Daily Marriage Tips

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://www.regalrealness.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/stock-footage-african-american-couple-kissing-and-looking-into-eachother-s-eyes.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://www.regalrealness.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/stock-footage-african-american-couple-kissing-and-looking-into-eachother-s-eyes.jpg" /></a></div> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: left; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> </div> <br /> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For April 1, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Laughter, when shared, is a healing balm. Share jokes today. Does your family have any stories about family foibles that get repeated at family gatherings? It doesn’t matter that it’s embarrassing; it becomes family mythology!</div> </div> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For March 31, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Before Easter arrives, is there anything for which you need to ask your spouse’s forgiveness? Ask your spouse, and encourage him or her to do the same.</div> </div> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For March 30, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Email a love letter to your beloved today. It needn’t be long, but it can be romantic!</div> </div> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For March 29, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Mk 15:34) Have there been times when you have felt forsaken by God? Has he later proved his presence and love to you? Praise God for his love and presence in your life and marriage.</div> </div> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For March 28, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Let today be a “Change It Up” day. Often marriages get stale because they get into ruts. Change something today. It could be simple, like the food you eat, or more challenging, like a bad habit.</div> </div> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For March 27, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> How do you respond in love when you’re angry with your spouse? It may require calling a “time out” on yourself. After you calm down a bit, you can talk about the issue more charitably.</div> </div> <div class="tip" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 15px; margin: 0px 0px 14px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> <div class="tip-title" style="border: 0px; clear: both; float: left; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 1.3em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 7px; padding: 0px; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> Daily Marriage Tip For March 26, 2015:</div> <div style="border: 0px; clear: both; font-size: 1.2em; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.4em; margin-bottom: 1.5em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 477px;"> How do you build trust in a marriage? It’s like a bank account – as you deposit honest deeds and words, trust builds up. It’s earned over time and grows. The same works for children who ask, “Don’t you trust me?” Remind them to make deposits now to build up </div> </div> </div>

Daily Marriage Tips

Daily Marriage Tip For April 1, 2015: Laughter, when shared, is a healing balm. Share jokes today. Does your family have any...

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20 Relationship Tips: Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <header class="article-header"><h1 class="entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline"> 20 Relationship Tips: Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves</h1> <div class="single-featured-image"> <img alt="" class="attachment-gz-thumb-750 size-gz-thumb-750 wp-post-image" height="426" itemprop="image" sizes="(max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Fotolia_40455924_S-750x500.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Fotolia_40455924_S-750x500.jpg 750w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Fotolia_40455924_S-768x512.jpg 768w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Fotolia_40455924_S-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Fotolia_40455924_S-350x233.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Fotolia_40455924_S.jpg 849w" width="640" /></div> </header><section class="entry-content clearfix" itemprop="articleBody"><div style="text-align: center;"> <strong>Richard Nicastro, PhD explores specific ways you can improve your relationship, noting that it usually doesn’t just “happen” but requires effort to be sure it gets adequate attention.  </strong></div> Let’s face it: there is a staggering volume of marriage/relationship help advice out there. Any Internet search on the topic will give you page after page of relationship “How to’s” and “What not to do’s.” Depending on your perspective, this can be either good news (the easy availability of helpful information) or bad news (trying to navigate the overwhelming maze of relationship tips).<br /> The truth is, there is also a great deal of overlap in what is being said about how to strengthen a marriage/relationship—and while some authors are more eloquent in how they get this information across than others, often the underlying message is consistent. This is good news. The repetition in marriage/relationship advice suggests that there are important hard-and-fast principles that couples should pay attention to.<br /> So rather than searching for the golden goose that will magically send you down the path of marital or relationship bliss, it’s time to roll up your sleeves and give your relationship the attention it deserves.<br /> <br /> <strong>20 Relationship Tips:</strong><br /> <ol> <li>Couples need to set up a <strong>clear boundary</strong> around their relationship—this boundary involves saying “no” to the influences that can undermine your relationship.</li> <li>Healthy marriages/relationships require <strong>balance</strong> between having shared couple-experiences that will feed the relationship while at the same time nurturing their individual interests and pursuits.</li> <li>Without a clear expression of <strong>commitment</strong> to the relationship, trust and emotional security will suffer. A strong relationship foundation is built on mutual commitment.</li> <li>Direct, <strong>clear communication</strong> should always be a top priority.</li> <li>Being <strong>attuned to your needs</strong>, wants and desires is the first step in getting them met—when you’re unclear about your own needs, how can your spouse/partner ever meet them?</li> <li>Not everything needs to be discussed, analyzed and “processed” between partners. Letting go, <strong>giving your partner the benefit of the doubt</strong>, and practicing forgiveness will go a long way in creating a fulfilling relationship.</li> <li>Words have the power to build empathic bridges between partners, and <strong>words</strong> also have the power to hurt and create a wasteland of distance between you. Choose your words wisely.</li> <li>Important issues that are repeatedly ignored, minimized or go underground will resurface with a vengeance. A healthy relationship requires <strong>facing uncomfortable issues</strong> from time to time.</li> <li>Like a wildfire, emotional wounding and defensiveness can spiral out of control and quickly consume a relationship.  Couples need to be <strong>mindful of the negative cycles</strong> that arise in their relationship.</li> <li>Deliberately <strong>creating positive experiences</strong> and interactions between the two of you (while facing the uncomfortable issues that need to be addressed) should be an ongoing priority.</li> <li>Emotional intimacy and closeness are built upon both partners being consistent, <strong>emotionally available</strong> and responsive to one another.</li> <li>Expecting to get all (or even most) of your needs met whenever you want is like expecting the weather to change based upon your whims and preferences.  Unrealistic <strong>expectations</strong> lead to unhappy marriages/relationships.</li> <li>For some, emotional closeness is a prerequisite for sexual intimacy; for others, sexual intimacy leads to <strong>emotional intimacy</strong>.</li> <li>Passion and <strong>fulfilling sex</strong> often needs to be talked about, planned and negotiated (a lack of sexual spontaneity isn’t necessarily a sign of marital/relationship problems).</li> <li>What makes you feel loved and <strong>emotionally connected</strong> may be very different from what makes your partner feel loved and emotionally close. Communicating and understanding these differences can go a long way in improving your relationship.</li> <li>Certain differences between your and your partner’s <strong>communication styles</strong> and emotional expressiveness need to be accepted. You can’t make an introvert outgoing, and likewise, don’t expect an extrovert to happily sit home every evening.</li> <li>Friendships are built on joint activities and common interests. In addition to being lovers, couples need to <strong>learn to be friends</strong>.</li> <li>Couples who actively practice <strong>gratitude and appreciation</strong> feel a deep sense of connection with one another. It’s too easy to simply focus on what bothers you about your mate while ignoring why you fell in love with him/her in the first place.</li> <li>While a relationship obviously takes two committed people, one person can make a difference in improving the overall <strong>quality of the relationship</strong>.</li> <li>Fulfilling, healthy relationships are co-created, not found. Couples who <strong>work together</strong> (at keeping their relationship strong) are more likely to stay together.</li> </ol> While it can be easy to feel overwhelmed by the information presented in this article, remember that you can pick one or two items from the above list and began implementing them into your relationship right away. As a marriage/couples counselor, I’ve seen couples make big differences in their relationship with a simple and relatively small change—the goal is to be consistent and persistent with whatever positive change you’re trying to make.</section></div>

20 Relationship Tips: Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves

20 Relationship Tips: Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves Richard Nicastro, PhD explores specific ways you can improve ...

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12 Golden Rule To A Happy And Long Lasting Marriage/Dating

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img src="http://static.yourtango.com/cdn/farfuture/KAo2PPwFWDG0Fwq7dQMNqrkMNprh4Fmm6mivRRQb9CA/mtime:1427941577/sites/default/files/styles/listing_big/public/image_feature/golden.jpg?itok=xae17eRc" /><br /> <br /> <div class="field-value value-bold summary dek no-label" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <div class="field field-name-field-daily-dish-feature-summar field-type-text-long field-label-above" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> <div class="field-items" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> <div class="field-item even" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> Fairy-tale love is hard to find. Here are some tips for keeping your relationship healthy and happy.</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field-value body no-label" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> One of the most common questions we hear is, "<em style="box-sizing: border-box;">How do we make our relationship work?</em>" The answers are complicated, varied, and after a while, start to sound like muddled platitudes. But these commonplace sayings get repeated because <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">they work</em>. With this in mind, we pulled together 12 cliches that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a healthy, happy relationship. Read on and let us know what you think:</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. Mind your manners.</strong> "Please," "thank you" and "you're welcome," can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love him and don't take him for granted.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. Variety is the spice of life.</strong> Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close. </div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. The couple that plays together, stays together.</strong> Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV doesn't count) and make it a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains. .. whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. Fight right.</strong> In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind: Don't call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don't initiate a discussion when you're angry.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5. I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine.</strong> No one likes demands (unless you're in a BDSM role play) but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your lover to do something and you're not sure he'll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: "Sure, I'll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next movie of my choice."</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6. Two heads are better than one.</strong> Being in a relationship basically means you've made a merger; you've not only joined assets but inherited the other's problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he's gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise kegiatan together.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">7. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.</strong> Maintain your own friendships and occasionally have a night out without your significant other. Doing things without your s.o. not only makes you miss him or her, it also keeps you sane. And in case the relationship doesn't work out, you'll still have your friends.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">8. Sound it out.</strong> It other words: communicate! Talking out the tough subjects — money, religion, fidelity, raising kids —will not be the most fun you've had, but it'll be valuable.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">9. Laughter is the best medicine.</strong> Learn to laugh at yourself and at silly mistakes. If he throws your $300 cashmere sweater in the dryer, laughing it off is better than getting angry in the long run. It's just a $300 cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">10. Keep your eyes on the prize. </strong>Yes, he forgot your co-worker's name for the tenth time, but it probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal — to be in a happy, functioning partnership — you're less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">11. Quitters never win.</strong> Find a ritual and keep it alive, no matter what. Whether it's always kissing each other good night, renewing your wedding vows every year, sleeping in as late as you want once a month or committing to having sex once a week, pick something that makes you both feel good and stick to it, even when you're tempted to skip.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">12. When the going gets tough, the tough get going ... to therapy.</strong> Studies show that couples who seek counseling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don't. Whether its from a religious figure, counselor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is as wise as forgoing self-installation and hiring a plumber to put in a new sink.</div> </div> </div>

12 Golden Rule To A Happy And Long Lasting Marriage/Dating

Fairy-tale love is hard to find. Here are some tips for keeping your relationship healthy and happy. One of the most common que...

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10 Ways To Build Loving Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img alt="THIS is a one size fits all guide to building the right kind of relationship 10 Ways to Build Loving Relationship" height="316" src="https://static.yourtango.com/cdn/farfuture/Y9Rm_i3NF-KSh9tEEJJHXwMubGAv0Mhwsai8mPYXA9g/mtime:1438161330/sites/default/files/styles/header_slider/public/image_blog/Z_7.jpg?itok=pLRen4Vl" width="640" /><br /> <br />  <span style="background-color: white; color: #131313; font-family: "fselliot" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-weight: 700;">THIS is a one size fits all guide to building the right kind of relationship.</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These are indispensable tips, written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family, and even work relationships.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without fear. </span><br /> Don't interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don't make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you're too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe, and calm down.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Remember: your partner is not the enemy.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">2. Separate the facts from the feelings.</span><br /> What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I'm seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What's the real truth?</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Once you're able to differentiate facts from feelings, you'll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">3. Connect with the different parts of yourself. </span><br /> Each of us is not a solo instrument. We're more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your "gut" saying?</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> For example: My mind is saying "definitely leave her," but my heart says "I really love her."</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">4. Develop compassion.</span><br /> Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don't have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoguing respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">5. Create a "we" that can house two "I's." </span><br /> The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually supportive relationship is being separate, yet connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or herself — compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual "I" contributes to creatimg a "we" that is stronger than the sum of its parts. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">6. Partner, heal thyself.</span><br /> Don't expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don't try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can support the journey as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">7. Relish the differences between you. </span><br /> The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don't need a relationship with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they're often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">8. Ask questions.</span><br /> All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners' behavior means. For example: "She doesn't want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore." We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what's not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">9. Make time for your relationship. </span>No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making "play dates" and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow. </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #131313; font-family: FSElliot, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">10. Say the "hard things" from love.</span><br /> Become aware of the hard things that you're not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you're feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.</div> </div>

10 Ways To Build Loving Relationship

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Ninetips For Building A Loving Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; clear: left; color: #222222; float: left; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img height="266" src="http://ioneblackdoctor.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/179133949.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" width="400" /></div> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px;"> <div id="mobile_ad_top"> </div> </div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself,breathe and “calm down.”</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <em>Remember: your partner is not the enemy.</em></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <em><br /></em></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>2. Separate the facts from the feelings.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong><br /></strong><strong>3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.</strong>What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>4. Develop and cultivate compassion.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of <em>good fire</em>.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>6. Partner, heal thyself.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>8. Make time for your relationship.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>9. Say the “hard things” from love.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.</div> </div>

Ninetips For Building A Loving Relationship

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Twenty Tips About Courtship For Women

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <ol style="font-size: 18px;"> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <div style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img src="http://www.responsys.com/blogs/nsm/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/customer_relationship.jpg" /></div> <blockquote> <span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Only consider courtship at a time in your life when you are ready to consider marriage.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Until that time–foster the virtue of friendship and hold off the romance until you are really ready for it.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Only enter into a courtship with a man whom you would consider marrying.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">A woman might consider “just” dating any guy that she’s attracted to as long as she has no sense of long-term commitment. The duduk kasus arises when she’s grown attached to him after a period of time and can’t bring herself to breaking off the relationship, even when it’s not good. She may end up marrying a man that she otherwise would not have. Set the stakes higher–only court with a man you’d consider marrying.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Enter a courtship to discern whether or not you are called to marriage with a certain man.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Courtship is dating with a purpose. If you know that you would not consider marriage with this man, or you are not ready to consider marriage yet, then don’t enter into a courtship. Stay friends or acquaintances for the time being. Courtship is about prayerful discernment, which means you will decide either that God is not calling you to marriage with this man or that He is not. Both outcomes are valid in a courtship!</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Take time through prayer to discern God’s will.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">You need to foster prayer in your lives individually and as a couple. You can not know God’s will without prayer.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Base your courtship in the family:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">As much as possible, spend time with each other’s families. This is so important–for if you do end up married, you’ll want to get along. Family is an invaluable resource and such an integral part of who we are. You will learn much about each other by seeing how each other relates to family members. And your family, in turn, can give you much insight about the man with whom you are courting (and his family, about you!) Family sees things we don’t always see. Love can be blind at times–family (and friends) can really help to correct our vision. If you are far from family, make every effort to get home and spend time with them. And in the meantime, adopt a family (friends from Church, for example) to provide for you all the benefits of a family-based courtship.</span></blockquote> <div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Items 6 – 15 deal with setting guidelines for yourselves from the very beginning of your courtship. (If you’re starting over–changing from a dating relationship to a courtship model–then begin now with guidelines.) The following points will cover areas you should consider in those guidelines.</span></blockquote> </div> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Emotional Intimacy:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Guard your hearts and do not dive emotionally into a courtship relationship head first. Give yourselves time to learn about each other. Do not open up all your intimate secrets, desires and longings to each other immediately–just because you are courting. Allow your relationship to grow naturally. Keep the mystery alive by not revealing everything all at once. The duduk kasus with “dumping” on each other emotionally early on in a relationship is that if you later discern that you are not called to marriage you could have many regrets over having shared those intimate thoughts and secrets with someone who will not be your husband. You need to be honest with each other, but that does not mean you have to reveal everything right away. As the relationship grows, you will discover a natural pace for sharing those emotional intimacies.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Physical Intimacy:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Decide what your limits will be and write them down. Remember that as you store up your treasures of physical intimacy before marriage–every sacrifice that you make to stay pure becomes a jewel for you to share with each other in marriage. At that time–you will be able to delight in the beauty of giving yourselves to each other completely and totally. And your pleasure in marriage will be magnified by your time of waiting.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">To kiss or not to kiss:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Are you going to allow for kissing or not? Kissing is NOT a sin. It is not bad. It does not mean that a couple is less virtuous in courting if they allow for kissing. It is a decision you make as you set your guidelines. So think through the reasons why you would choose to allow for it or not!</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Saving that first kiss:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Many couples decide to leave kissing out of their relationship–as kissing has the power to ignite their passions. They choose to wait until the altar for their first kiss. They also might be coming out of past relationships–where they are struggling to keep control over their passions. They might be coming from a position of never having been kissed before, and now that they’ve waited this long–they want to go all the way with it! There are a variety of reasons why some couples choose this path.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Saving that “next” kiss:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Other couples, who have allowed for kissing in their relationship, sometimes decide to cut it out and wait to have their “next” kiss at the altar–which could be quite a wait! But they’ve seen how kissing is stirring passions that are making it harder for them to stick to their goal of staying pure in their relationship.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Kissing with limitations:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Some couples allow for kissing–but they limit how and when and where–which is wise if they want to keep it from stirring those passions that can be so easily ignited.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Hugging:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Are you allowing for hugging–and in what context? Hugging is a completely acceptable and beautiful expression of affection, support and love. However, prolonged hugging—while all alone and at times when you might be feeling weak (like late at night)—can stir passions. Just be careful that you are guarding the context well so that it doesn’t begin to undermine your good intentions.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">How, where and when you spend time alone:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">During courtship you obviously will want and need to spend time alone together. But how and where are important questions. If you are spending time alone late at night or in complete isolation, you may just find that your resistance to temptation is weakened. It’s best to find time alone together while doing something–going for a walk, cycling, canoeing, playing sports, taking in a show or going out to a restaurant, etc.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Avoid the near occasion of sin.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">This is not to say that a couple who is courting will only stick to their goal of purity if they are NEVER alone together . . . as if to say the only reason they resisted temptation is because they never went near temptation. But there is a teaching that exhorts us to “avoid the near occasion of sin”. We should not deliberately put ourselves in temptation’s way. Hopefully, any couple who makes these resolutions–even if they were given the opportunity to break them–wouldn’t break them, because they are persons of integrity! But we are all weak at times. All it takes is one moment of weakness (and be sure Satan will be watching for it) for you to make a mistake that you could regret for a lifetime.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Don’t give rise to scandal.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">But what if we’re not being tempted? Why wouldn’t it be alright to be off, alone, in isolation together–for example staying late over at one or the other’s apartment alone? This is where we get into the whole issue of giving rise to scandal. The duduk kasus a couple faces here–even if they are strong enough to resist all temptation–is the impression they are giving to others. “So what?” You may ask. “Let them gossip–what do we care? We know we’re not doing anything wrong!” When others perceive you to be leading an impure life, it gives others a sense of it being okay to not embrace purity in their own relationships. They’ll be thinking, “After all, they’re doing it and they’re a nice Christian couple. Obviously it doesn’t make any difference if we do or don’t.” Even though you had been embracing purity, you still misled others to believe you weren’t. In this way you would not be helping to build the body of Christ by your good example. Rather, through the scandal you would have given rise to, you would have inadvertently led others to sin. It is our sense of responsibility in the body of Christ that leads us to make the necessary sacrifices for the sake of others when we decide not to give rise to scandal. </span><br /><br /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Accountability:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">We all are more responsible when we are held accountable for our actions. Make a list together of your resolutions and guidelines for your courtship and give that list to some mentoring couples and accountability partners. These could be your parents, other married couples from Church, friends, roommates, family members. Basically you are looking for people you trust and respect to be able to talk with openly about your relationship. They should be able to ask you at any time how your are doing–if you are keeping your resolutions–and you need to be able to answer them honestly.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Mentoring:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Along with this idea is the need for mentoring couples–ideally that would be your parents, but it is not limited to parents. These couples should be well-versed in the Church’s teachings on marriage and the sacraments. They should be couples who can advise you on all kinds of issues related to marriage: finances (especially tithing), family networking, Natural Family Planning and the gift of human sexuality, balancing work and family life and so on.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Time to pray and time to play: </span><span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Obviously prayer time is important for a couple who is courting–as they are trying to discern God’s will for their relationship. But a couple should never neglect to be sure to allow for play time! Have fun. This season of life should be fun and filled with excitement and adventure. Don’t forget to make time to play.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Keep the romance alive:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Remember that courtship is a time of romance. Don’t cheat yourselves out of that. Enjoy dynamic, exciting, God-glorifying romance by seeking ways to give of yourselves to each other, to serve each other and to show your love for each other in simple ways. Romance–true romance–is about blessing the other by giving of self . . . and that’s what true love is about, too. So you see, the two go hand in hand. Couples who engage in an intensely physical relationship often lose out on this very point–because physical pleasure has become the focus of their relationship. By converse, couples who do not distract themselves with physical intimacy have more time on their hands to spend creatively doing romantic things for each other and together–blessing each other with their loving deeds and gestures as often as they can.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Be active in your faith community:</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Courtship is a great time to grow in faith together–and to spend time together in your faith community. In this way your relationship is supported by like-minded people who will become for you that community that celebrates with you in times of joy, consoles you in times of grieving, and that lifts you up you in times of hardship. We cannot live in isolation–we need that community to be there for us, which means, we need to be there for them as well. Be involved, have fun taking in events and activities together, volunteer service time together, and join in prayer groups and Bible studies together. These opportunities to spend time together, in a larger group setting, help you to learn much about each other by seeing how each other deals with a variety of situations and other persons . . . and are great opportunities to dedicate your time and talents to the Lord.</span></blockquote> </div> </li> <li class="style25" style="font-family: Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><div align="justify"> <div align="justify"> <blockquote> <br align="justify" class="style25" /><span class="QuestionBodyItalicsGreen" style="color: #003a00; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 15px; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">There is a great deal that can be said about courtship.</span> <span class="QuestionBody" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">And each family will establish their own model–sometimes a different model for the varying circumstances of each child. What is import is that you discuss these things in the family and when the time comes in your life for courtship you will be prepared with an excellent game plan!</span></blockquote> </div> </div> </li> </ol> </div>

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5 Tips Of Fifo Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <a href="http://uptownmagazine.com/files/2012/02/black-couple-holding-hands.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://uptownmagazine.com/files/2012/02/black-couple-holding-hands.jpg" /></a><span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="line-height: 28.7999992370605px;">Working on a Fly in Fly out basis has its rewards but it certainly has its down sides when in comes to building or maintaining a relationship. Relationships can be challenging when you are together on a daily basis, just think about the effort they take if you are apart 2 or more weeks at a time.</span></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. Communication</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Communication is a must, although in some cases this can be hard due to the isolated nature of FIFO sites. If you are the partner flying out, make sure that your other half is aware of your dates. When are you coming, when are you going. You could mark up a calendar with your fly in and out dates, so you can plan ahead.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Daily communication may not be possible. If that is the case then let your partner know, so they don’t go through emotional turmoil thinking about what may have happened. You may want to set up certain times and days for your contact, that way your partner at home can plan around it as well. If phones don’t work, emails may still be an option.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> For those of you that are the stay home partner, make sue you are available to your partner. It can get very isolated on work sites, it is great to hear from loved ones at home.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Regularly check in with each other to see how you are going with this lifestyle. Depression is a big issue in FIFO world, and a lot of the time it comes down to trying to live up to someone else’s expectations.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. Planning ahead</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Do this together, this can’t be one sided. Plan for the next R&R. What are you going to do? Travel? Catch up with others? Visit that awesome restaurant? Catch up on movies?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Your stay at home partner may have a day job, so they may need to get days off if you want to go away. Or change their routine if their work hours are flexible to get more time with you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Talk about your priorities on how time will be spent. Make sure that each of you know who is doing what around the house when you are both home. Build a support network of friends, family and even paid help if required to support your plans.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Planning ahead gives both of you something to look forward to, but don’t try to fit everything into one R&R.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Set goals</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> FIFO can give many opportunities, but has its drawbacks, so set some goals. How long do you want to be working FIFO for? What do you want to achieve in that time? Work on it together.  Write it down even, then set the steps in place to make your goals happen.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Ensure you are both on board with what you want to achieve. And keep re-evaluating whether you are on track, whether the goal is still the one you want to achieve, whether the lifestyle to support the goal is still the best way to go about it.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 4. Intimacy</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Don’t forget intimacy! The pressure to squeeze all the loving into a week can be much, especially with all other things going on. Sex and intimacy is a big thing in any relationship, it is somewhat magnified in FIFO.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You could actually create some intimacy with flirting while you are apart, wither through raunchy messages or phone calls. Although some people are not comfortable with that. And when you are together you could include sensual massages, date nights, time together re-connecting. Sharpen your love language and find out what makes your partner feel you love them.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You may have differing libidos, but don’t forget about sex. Don’t wait for your partner to initiate sex, some people are not comfortable with that. Make sure it doesn’t turn into a chore however.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">5. Mindset</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> This one seems to be forgotten most of the time. FIFO requires a certain level of resilience from both partners. You both have to have a positive mind frame toward life and this chosen lifestyle or soon you will find yourself spiralling into depression.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You have to be focused on what you want out of life, and check if you are getting it. Nothing worse than putting all the effort in, sacrificing time with your partner, family and friends just to find that you are not getting ahead. Couple that with harsh, remote conditions, with long work hours and you can have a disaster in your hands if you are not checking into your mind space and see how you are travelling.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> FIFO life brings a whole new dimension into a relationship that needs to be managed both with yourself, your partner and friends.</div> </div>

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13 Tips To Boost Your Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; clear: left; color: #333333; float: left; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img height="187" src="http://res.mindbodygreen.com/img/crp/CoupleLyingInBedAndKissingOnNose-850x400.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" width="400" /></div> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">1. Do the things you did the first year you were dating.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;"></span>As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">2. Ask for what you want.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Over time, we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">3. Become an expert on your partner.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Think about who your mate really is and what excites him or her (both physically and emotionally). We can become consumed by what WE THINK he/she wants, as opposed to tuning in to what truly resonates with the other person. Remember that if it’s important to your partner, it doesn’t have to make sense to you. You just have to do it.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">4. Don't ask "how was your day."</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;"></span>At the end of a long day, we tend to mentally check out of our lives and consequently, our relationship. We rely on the standard question, “How was your day?” Generally, that boring question will yield a boring answer such as, “Fine, how was yours?” This does nothing to improve your connection and instead, can actually damage it because you're losing the opportunity to regularly connect in a small way.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Instead, try asking things like, “What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?” You’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get, with the added benefit of gaining greater insight into your significant other.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">5. Create a weekly ritual to check in with one another.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> It can be short or long but it begins with asking each other what worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week. Additionally, use this opportunity to get on the same page with your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what you would like to see happen in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. Without an intentional appointment to do a temperature check, unmet needs and resentments can build.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">6. Keep it sexy.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;"></span>What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t? Think about this in the broadest form. “Sexy” can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives. Do you find it sexy if he/she helps with the housework? Do you find it "unsexy" when he/she uses the restroom with the door wide open? Talk about what it specifically means to "keep it sexy" in your relationship. Be amazed, be humored, be inspired!</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">7. Get creative about the time you spend together.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Break out of the “dinner and a movie” routine and watch how a little novelty can truly rejuvenate your relationship. On a budget and can’t go big? Jump on the internet to look for “cheap date ideas” and be blown away at the plethora of options. Can’t afford a sitter? Try swapping babysitting time with friends that have kids. It’s free and they will likely be thrilled to take your kids because they will get to take advantage when they drop their kids at your place.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">8. Get it on.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;"></span>Unless you have committed to an asexual partnership, sex, sexual contact and touching (kissing, holding hands, cuddling etc.) are vital components of a romantic relationship. The frequency is of course, up to you and it's imperative that you discuss your ideas about it in order to prevent resentment. Rare are the moments when both partners are “in the mood” at the exact same second, but that doesn’t mean that you have to decline their advances. Remind yourself that you will almost always “get there” after the first few minutes and that an intimate interaction of any kind builds connection and elevates your mood and health. Bear in mind that you are never required to say “yes.” If you truly don’t feel it, the best thing you can do is to postpone. Just make sure that you initiate or accept within a reasonable amount of time thereafter.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">9. Take a (mental) vacation, everyday.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Life and work distractions can become paramount in our minds and that leaves little time or energy for our partner. Practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.” This means that (barring any emergencies or deadlines), we are fully present when we're with our mate. We truly hear what they are saying (instead of pretending to listen), we leave our distractions behind and we don’t pick them up again until the sun comes up and we walk out the door.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">Some tips to improve communication</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Sadly, we aren’t born with the innate ability to effectively communicate but it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn. Use the following techniques to better navigate and limit the tension in your relationship:</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">10. Take "fight breaks" when you need them.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Before you’ve hit the point of no return and as you see the stress beginning to escalate, one or both of you can call a break so that cooler heads can prevail. The crux of this tool lies in the fact that you must pick a specific time to revisit the conversation (I.e. 10 minutes from now, 2:00pm on Tuesday etc.) so that closure can be achieved.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">11. Dig deep to unearth your true feelings.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> In most disagreements, we communicate from the “Top Layer,” which are the obvious emotions such as anger, annoyance and the like. Leading from this place can create confusion, defensiveness and ultimately distract from the real issue. Start communicating from the “Bottom Layer” (i.e. What feelings are really driving your reactions such as disappointment, rejection, loneliness, disrespect etc.).</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> This type of expression creates an instant sense of empathy because it requires honesty and vulnerability to share from this space. Tension will dissipate and from here, solutions can spring. Just be sure to use kind, non-reactive phrasing when expressing these bottom layer feelings, such as “I felt hurt by…” as a replacement for “You’re such a jerk” etc.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">12. Seek to understand ... not agree.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Easy in concept, difficult in application. Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we're invested in hearing our partner admit that we were right or when we are intent on changing his/her opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant other’s perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blow out or lingering frustration.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;">13. Make your apology count.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> <span style="font-weight: 700;"></span>It’s well understood that apologizing is a good thing but it only makes a real impact when you mean it. Saying things like “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry you see it that way” are a waste of time and breath. Even if you don’t agree that your action was wrong, you will never successfully argue a feeling.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> Accept that your mate feels hurt and from this place, a real apology can have a significant impact. When you love your partner and hurt them (intentionally or not) you can always legitimately apologize for the pain you caused regardless of your perspective on what you did or didn’t do.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px;"> You are now, officially armed with the comprehensive exercise routine to fully reshape your relationship. Trim the fat and build your hottest relationship for life!</div> </div>

13 Tips To Boost Your Relationship

1. Do the things you did the first year you were dating. As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweat...

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Tips To Help Your Husband Be A Better Man

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <img src="http://blogs.ugo.co.ug/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/aura.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> I remember moments as a child when my father would leave, and momma would take the opportunity to make sure we understood where he fell in the hierarchy of men on the earth. “Your daddy is a fine man,” she’d say in her southern drawl, with a grave level of sincerity. “You’re fortunate to have a daddy like him, because not all children do.” We believed her, and respected him as such.</div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> We all want our husbands to be the kind of men we can admire and love for a lifetime. But did you realize that there are things you can do to help him fully become that man? Try these five ways to propel him toward greatness in areas of life that matter.</div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">1. Praise him at home.</strong> Your children are an audience over which you have great influence, especially when they’re young. By reinforcing with them that dad is a great guy, and that they’re lucky to have a father who loves and protects them, he’ll be able to lead them even more effectively and with greater authority. The win for you? You have a parenting partner who carries a great deal of weight with those little hearts and minds you’re trying to shape.</div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">2. Represent him well in the community.</strong> As much as we all want to be judged based upon our own merits, the truth is that how people view <em style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">you</em> affects their opinion of your spouse, and vice versa. When you carry yourself with integrity, kindness, and class in the community (whether that’s in your job, at church, or the kids’ school), it shapes what people think of him, too. When it’s time to name a partner in the firm or approach someone about a business opportunity, your stellar reputation may just put your hubby over the top!</div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">3. Support his vision for your family.</strong> Husbands carry a great deal of responsibility for their families, even in these modern times in which many wives have careers and help provide financially. Perhaps it’s that they’re hard-wired to protect and provide, so they feel pressure in this way. Whatever the reason, you can make his role easier and make him better at it by being a team player in the financial and long-range-planning departments. Of course, you both need to have a say in what the overall goals and priorities are, but once the course is charted, do your part to make sure your family reaches them, even when it’s hard.</div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">4. Encourage his spiritual growth.</strong> It seems that it’s easier for women to find outlets for spiritual encouragement and growth, which is vital to both individual and family stability. But men need this kind of guidance and support as well! Support his involvement in a men’s small group or join a couples’ group together so that he has access to this important piece of the puzzle.</div> <div class="Body" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #666666; font-family: ff-dagny-web-pro; font-size: 18px; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">5. Be a soft place to fall.</strong> It’s a tough world out there—tough bosses, difficult economic times, political and other types of unrest—it can wear down even an optimistic man at times. Just like we occasionally need someone just to listen and let us vent (or cry) when we’re beaten down, husbands need to know that they have a place where they can do the same. Maybe for him it’s not about talking (or crying), but just a need to come home to a peaceful place where he’s fully loved, fully accepted, and has the</div> </div>

Tips To Help Your Husband Be A Better Man

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10 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams

<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;"> </div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKazMyTsosslgeQMdI8LcVTEBalxqkk166uzO5H2A_gMjTL4FPTyFpy05bK9xkYYnl0Tt2ldJLqPHd9NhTdqvqTgpUvyEFSynKcHwJEc0RNhiNHUXmrMp8_6x4jZXc1fNUzGAGsByiIHY/s1600/follow-your-dreams-blog.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" As a child I was told to reach for the sky and follow my dreams 10 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams" border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKazMyTsosslgeQMdI8LcVTEBalxqkk166uzO5H2A_gMjTL4FPTyFpy05bK9xkYYnl0Tt2ldJLqPHd9NhTdqvqTgpUvyEFSynKcHwJEc0RNhiNHUXmrMp8_6x4jZXc1fNUzGAGsByiIHY/s1600/follow-your-dreams-blog.jpg" title="10 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams" width="640" /></a></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm a dreamer. I'm a BIG dreamer. As a child I was told to reach for the sky and follow my dreams, but as an adult I'm told to get my head out of the clouds. Well, my dreams are intact and my head remains firmly in the clouds and I'm going to tell <i>you</i> why you should </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">never</span><span style="font-kerning: none;"> stop following your dreams. (queue kick-ass music)</span><br /> <a name='more'></a></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Everyone has dreams. Whether it be landing that dream job, starting a business, finding happiness or falling in love, we all dream. The difference is some choose to accept reality and others go out and chase it.</span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm not going to divulge exactly what my dreams are (I'll let you know when I reach them) but I'm on the road to achieving them and here are ten reasons why it's important to follow yours. </span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">1. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">You could be right around the corner from it</span></span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">You might feel like a million miles away from achieving your dream, but never let that stop you from working towards it because you could be so close to reaching it. The day you talk yourself out of it could be the day before you made it, so be patient and never stop chasing it.</span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">2. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">Ask yourself, can I live my entire life knowing I didn't try it?</span></span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If the answer is no, then do not give up. When I'm unsure whether I should pursue something, I imagine myself when I'm old looking back on my life and think, would I regret it if I didn't go after it? If the answer is yes then I make a point to definitely do it because I know it's a chance worth taking. If you want to make it happen, you'll find a way, if you don't, you'll find an excuse.</span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">3. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">You get one life. ONE.</span></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">There ain't no second chances or do-overs, we get one ride on this crazy rollercoaster called life so make it count. In saying that, it's never too late to follow your dreams. If you think, 'I'm too old now' or 'I should of done it when I was younger', that should never put you off. In the least morbid way possible, it's only too late when you're dead, so go get em!</span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">4. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">You can achieve it, and you will achieve it</span></span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want something bad enough in this world, you can get it. There are ways and means to get to where you want to be. You can be anything in this world, anything at all, you just have to be persistent and work hard enough and you will get there. You might think, but there are so many reasons why I can't do what I really want to do, the great thing about problems is that there are always solutions. Find the solutions, solve the problems and you're on your way to achieving your dream.</span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">5. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">The only person who needs to believe in you is YOU</span></span></div> </div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-size: 16px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">As long as you believe in yourself, you will get to where you want to be in life. You don't need people to tell you you can make it, <i>you</i> decide the life you live and only you have the power to make change. Once your mind is set on a goal, no one can stop you from achieving it. The only things you'll regret in life are the chances you didn't take.</span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-size: 16px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: x-large;">6. <u>You have potential to achieve greatness</u></span></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><u><br /></u></span></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> Chances are that if you're passionate about something you'll want to be successful in it and all you need to unlock that potential is the drive to start working towards it now. You could be the best at what you want to be and your determination will bring you to the top. You can live the life you've always wanted, nobody is stopping you. Nothing ventured nothing gained.</div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; font-size: 16px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><u><br /></u></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;">7. <u>You could be the person telling others to achieve their dream</u></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir;"> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> Think two years down the line. If you start now, you could be the person explaining to others how you achieved your dream and got to where you want to be. You can inspire other people by having the courage to be different from everyone else and take the road less travelled.</div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">8. </span><span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;">If worst comes to worst, you can start over again</span></span></div> </div> <div style="font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> </div> <div style="font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you're scared that your dream is too risky or it's impossible to achieve, the only way to know is to try. The worst that can happen is that it doesn't work out the first time and you go back to doing what you're doing now, nothing bad comes out of trying. And if it doesn't work out, come at it from a different angle and try again.</span></div> </div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;">9. <u>Show everyone that you <i>can</i> be the best</u></span></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> Prove everyone wrong. Prove yourself wrong. All those doubts you have swimming around in your head, shut them out and show the world how much you have to offer. Only a small percent of people actually go after their dreams, be part of that percentage.</div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-size: x-large;">10. <u>It gives you something to live for</u></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I spend 90% of everyday working towards my dream (the other 10% is spent sleeping and eating). People who follow their passions tend to be obsessed with them. It creates a fire within you. I can't imagine a world where I just give up and accept the life around me. I wake up with drive and ambition every single day and even in the face of adversity I never give up. You will have so much more to live for when you start doing what you know you're meant to do.</span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you're still unsure what your dream is then have a read on my tips on <a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q="><span style="color: blue;">how to figure out what to do with your life.</span></a></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 16px; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px; text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> </div> <div style="font-family: avenir; line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I can't stress enough how important it is to follow your dreams. Make yourself proud  and when you look back on your life, you'll be able to thank yourself for going through with it and following your dream. Find the motivation and create a beautiful life for yourself. Emily x</span></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Pin it for later</span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF5gW-PwEJshgfxZ6WMUzyXZEJPTpNfN3aVu_aRQIVfzEblv8i5CUVAewi7PLcr6CrDNftgEzVShLGD_-2-JIK2mcx5CeyGpuhePOnCgGNtjb4snFFzBxXPYXSoVmAz8CPdDfXsu80hVk/s1600/10+Reasons+why+you+should+follow+your+dreams+2017.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" As a child I was told to reach for the sky and follow my dreams 10 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams" border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="735" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF5gW-PwEJshgfxZ6WMUzyXZEJPTpNfN3aVu_aRQIVfzEblv8i5CUVAewi7PLcr6CrDNftgEzVShLGD_-2-JIK2mcx5CeyGpuhePOnCgGNtjb4snFFzBxXPYXSoVmAz8CPdDfXsu80hVk/s1600/10+Reasons+why+you+should+follow+your+dreams+2017.png" title="10 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams" width="285" /></a></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> </div> </div> <!-- Go to www.addthis.com/dashboard to customize your tools -->

10 Reasons Why You Should Follow Your Dreams

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