woman thinks my contour isn't blended properly, or what if that guy thinks my brows are too thick?' I realised literally nobody cares, so why should I? I regularly have no-makeup days now and only wear very minimal makeup and I feel so much better in myself.</span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /> People are so quick to judge when they know nothing about a person. If someone judges you who isn't an important person in your life, then their opinion is of absolutely no relevance to you. Don't take it on board and if it does affect you, just realise that you're the open minded one here and they probably judge everyone they meet in their lives, not just you. They should spend less time judging others and more time judging themselves.</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"> Take these pictures of me in this blog post for example. I was standing in a very busy park on a hot day and there were tons of people laying on the grass, chatting and sunbathing. I took quite a few pictures in different poses ('cos you gotta get that lighting girl) and spent time getting the right shot. You'll never guess what happened... nobody said a thing. Nobody came up to me saying, 'Omg, why are you taking pictures?' or, 'You look so stupid doing that.' These are things I would of thought people were thinking about me a few years ago. What really happened? Nobody batted an eyelid and no one even looked my way, and if anyone did say anything behind my back then I couldn't care less because I got some damn good photos out of it.</span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /> There <i>are</i> some days where I feel slightly self-conscious, which is completely human, so I end up caring slightly about how people see me, but I'm able to put those thoughts to the back of my mind and continue being my non-caring self.</span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="font-family: 'microsoft sans serif'; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">It's time we all stop caring what other people think about us and celebrate ourselves for who we are. Don't change yourself for society, don't worry about how other people perceive you. Be yourself and be proud of everything about you. <b>In the most empowering way possible, let's all stop giving a f*ck.</b> Emily x</span></div> </div> </div> <!-- Go to www.addthis.com/dashboard to customize your tools -->

Why I Stopped Giving A F*Ck About What Other People Think

The unrequested opinions of others should never matter to you. Ever.  I used to care so much about what people thought of me. Whether it be my makeup, my hair colour, what I was wearing or…

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I'm Sick Of Social Media

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: large; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk2zFjF63tBkhUxm80mNohTWTxUg2phq0XG5J6SpfoqwRHeMafKJj-tnddxpew25arEMZnv0nmM9RwmGt-WTW2JpmmwKJrG3TUn-lwF3r_swJ9Qx5w6gjLM8mrclJ4YsKQ-Olj0gS5n6o/s1600/WHY+I%2527MSICK+OFSOCIAL+MEDIA.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" Social media can be an absolutely brilliant thing if used correctly but it can also have I'm Sick of Social Media" border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="500" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk2zFjF63tBkhUxm80mNohTWTxUg2phq0XG5J6SpfoqwRHeMafKJj-tnddxpew25arEMZnv0nmM9RwmGt-WTW2JpmmwKJrG3TUn-lwF3r_swJ9Qx5w6gjLM8mrclJ4YsKQ-Olj0gS5n6o/s1600/WHY+I%2527MSICK+OFSOCIAL+MEDIA.jpg" title="I'm Sick of Social Media" width="550" /></a></span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <div style="text-align: center;"> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Work Sans Light'; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Work Sans Light'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">Time for a bit of truth: </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">I'm sick of social media</span><span style="font-kerning: none;">. Social media can be an absolutely brilliant thing if used correctly but it can also have a hugely negative impact on your life and mental health and I've experienced that to the fullest recently. No matter how many times I've tried to disconnect from the internet or avoid my phone, I always find myself scrolling aimlessly through instagram and twitter. <b>Social media has become an addiction</b> to our generation and it's an addiction no one wants to beat. </span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">I wake up. I check my phone, check my emails, check instagram, check twitter, check youtube.<b> </b></span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><b>Repeat.</b></span><span style="font-kerning: none;"> This seems to be the recurring theme every single day and for some reason I can't get out of it. Even if I'm watching a TV show or reading a book, two minutes in I'll be reaching for my phone, without even realising, to do the subconscious mandatory social media scroll. </span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>I'm not someone who gets validation through likes or views,</b> to be honest I couldn't care less how many likes I get, it makes no difference to my life whatsoever. I don't scroll through social media looking to see new followers or more engagement, I think I do it because I'm subconsciously looking for something more interesting than the last thing I read, something to distract me from life for a while. </span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">Loneliness doesn't exist like it used to in our generation. You can be completely alone yet have an abundance of entertainment and people to follow and </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">live your life through theres.</span><span style="font-kerning: none;"> No one sees the danger in this until it's too late. You've spent so long on social media <b>you've missed out on living your own life. </b></span></span><br /> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><br /></b></span></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2nmdeJb"><span style="color: #e06666;">Read: A Mindfulness Guide for the Frazzled </span></a></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">I feel like I have social media drilled into me. Anywhere I go I immediately try and see if I can get a good instagram of myself or the surroundings, as if it's essential to make a perfect portfolio of my life online. I was in a cafe last week and I tried to pick the seat that had the best lighting so I could get a good picture for instagram. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><i>What the hell is wrong with me?!</i></span><span style="font-kerning: none;"><i> </i>How have I gotten to this point where I live my life according to the standards of what's popular on social media. Not to mention the amount of time I spend applying filters in several different apps to make sure the picture blends in with my instagram theme. <b>Life doesn't come with a theme! Who cares!</b> And if I haven't posted in a week and I see my followers go down, it's like a subliminal pressure to please these strangers on the internet who I have no obligations to. It almost feels like I have a group of people that I have to go out of my way to keep happy. </span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Part of me would love to delete all of my social media and disappear from the internet completely. Go off the grid, <u>start living in the world.</u> It's amounted to so much pressure and stress that I find it very hard to enjoy it anymore. I enjoy writing and being creative, it's just a shame that I have to be part of the social media circus that comes along with it. I don't want to completely disappear off the internet because it gives me a voice, it enables me to write about things I care for. I'm still trying to find a way to manage the stressful side of social media so I can still the enjoy to freedom of creating.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">A great way for me to de-stress and relax when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed is <b>to read</b>. Reading really relaxes my mind and takes me away from the pressures of social media. At the minute I'm reading <a href="http://amzn.to/2htbBKk"><span style="color: #e06666;">The Year I Met You</span></a> by Cecelia Ahern, it's a great a book and you should check out some of her other books if you're into reading too.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Social media gives me no fulfilment,</b> if anything it has drained me and had a hugely negative affect on my mental health. I find myself in a negative headspace, more times than what's healthy, due to being attached to this thing that I can't seem to let go of. If I wasn't in the blogging/social media world I definitely wouldn't use any social media apps at all, but it's something that's mandatory in this field of work.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="color: #e06666; font-size: large;"><a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=why-i-quit-my-job"><span style="color: #e06666;">Read: Why I Quit My Job After 2 Months</span></a></span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">I've never finished scrolling through social media and felt happy and inspired, in fact I'm always left feeling down and depressed from it. Yet myself, along with millions of others who are affected by it, can't seem to help it. We know it's bad for us but it constantly reels us back in without realising. <b>It's an addictive cycle</b> and it's one I've come to hate.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">I guess I'm just tired of it all. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">I'm tired of being tired.</span><span style="font-kerning: none;"> I don't have a solution to it yet but I'm working to find a way to use social media more effectively as a work tool rather than in my personal life.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-size: large;">I'd love to know your thoughts on this and if social media has affected you in a similar way.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk2zFjF63tBkhUxm80mNohTWTxUg2phq0XG5J6SpfoqwRHeMafKJj-tnddxpew25arEMZnv0nmM9RwmGt-WTW2JpmmwKJrG3TUn-lwF3r_swJ9Qx5w6gjLM8mrclJ4YsKQ-Olj0gS5n6o/s1600/WHY+I%2527MSICK+OFSOCIAL+MEDIA.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="font-size: large;"><img alt=" Social media can be an absolutely brilliant thing if used correctly but it can also have I'm Sick of Social Media" border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk2zFjF63tBkhUxm80mNohTWTxUg2phq0XG5J6SpfoqwRHeMafKJj-tnddxpew25arEMZnv0nmM9RwmGt-WTW2JpmmwKJrG3TUn-lwF3r_swJ9Qx5w6gjLM8mrclJ4YsKQ-Olj0gS5n6o/s1600/WHY+I%2527MSICK+OFSOCIAL+MEDIA.jpg" title="I'm Sick of Social Media" width="300" /></span></a></div> </div>

I'm Sick Of Social Media

Time for a bit of truth: I'm sick of social media. Social media can be an absolutely brilliant thing if used correctly but it can also have a hugely negative impact on your life and menta…

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Why People Are Afraid Of Change (And How To Be More Accepting Of It)

<div style="text-align: left;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhK4Tmexs7fvfscDdVHZWRG8xm2Jn_q0sUEMMgypLhqwlBDRR5PteWBVJ_kqsg7LTH1hedpXz-cii8K2ml_Cj_I5xw-aJ_Go_Gy4P9qgY1N9f_EZtUq4yQttOAsdYweaeTzTsvl4wG3vaw/s1600/learn-to-accept-change.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="How we deal with change is what defines us Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="735" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhK4Tmexs7fvfscDdVHZWRG8xm2Jn_q0sUEMMgypLhqwlBDRR5PteWBVJ_kqsg7LTH1hedpXz-cii8K2ml_Cj_I5xw-aJ_Go_Gy4P9qgY1N9f_EZtUq4yQttOAsdYweaeTzTsvl4wG3vaw/s1600/learn-to-accept-change.jpg" title="Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" width="600" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Change is good. Change is scary. <u>Change is inevitable.</u> </span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">How we deal with change is what defines us. How we embrace change is what makes us. We can run from change, avoid it all costs, but it always catches up with us and we have no choice but to face it head on. We often avoid change because<b> the outcome is uncertain</b>, <i>it's easier to stick with what we're used to.</i> I'm going to talk a bit about dealing with change in relationships, change in work and life decisions that can lead to huge changes within ourselves.</span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I get scared of new situations, whether it's work or education. When I'm going to be in a place where I'm surrounded by new people, I get anxious. I don't know the outcome, I don't know if I'll get along with anybody or if I'll fit in there, but it's something I have to face. Can you notice a similarity in my thought process? We quickly imagine <b>the worst case scenario</b> when it comes to change. We think up all the possibilities that could go wrong and make it hard for us, but we never really focus on the positives. Instead of thinking that I might meet some amazing people, I might make great friendships and I might experience an amazing change in my life, I immediately fear for the worst.</span><br /> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2DIgoC9"><span style="color: #e06666;">Want to make change in your life? Read 'Change Your Mind: 57 Ways To Unlock Your Creative Self'</span></a></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-size: large; font-weight: normal;"><i>It's ok to be scared of change. It's ok to be afraid of the unknown. It's human to feel that way.</i></span></div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">So many people stay in<b> </b>toxic relationships because they're scared of what will happen when it ends. <b>They've become so dependent </b>on someone who they know is having a negative impact on their life, however, they physically can't leave them because they're scared of how their life will change when the relationship ends. They choose to hold on to something that's bad for them because they don't know how they'll cope with the change of being on their own. </span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><u>I've experienced this myself.</u> </span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I spent years with someone who had a mental hold on me, critiqued my weight and my appearance, had little respect for me. My life outside the relationship wasn't great either but I couldn't make myself leave that person over the fear of not being able to cope on my own, fear of the change that was to come. I thankfully was able to leave the relationship behind and move on with my own life and although the change was difficult, it was something that needed to be done. And even though more negatives than positives came out of that relationship, it changed me as a person and made me so much stronger and<b> I gained the respect for myself </b>to walk away from toxic situations.</span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Leaving a toxic job is also a big decision a lot of people face. Like I mentioned earlier, it can be easier to put up with a negative work environment than to risk leaving your job and actually finding something you enjoy. I used to work so hard at a job that pretty much made me miserable and I'm currently taking steps to change that. The work hours were good, the pay was decent but I was so unhappy and <u>it's only fair to myself<b> </b>if I choose to change that part of my life.</u></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><i>Not quite sure what to do with your life yet? Read <a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q="><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none; -webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(61, 133, 198); color: #3d85c6;">this</span></a></i></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I get scared of the future. I'm comfortable in my life at the moment. I live in a nice house, I have my family close by, I have a dog that I love to pieces. However, I haven't fulfilled everything in my own life yet. I know I'm probably going to have to move away for work opportunities in the future and leave the life I'm used to behind for a while, and that scares me. It would be easier if I chose a smaller life and stay where I am. But life isn't about taking the easy route. It's so important to fight that feeling and push yourself through the anxiety that comes along with change.</span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"></span><br /> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"><i> As humans we're built to adjust to our surroundings, we're built to adapt to changes.</i></span></div> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"> </span> <br /> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"> </span></div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I always say you choose the life you're living. If I'm unhappy in life, it's because of choices I've made and I'm the only one who can change it. <b>The changes I make determine the life I have. </b>So if you're unhappy in life or afraid to make a big change that could lead to much greater happiness, you owe it to yourself to put that change into action and live the life you deserve. You deserve to be happy and you have the power to make that change.</span><br /> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><span style="color: #e06666;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2DGz2tY"><span style="color: #e06666;"><span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: small;">Read </span><span style="color: #e06666;">Change Your Mind: 57 Ways To Unlock Your Creative Self</span></span></a></span></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Have you ever faced a difficult change in your life?</span></div> </div> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: x-small;">Pin it for later</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgttsjRcaKBhvLkikXskPcsRLHRJPMVqrHND5ogCalsHGkh6vL-fkASJg26qXAyMLSkq8tFDNc73x4exhfL3vibX-npaC3Iv0lPtG2ExgoWWv1Z7gDtqla09hAKMeB6xPOYvbZyjf-dJiA/s1600/how-to-deal-with-change.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="How we deal with change is what defines us Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" border="0" data-original-height="1400" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgttsjRcaKBhvLkikXskPcsRLHRJPMVqrHND5ogCalsHGkh6vL-fkASJg26qXAyMLSkq8tFDNc73x4exhfL3vibX-npaC3Iv0lPtG2ExgoWWv1Z7gDtqla09hAKMeB6xPOYvbZyjf-dJiA/s1600/how-to-deal-with-change.png" title="Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" width="220" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 18px; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> </div>

Why People Are Afraid Of Change (And How To Be More Accepting Of It)

Change is good. Change is scary. Change is inevitable.  How we deal with change is what defines us. How we embrace change is what makes us. We can run from change, avoid it all c…

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8 Ways To Stay Motivated When You Want To Quit

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Everyone in life has faced a time when they've wanted to quit. However, quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and if you feel like quitting right now, <b>here's why you shouldn't</b>.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">I had a MAJOR wanting to quit moment this week. I started a new course and to be honest, it wasn't at all what I'd hoped for. I did it because there were certain modules I was excited to study but after the first day, I realised it could be a long time before I get to do any of the things I signed up for. I came home that evening with a very heavy head and went into 'wanting to quit' mode.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">I was so convinced that I wanted to quit everything and drop out that very minute. What changed my mind? <b>Time</b>. I asked myself the following questions and really assessed if this was something I wanted to go through with and if it was going to better my life in the long term.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="color: #e06666; font-size: large;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2DCisr7"><span style="color: #e06666;">Read 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne to discover your true meaning in life.</span></a></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">If you feel like you want to quit your job or drop out of university or college, or even quit that diet that you've started, take some time to clear your head and ask yourself these questions:</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">1. Why did I sign up for this in the first place?</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">When you reach a point where you feel like quitting, ask yourself why you wanted to do this in the first place. Were you excited about making this your future? Are you passionate about it? Has it been a big interest in your life so far? Go back to the very beginning of when you first started thinking about whatever it is you're doing right now. When you feel like quitting, just remember why you started.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">2. Am I being too swift to make a decision?</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">It's normal to feel uncertain about new things. You've made a big change in your life and part of you will always want to revert back to what you're used to, your comfort zone. This is when you need to fight through those early stages of doubt and give it a chance. It's hard to make a good judgement on a new situation or environment in the first couple of days or weeks. Give it time and see how your feelings change, you might end up growing to like it.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">3. Think of the end result</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Imagine your life when you complete your goal. You could end up losing that weight, or completing that degree or getting that step up the job ladder or whatever it is you're working towards. Envision your future and what it'll be like if you decide not to quit. </span></span><span style="font-size: large;">If you can see the results in your head it can spur you on to keep working for it.</span><span style="font-size: large;"> If it leads to a better future and greater happiness in life then don't give up.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">4. Who are you doing it for?</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Are you doing this to please others? Are you doing it to fulfil someone else's dreams? The main person you should be doing it for is you. There's no point following a dream if it's not your own. Remember that you're doing this for your future self. If you're not, then you need to reassess your options and follow your true meaning.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Read: <a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=i-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-life" target="_blank"><span style="color: #e06666;">How to discover your true meaning in life</span></a></i></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">5. Surround yourself with motivation</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">There are tons of people who have wanted to quit in life but the successful ones are those who didn't. Even if it's just reading some inspirational quotes or reading a motivational book to change your mind set, surround yourself with positivity and motivation and you'll reignite the drive to succeed within yourself. <a href="http://amzn.to/2DCisr7"><span style="color: #e06666;">A great self help book about the law of attraction and succeeding in life is <span style="color: #e06666;">The Secret</span> by Rhonda Byrne</span></a>. A lot of people have said this book has changed their life so it's definitely worth a read!</span></span><br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Read <a href="http://amzn.to/2xV7zl6" target="_blank"><b><span style="background-color: white; color: #ea9999;">The Secret</span></b></a><span style="color: #a64d79;">:</span></span></span></div> </div> <center> <iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-eu.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=GB&source=ss&ref=as_ss_li_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=heyitsemily-21&marketplace=amazon&region=GB&placement=1847370292&asins=1847370292&linkId=97072436726bb719ea26aa7d99506432&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe></center> <img alt=" ways to stay motivated when you want to quit 8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-uk.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=heyitsemily-21&l=li3&o=2&a=1847370292" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" width="1" /> <br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">6. Find a solution to the reason you want to quit</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Really ask yourself why you want to quit. Is it because you find it boring? Are you too tired from working at it? Do you need a break? Instead of packing it in altogether, find solutions to the problems you're facing. Take a break when you need it, find ways to make it more interesting, talk to someone about it. Once you get to the core reason for wanting to quit, focus on how to make that better.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <br /> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: large;">If you're a blogger and you're feeling a bit overwhelmed with how to get your blog off the ground and running, check out the</span><span style="font-size: large;"> <a href="https://transactions.sendowl.com/stores/7731/45410"><span style="color: #e06666;">Career in the Making Ebook</span></a></span><span style="font-size: large;"> by Krista Aoki, she'll help you get your blog to where you want to be.</span></li> </ul> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">7. Don't let a bad start put you off from finishing the race</span></b></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></b></span> <span style="font-size: large;">You might of had a crappy first day but that doesn't mean you should judge the rest of your time based on that. Things will get better, it takes time to adjust to new environments. It's common to go into fight or flight mode when you're in an unsure situation. Try to fight those feelings of wanting to give up and find the power to keep going.</span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">8. Believe in yourself</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">As cheesy as it sounds, believe in yourself! Look how far you've made it and all you've achieved so far, it'd be such a shame to throw that all away due to some negative feelings. You have the strength to keep working hard and achieving your goals and you<i> will</i> reach that end result.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">It's normal to feel like quitting when things get tough, it's a natural response mechanism. Keep going and fulfil what you started and just remember that it won't be like this forever. Once you reach your end goal you'll thank yourself so much for sticking with it. </span></span><br /> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> Pin it for later:</div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhc4zyhf6Xs-Q4A2zDwiMLb3DsstszxCdQvQqwC70PerCH9_rieAM7Zz-_YiR4NqcJe2qziOKXp3eYpeZYsBWgIME4rGw28xYIc8caG5PEwxQ_Wu-7IMP9bBGYMrdwJ7RwY_K0JxoGGBYg/s1600/how+to+stay+motivated+when+you+want+to+quit+life.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" ways to stay motivated when you want to quit 8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" border="0" data-original-height="1300" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhc4zyhf6Xs-Q4A2zDwiMLb3DsstszxCdQvQqwC70PerCH9_rieAM7Zz-_YiR4NqcJe2qziOKXp3eYpeZYsBWgIME4rGw28xYIc8caG5PEwxQ_Wu-7IMP9bBGYMrdwJ7RwY_K0JxoGGBYg/s1600/how+to+stay+motivated+when+you+want+to+quit+life.png" title="8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" width="225" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">This post contains affiliate links which means I make a small commission through sales but this doesn't cost you anything :)</span></span></div> </div>

8 Ways To Stay Motivated When You Want To Quit

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4 Signs You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It

<div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1J-jRQ95C5IMb3mLxnQaC4S6qSsfLCx3t7Ds-moyy4swNZyyygQRxZAD27SYzgzYOyDB8I7zwMM-tCtRJEjUZN0bDsn6q6YqbDXUMkbkJNJBcyce7dTjZAjhGDqENkTO7Gys23LnyIeQ/s1600/Signs+you+should+stop+wasting+your+time+on+someone.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" signs you should stop wasting time and energy on someone who doesn 4 Signs You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It" border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="735" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1J-jRQ95C5IMb3mLxnQaC4S6qSsfLCx3t7Ds-moyy4swNZyyygQRxZAD27SYzgzYOyDB8I7zwMM-tCtRJEjUZN0bDsn6q6YqbDXUMkbkJNJBcyce7dTjZAjhGDqENkTO7Gys23LnyIeQ/s1600/Signs+you+should+stop+wasting+your+time+on+someone.png" title="4 Signs You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It" width="392" /></a></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">People are flakey. Not all people, but some people you meet in life are hella flakey. Flakey people are those who constantly flake out on you, bail on you, cancel plans and <b>don't give you their time in return for you giving them yours.</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">These people make me mad, but yet I seem to always keep giving them the time of day. Why? Because I value their time more than I should.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I've encountered someone recently who, anytime I try to hang out with, will constantly bail and have an excuse to go home, purely because they can't be bothered spending their time with me or they have 'better' things to be doing. This same person is someone who expects me to help them out with work and get them opportunities, and basically be there for them at the drop of a hat. </span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Should I keep giving this person my time? <b>Hell no. </b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">The kasus is that I'm a bit of a people pleaser, meaning I hate to say no to people and let people down, so I go out of my way for others to make sure they don't feel let down or left out. <u>But why am I doing it for people who don't do the same for me?</u></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 24px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><b>You go the extra mile for them, but they don't do the same for you</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Of course it's great to be nice to people, I try to be courteous to everyone whenever I can, however there comes a point when you need to say distance yourself the people who take advantage of your kindness. If they're not willing to put in their time and effort for you, you need to ask yourself whether it's time to stop going the extra mile for them.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 24px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><b>They're not interested in what you have to say</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It's great to be a listener and give a helping hand, I value myself in this aspect, however, you deserve to be listened to and appreciated too. If you know someone who constantly tells you about their life or problems, but isn't interested in hearing about yours in return, this person isn't valuing your time and you shouldn't waste it on them.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 24px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><b>They need you as a friend, but you don't get anything out of the relationship</b></span><span style="font-kerning: none;"> </span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Relationships are a two way street. If one person is relying on your for their happiness but you aren't getting anything in return, it's time to call it quits, or give them an ultimatum. Your happiness is of the ultimate importance and it should be a 50/50 situation.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 24px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><b>You go out of your way to accommodate them, but they're always busy</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b></b></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you say yes to everything they ask you to do, or you're there for them whenever they need you, but they're never free or always busy when you ask them to hang out or need to talk, this person is definitely not worth wasting your energy on. Your time is of the upmost importance and if they don't respect that the way you do, move on from them.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-size: 18px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be greedy when it comes to giving out your time.</b> Put yourself first for a change and don't settle for people who make you feel unimportant. Even if it means going it alone until you find people who really value you, it'll be worth it for your happiness in the long run. </span></div> <div style="font-size: 18px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><u>Pin it for later:</u></span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 18px; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8O_3HP8zahFZc4sdkpj-LIqLEc8n__HoRw_wVxdJKFIOWde43TtqBcuRQiLODy4pMGTzAaBu8pnocJQcwLw9ACjxCSr8qYAr6tKjhmcb7cQTAHb1SndX_ERCHWIYGjGzMAzyx29wFUes/s1600/Signs+you+should+stop+wasting+your+time+on+someone.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" signs you should stop wasting time and energy on someone who doesn 4 Signs You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It" border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8O_3HP8zahFZc4sdkpj-LIqLEc8n__HoRw_wVxdJKFIOWde43TtqBcuRQiLODy4pMGTzAaBu8pnocJQcwLw9ACjxCSr8qYAr6tKjhmcb7cQTAHb1SndX_ERCHWIYGjGzMAzyx29wFUes/s1600/Signs+you+should+stop+wasting+your+time+on+someone.png" title="4 Signs You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It" width="245" /></a></div> </div> </div>

4 Signs You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It

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Why I Quit My Job After Two Months (And Why It Was The Best Decision Ever)

<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAkmCDzBu9UE9jarPJXsmRkaCji0P1Fd_IcvCRxSnAy0NJBBx1lFfGl-r08WG90bvfamHOJ-x0-mrgqiMFjKDFhUfh13ITopeXBlF8qWafpIrtXHWpfaeayXzuSzGoNnGqYr2nA1aCjp0/s1600/i+quit+my+job.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" I quit my job without another one lined up Why I Quit My Job After Two Months (And Why It Was The Best Decision Ever)" border="0" data-original-height="1350" data-original-width="735" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAkmCDzBu9UE9jarPJXsmRkaCji0P1Fd_IcvCRxSnAy0NJBBx1lFfGl-r08WG90bvfamHOJ-x0-mrgqiMFjKDFhUfh13ITopeXBlF8qWafpIrtXHWpfaeayXzuSzGoNnGqYr2nA1aCjp0/s1600/i+quit+my+job.png" title="Why I Quit My Job After Two Months (And Why It Was The Best Decision Ever)" width="348" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I quit my job last week. Yep, I quit my job without another one lined up. Was that a stupid decision? Financially, maybe. Was it a wise decision? <b>For my mental health, yes.</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Some might call me a '<i>serial job quitter</i>' and by that I mean, I've quit a fair few jobs in my time. Now, I know that's not the best habit to get into, however I've had very good reasons for doing so and I've always landed back on my feet after each one.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">My latest job was in the hospitality sector (I'll not name names because I'd quite like to not get sued) and for anyone who has worked in hospitality, you'll know that <b>you take</b> <b>a lot of crap</b> from costumers. The particular place I worked didn't have an overly rude clientele, but there were some days when I felt like screaming in a corner and went home feeling super down, and that's when the warning signs started to appear.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It wasn't long after I'd started that <u>I found my mental health taking a turn for the worse.</u> I'd come home from a 6:30am shift feeling exhausted, emotionally drained and not wanting to do anything else than close my curtains and crawl up into a ball in bed and never come out again.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I know a lot of people don't love their jobs, but <b>when a job gets to a point where it's affecting your daily life outside of work, you need to make a change.</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm quite an introverted person but I can handle myself well in difficult situations, however with my particular personality type, I've found it hard to find a job that I actually enjoy and can see myself doing in the long run.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none;"><a href="https://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?id=2uAPUx9YPVs&offerid=467035.207&type=3&subid=0" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Start a new career today and get your dream job online with Coursera with over 1600+ courses to choose from.</span></a></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I knew if I stuck to this job (which I was purely staying in for the money at this point, which you should NEVER do) my mental health would deteriorate more and more to a point where I wouldn't be at my best functioning self, and that's a slippery slope to be on.</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div class="mailmunch-forms-widget-616397"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> So after a lot of hard thinking and deliberating on the pros and cons, I decided it was time to hand my notice in and leave the position.<span style="font-kerning: none;"></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I explained to my management exactly how I was feeling and funny enough, <b>they were completely understanding</b>. They acknowledged how important your mental health is and I was really glad that in today's world people in the workplace can be so understanding of the importance of mental health in a working capacity.</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none;"><a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=should-i-follow-my-dreams-or-get-a-real-job"><span style="color: #e06666;">Read: Should you follow your dreams or get a real job?</span></a></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm currently a student and thankfully I'm not a big spender and I have savings to fall back on for the time being, so I didn't leave myself broke, but whether you're a young person, a student, in a full time nine-to-five job, or if you're finding that your job is really affecting your mental health, it may be time to <u>reassess your options</u> and find a more suitable position that will better your life mentally and emotionally.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you're not sure what job you want or what job will make you happy, or if you're looking to take your career in a new direction, <b>why not take some online courses</b> to develop your skills and possibly find a new career that you'll love?</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><u>Here's a list of the best online course platforms</u>:</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>1. </b></span><a href="http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?id=2uAPUx9YPVs&offerid=467035&type=3&subid=0"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none; -webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 238); color: #e06666; font-size: x-large;">Coursera</span></a><span style="font-size: medium;"> - </span><span style="font-size: large;">1600+ online courses from top universities.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>2.</b></span><span style="font-size: x-large;"> <a href="https://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?id=2uAPUx9YPVs&offerid=529351.16&type=3&subid=0" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Future Learn</span></a></span><span style="font-size: medium;"> - </span><span style="font-size: large;">Wide range of courses from leading universities over all topics.</span></span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>3. </b></span><a href="http://www.shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=794475&u=1617561&m=62400" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666; font-size: x-large;">Premier TEFL</span></a><span style="font-size: medium;"> - </span><span style="font-size: large;">Learn to teach English as a foreign language.</span></span></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>4.</b> </span><span style="font-size: x-large;"><a href="http://www.shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=546991&u=1617561&m=50811" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Edureka!</span></a> </span><span style="font-size: medium;">- </span><span style="font-size: large;">Online technology pelatihan and courses.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>5.</b> </span><span style="font-size: x-large;"><a href="http://www.shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=733599&u=1617561&m=59453" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">CreativeLive</span></a> </span><span style="font-size: medium;">- </span><span style="font-size: large;">1500+ online classes in the creative arts sector.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I think life is all about learning and growing and you'll only discover what you like by trying out new things, and if that means starting a new job and leaving after a few months, then so be it! I have no way of knowing if I'll enjoy something until I try it for the first time, so there's no need to feel ashamed or like a failure if you find out that it's not for you.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm confident that I'll find a job that I love someday, because I would never stick at something that made me unhappy purely for the monetary value. </span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Since I've quit my job, I've had a lot more freedom to explore other routes and options. I've started taking an online course in web development and I'm learning a lot more about affiliate marketing by enrolling in the <a href="https://makingsenseofaffiliatemarketing.com/?affcode=57702_ucl0vfrr" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Making Sense Of Affiliate Marketing course</span></a> (if you're interested in having blogging as a career then this is a MUST-have! <a href="https://makingsenseofaffiliatemarketing.com/?affcode=57702_ucl0vfrr" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Check out the course here</span></a>)</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It's my hope to one day potentially be my own boss and make more of a full time income from my blog and who knows, maybe this was the first step in achieving that!</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span> <a href="http://www.bluehost.com/track/wakingupatnoon/" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Want to start your own blog and be your own boss? Sign up with BlueHost and get started blogging for only $3.95 per month!</span></a></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes I'm not sure where exactly I'm going.  Yes, I'm not sure what exactly what job I want in life, but I'm trying new things and that's what's important. I'm not giving up, I'm simply learning and discovering myself.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So let's hear it for the people who quit their jobs because they knew there was something so much better out there for them!</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <div style="font-size: 18px;"> <span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none;"><a href="https://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?id=2uAPUx9YPVs&offerid=467035.207&type=3&subid=0" rel="nofollow"><span style="color: #e06666;">Sign up to Coursera today to learn from over 1600+ online courses and take your career in the right direction!</span></a></span></div> <div style="font-size: 18px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Emily x</span><br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> Pin it for later:</div> </div> <div style="font-size: 18px;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2zsIEJsAWFdNnESW6wu4HWZi3zAzb6bIpPCKpMl4byL902yyTpnpr4ULpJfacn7iLPnxpvw-upWUTssj1t2T-iKFtZQAV1eLiLM270Zlz7ZW11gU7pb1GdXJ7L__Gpmg3Jb8U1LIkGSs/s1600/i+quit+my+job.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" I quit my job without another one lined up Why I Quit My Job After Two Months (And Why It Was The Best Decision Ever)" border="0" data-original-height="1350" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2zsIEJsAWFdNnESW6wu4HWZi3zAzb6bIpPCKpMl4byL902yyTpnpr4ULpJfacn7iLPnxpvw-upWUTssj1t2T-iKFtZQAV1eLiLM270Zlz7ZW11gU7pb1GdXJ7L__Gpmg3Jb8U1LIkGSs/s1600/i+quit+my+job.png" title="Why I Quit My Job After Two Months (And Why It Was The Best Decision Ever)" width="217" /></a></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> This post contains affiliate links which means I make a small commission from sales, however this is at no cost to you :)</div> <div> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div>

Why I Quit My Job After Two Months (And Why It Was The Best Decision Ever)

I quit my job last week. Yep, I quit my job without another one lined up. Was that a stupid decision? Financially, maybe. Was it a wise decision? For my mental health, yes. Some might call m…

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