Ten Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img alt="t expect someone to just hand it over to you Ten ways to build trust in a relationship" height="221" src="http://cdn.relrules.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/buildtrust.jpg" width="400" /></div> <br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Love, respect and trust all go together. Even if one of the links is missing, the whole thing falls apart. The thing about trust is that; it needs to be earned. You can’t expect someone to just hand it over to you. Some of us are very reluctant to place our trust in people, either as a virtue of our personality or past experiences that have driven us to this point. A healthy relationship is built on trust and cannot thrive without it. It is the most satisfying feeling to know that you have someone’s trust. They choose to let you in on things no one else knows of.</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> To know this feeling of content, one must adopt a few conducts such as the following:</div> <ol style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Be open</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Whatever it is that goes on in your life; let your partner know about it. Don’t keep secrets. Even if there is something you can’t tell them presently, but might do so when you’re ready, make sure they know. Withholding something only creates doubts. Doubts lead to trust issues.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Be open about your relationship with your family, friends, co-workers etc. especially when it involves people from the opposite gender. Since jealousy takes the better of us, this is something not to be taken lightly.</div> <ol start="2" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Your words shouldn’t contradict your actions</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> You definitely don’t want to come off as a hypocrite by saying something and then doing the exact opposite of it. Always do what you say.</div> <ol start="3" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Be honest</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Lying doesn’t get you anywhere. You might be able to get away with for a while, but it will eventually catch up to you. But then it might be too late to come clean. You would’ve pushed them to the point where they won’t be able to believe anything you say. At that point, even truth from you would appear to be a lie. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Even when they’re asking for your opinion, say what needs to be said and not what they’d want to hear. If you give them an honest opinion, it’d actually help them. This way they’d always rely on your opinions.</span></div> <ol start="4" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Don’t make promises you can’t keep</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> This is probably something we’ve all done at some point or another. For instance, you make plans and then fail to show up, and in the haste to make it up to them you give them your word to do something which you later realize is unmanageable for you. No matter how much you try to explain it to them, the damage is already done. They might think that you’re lying to them or just making up excuses to avoid seeing you.</div> <ol start="5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Keep their secrets secret</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> There are countless things that we’re only comfortable sharing with our partner. These may include the most intimate details of one’s life. Not only is it indecent to publicize what has been told to you in confidence, you lose your partner’s trust. They start feeling insecure. They might even start feeling suffocated as they might have stuff to tell you, but can’t do so out of fear. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Don’t be judgmental either. This again would keep them from saying/doing what they want to, to avoid being judged.</span></div> <ol start="6" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Maintain the privacy of your relationship</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Whatever happens in your relationship is none of anyone else’s business, and should remain so. If either of you share details that the other person is not on board with, it’s just going create unnecessary problems. The relationship no longer remains as comfortable as it used to be, with the element of insecurity slowly creeping in.</div> <ol start="7" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Trust your partner</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Do for them what you’d like for yourself. Trust them and you can expect them to trust you. Trust doesn’t only have to be in terms of what you’re sharing with each other. It also grows when you trust your partner in their abilities. This helps them gain confidence in themselves and grow as a person. They’d also return you the favour and would create a healthy and supportive relationship.</div> <ol start="8" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Don’t pay heed to what people have to say</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Have faith in your partner to tell you what you need to know so that no matter what you hear from anyone other than them holds no value. This will save you from doubting them. It will also save you from hurting your partner in leading them to believe that you don’t trust them enough.</div> <ol start="9" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Reassurance is the key!</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Never stop making efforts to reassure them about your feelings towards them. This way they’ll never develop doubts, hence no room for insecurities remain, leaving the trust intact.</div> <ol start="10" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin: 24px 0px 24px 3rem; padding: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 6px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.51; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <span style="box-sizing: border-box;">Share your vulnerabilities</span></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Share details about yourself with them in order to gain their trust and they’d also reciprocate. It takes a great deal of courage to share your flaws with someone, and putting yourself in a vulnerable position. This proves to be a huge gesture to gain their trust. <span style="line-height: 25.6000003814697px;">Be patient. Remember that trust can’t be earned over night. Every one of us is trying to look out for ourselves, hence don’t trust easily. It is gained one action at a time. Never say anything that you can’t live up to. Leave room for mistakes. Be accepting of each other, and make sure that both of you can be open with each other. Learn to trust and let go of the little things and you’ll do just fine.</span></div> </div>

Ten Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship

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How To Make Your Girlfriend Happy Always

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 30px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1em; list-style: none; margin: 25px 0px 10px; outline: none; padding: 0px; text-align: justify;"> <a href="http://iloverelationship.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Make-Your-Girlfriend-Happy-Always.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; display: inline !important; float: left; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" or intend to have one very soon and the thought of how to make your girlfriend How to Make Your Girlfriend Happy Always" border="0" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-2214" height="195" src="http://iloverelationship.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Make-Your-Girlfriend-Happy-Always.jpg" style="border: 1px solid rgb(203, 205, 204); display: inline; height: auto; list-style: none; margin-top: 2px; max-width: 100%; outline: none; padding: 4px;" width="400" /></a></h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> Do you have a girlfriend? or intend to have one very soon and the thought of how to make your girlfriend happy always is troubling you. You may need not trouble any further as in this article, you’re going to learn what you need to do to make your girlfriend happy always and ensure that there is no dolling moment in your relationship.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> When a girl is in the hand of a guy who is affectionate and loving, she enjoy it so much that she won’t let anything spoil her happy presence. Girls will always love to be in a relationship with a wonderful guy who treats them in a very special way but it’s not always easy for guys to treat their girls in a special ways at all time, although guys still try hard to make them special but somehow along the way, the treatment get overshadow with some other issues in his life.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> Well! If you want to make her happy always, and as well make other couples envies your perfect relationship, you’ll need to think in her perspective. When both lovers in a relationship think from the other partner’s perspective, the relationship can only get better and more loving with time.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1em; list-style: none; margin: 25px 0px 10px; outline: none; padding: 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">Below are the things you need to do to make your girlfriend happy always, get pampered and get pleased.</b></h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">1.</b> Give her a memorable gift of love on her special occasion</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">2.</b> Make her friends Jealous her, give her that special love and affection especially when she is in the present of her friends. When her friends notice how good a catch you are, her heart will swell with pride and happiness, and you too will feel you’re doing something great as well.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">3.</b> Her friends and family should be your close pal. For every girl, friends and family mean a lot them because these are the people she has shared some intimate details if not all her intimate detail of her dear life with them. She even listen to her friends and family to a large extent that she takes advice from them. So, getting close to these set of people will make her happy the more knowing that her selections of friends are welcome in your side.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">4.</b> Give her ultimate attention when she is with you; don’t try to ignore her maybe because of your love for sport at the time she is with you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">5.</b> Give respect to her opinion no matter how silly it looks before you</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">6.</b> Compromise your wants for her needs, you may want to watch your favourite Manchester United Football team but she want to watch a romantic movie, you have to let her want take the centre state. She will feel more appreciated knowing how you give up on your want for hers.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">7.</b> Don’t do things as if you know everything, always ask for her help and opinion</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">8.</b> Show her public display of affection and make her feel special.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">9.</b> Tease her often and make her laugh, just be humorous.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">10.</b> Make her feel secure, girls love to be protected by their boyfriends</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">11.</b>  Give much of your attention to her</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">13.</b> Make sure there is enough communication between both of you at all time.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">14.</b> Women love compliments because it makes them feel much more appreciated, so, you need to compliments her to feel that appreciation.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">15.</b> Let her understand that you’re just lucky to have such a nice girl like her, and make sure you remind her of this always.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> You may not totally accept the 15 points I mention above but I can tell you that, no girl will ever get them from her boyfriend and still remain unhappy in the relationship. They are just happiness string that you can pull at all time and make your girlfriend happy always.</div> </div>

How To Make Your Girlfriend Happy Always

Do you have a girlfriend? or intend to have one very soon and the thought of how to make your girlfriend happy always is troubling you. ...

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Why Women Cheat (And How To Stop It)

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; color: #222222; float: left; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img src="http://www.doctornerdlove.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/iStock_000006197201XSmall.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Since this blog is concerned with encouraging successful relationships, let’s look at some of the reasons why women cheat on their partners.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Reason #1: She’s Not Being Fulfilled Emotionally</h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> As I’ve said many times before, the half-life of romantic love is six months to a year. After that point, the initial rush of excitement and passion fades, and relationships begin to settle into a calmer, more intimate level. Unfortunately, it’s extremely easy to fall into a rut; what was new has become common place, or even expected. You’re no longer on your best courting behavior, so you’re not as quick or effusive with the compliments as you used to be. You don’t notice her new hairstyle, or that new dress she’s wearing… one that she bought specifically for you. Now that you’re more relaxed and at ease with the relationship, you allow yourself to be more selfish. You don’t devote as much of your time and attention to her and her interests. You come home from a long day at work or class and all you want to do is play Call of Duty for a couple of hours as you decompress; the last thing you want to do is listen to your girlfriend complain about the office politics or the girl in class she feels is always trying to one-up her. Your days together start to blur; it’s a monotonous repetition of wake up, breakfast, work, dinner, sleep, and the only place you take her is for granted. Your conversations are short and superficial, because your attention is elsewhere… maybe even on that cute girl you always see at the Starbucks as you stop for your morning caffeine hit.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> And before you know it, your girlfriend is cozying up with that guy from the office with the dreamy eyes. Why? Well, <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">you</em> weren’t meeting her emotional needs… so she went elsewhere to find them.</div> <h4 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">How To Stop It:</span></h4> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Women are emotional creatures; feeling not just loved but <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">desired</em> and <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">appreciated </em>is incredibly important, especially in a relationship. Sadly, our society has conditioned them to be deferential towards men, to avoid making men upset or being too demanding or burdensome. As a result, women are far less likely to be upfront about what they need, emotionally. In many cases, they may know they have a need, but be unable to verbalize it, leaving the man confused and the woman frustrated and annoyed.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You need to avoid ruts in the relationship. Routine and familiarity can be numbing, which will in turn leads to boredom… and boredom is the death of relationships. You need to add a certain level of impulsiveness and unpredictability to keep the relationship fresh and exciting.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> In addition, you need to remember: communication is key. You need to be emotionally honest with her and be willing to engage her own emotional needs. If she feels that she <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">can’t</em> talk to you about what she needs, if she feels as though that her issues or wants will just be brushed aside or ignored, she’ll start looking for someone who will appreciate her.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Reason #2: The Sex Has Gone Stale</h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> It used to be that the two of you couldn’t keep your hands off each other. If you had a free moment, the two of you would be headed straight to the nearest horizontal surface. Or the nearest broom closet. Or the bathroom. You used to pull her hair and bite her neck, she used to smack your ass like a pissed off nun; she used to bend like a pretzel and you were the undisputed <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">king</em> of oral. There wasn’t a position in the book you didn’t try and a few that you may have invented. The orgasms were fast, furious and all over the place – in all senses of the word. Sex could last for <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">hours.</em> You used to fuck like <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">gods. </em></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> And now? Seven to eight minutes of missionary, once a month… twice, if you’re lucky. Half of the time, you’ve found that the only way you can get off is by fantasizing about someone else. Hell, there are times that you’re <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">actively avoiding</em> sex. You never thought you would, but it’s become so mind-numbingly routine and boring that there are times you’d really much rather just browse RedtTube and jerk off instead.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> And then one day you come home an hour early and find your best beloved riding your boss like she’s about to win the Triple Crown.</div> <h4 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">How You Can Stop It</span></h4> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Just as the infatuation of a new relationship fades, the physical passion and desire will ebb and flow. Time, comfort and familiarity can cause desire to recede in any relationship; Billy Bob Thornton once said of Angelina Jolie: “She may be the hottest woman in the world but after enough time, it’s kind of like fucking the couch.”</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> nce again: routine leads to boredom and boredom is the <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">death </em>of relationships… especially boring sex.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Desire will ebb and flow over the years, but if you want to avoid boredom, you have to be an active participant in your sex life. This doesn’t mean moving your hips, by the way. You can’t just expect nothing but a minimum of foreplay followed by a few minutes of missionary or female superior sex to stay interesting for all your life, and just throwing doggie style into the mix isn’t going to cut it either. To start with, change your location. If you’re mostly having sex in the bedroom… get out of bed. Bone on the floor. Bend her over the couch. Fuck in the shower, in the closet… anywhere but the same old, same old.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Don’t underestimate the importance of foreplay; to you it may be what you have to sit through before you get to the good stuff, but to her, it’s <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">important</em>. The more orgasms you can provide –<em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">not </em>just through penetration – the more satisified she will be. The more satisfied she is, the less likely that she’s going to step out on you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> While you’re at it, work on your communication skills. Open communication and honesty is absolutely key here. You both need to be able to open up to each other and be honest; if she feels like the sex is getting boring, and she can’t tell you, then she’s going to find herself more interested in other guys… ones who she <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">hasn’t</em> been having the same old sex, over and over again. And don’t forget to be willing to talk about what you <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">actually </em>want. Be willing to explore your fantasies. You may be getting stuck in the sex rut when what you <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">really </em>want is some Principal and Naughty Student action… and she may want you to tie her up and spank her silly but can’t quite bring herself to admit it to you.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Reason 3: You’ve Let Yourself Go</h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Let’s be honest: when you’re single, you take <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">much</em> better care of yourself than when you’re in a relationship. After all, you’ve gotta compete with all of those other guys out there. You’ve gotta keep your edge! So you watch what you eat, put your time in at the gym. You keep your clothes fresh, stylish and clean, your hair impeccably coiffed and your breath is <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">always </em>minty fresh.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> At least, it <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">used </em>to be. Ever since you and your girl became exclusive… well, you’ve gotten a little more comfortable with her and maaaybe you haven’t been hitting the gym quite as often as you should. A few too many snacks, too many romantic dates to your favorite restaurants instead of staying in and cooking have taken their toll on you. But it’s ok… she loves you anyway, and you don’t need to impress her anymore. And hey, you’re not out on the prowl any more so you don’t <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">really</em> need to throw some product in your hair today, right?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Before you know it, you’re not the guy you used to be. You’ve gone up a couple pants sizes and your wardrobe is more “functional” than “fun”. Your hair’s started to go, you’re spending more time in sweats than in suits and a lot more time on the couch than on the treadmill. But hey, it’s not like she hasn’t loosened up a little too, right?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Well, maybe that’ll comfort you when her personal trainer at the gym has been coming for some “extra” sessions, if you know what I mean.</div> <h4 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">How You Can Stop It:</span></h4> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Well this one’s simple: maintain some standards. Time and age may make mockery of us all eventually, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t put up a good fight. It’s easy to let things slide when you don’t feel the need to impress her anymore or that you don’t have anything to prove… but that’s going to be the exact reason why she’s out looking at Captain HotBuns instead. Keep up with your exercise, eat healthy and maintain your style. In fact, you may want to get her involved; two can work better than one when it comes to trying to keep each other on a healthy lifestyle.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Reason #4: She’s Bored.</h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Maybe it’s the sex. Maybe it’s the relationship. Or maybe it’s that you don’t offer her the excitement she craves. Maybe you and she have different cultural appetites; you’re TVs and beer, she’s opera and Cabernet Sauvignon. Maybe when you were both young and single she was the wild party girl and you convinced her that it was time to settle down. It may be that she has intellectual needs that aren’t being met and all of your conversations are focused around the Real Housewives of Orange County.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Or perhaps she feels that things have been stagnant – or worse, degrading – for so long that it’s time for a change. And you have to admit, finally “letting” the cute banker at the gym who’s been chatting her up finally take her out is going to be exciting in ways she hasn’t felt in a long, long time.</div> <h4 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">How You Can Stop It:</span></h4> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> I’m sure you can see this coming, but I’m going to say it again: Communication, communication, communication. If you’re sensing a theme here, then good. Both you and your lady <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">need</em> to have full and open lines of communication. If she’s feeling a lack in her life, or if she’s feeling restrained or held back and she feels as though she <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">can’t </em>bring it up to you, then you’re <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">going</em> to have problems.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> And while you’re busy listening attentively to what she’s trying to tell you, you need to mix things up. I’m not saying that you have to live a life of constant spontaneity where every day is an unplanned delight, but you <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">should</em> follow the maxim that variety is the spice of life. Engage your intellectual curiosity and make concerted efforts to try new things – or to go back and do older ones you’ve since given up. Settling down doesn’t mean you can’t go out and party; in fact, it should be <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">better. </em>Don’t think of her as your girlfriend or wife when you’re making plans to go bar-hopping or clubbing. Think of her as your <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">partner in crime</em>.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Reason #5: You Cheated On <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Her</em></h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Whether you thought you were in love or you just couldn’t resist the call of the new, the fact of the matter is, you strayed. You stepped out on your woman, you got busted, and now she’s doing <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">the exact same thing to you</em>. You’d appreciate the irony if it didn’t drive a spear through your heart every time you thought about her with another man.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Congratulations genius… now you know how <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">she</em> felt when <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">you </em>did it. She may not be cheating on you as revenge, but you’re going to have to face the fact that you <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">did</em> give her a “get out of fidelity free” card when she didn’t dump your ass right then and there. Now <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">you </em>have a decision to make about how you’re going to respond.</div> <h4 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">How You Can Stop It:</span></h4> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Do I <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">really </em>have to spell this one out for you?</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Reason #6: Some People are Just <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Bad</em> at Monogamy</h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> She didn’t mean to. It was just a simple friendly dinner with a friend from work when they were out of town closing the sale. But after the third glass of wine his hand was resting on her knee but it was totally harmless, so she just left it there. And yeah, they were snuggled up in the cab back to the hotel. And ok, maybe she <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">did</em> go back to his room with him, but it was just for a quick nightcap. One thing lead to another and… well, look, she’s <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">really sorry</em>, ok?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Just as she was the last two or three times.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> That you know about.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">care</em> about you. She honestly does. But the fact remains that she is <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">not </em>the sort of person who can make and keep a monogamous commitment to someone, even someone she loves. Maybe you thought you could change her. Maybe she honestly thought things would be different this time. But they weren’t, and now you have a lot of questions that you need to ask yourself.</div> <h4 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.25rem; line-height: 1.2; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">How You Can Stop It:</span></h4> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> To be perfectly honest… you can’t. There are people who simply aren’t wired for only sleeping with one person at a time, and trying to force them into that particular mold is akin to trying to nail Jello to a tree. The best thing in those cases is for complete and utter honesty <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">up front</em>. If she – or you, for that matter – are the sort of person who honestly <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">isn’t</em> good at monogamy, she has the obligation to her partners to inform them <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">at the beginning.</em>.. and <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">you</em> have the obligation to listen and take her seriously. You also have to be honest with <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">yourself</em> on the matter of whether you can handle an open or semi-open relationship. You can’t go into a relationship thinking that her attitude or beliefs are just a phase that either she will grow out of or that you can persuade her to drop. You won’t be the first person to try to change her… and with that attitude, you certainly won’t be the last.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 26px; margin-bottom: 1.625rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> With some women, an open relationship is part of the price of entry. She will love you with all of her heart, and she will always come back to you at the end of the day, but there <em style="border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">will</em> be other men in her life – physically, if not emotionally – and you have to be able to handle that if you want to be with her. Otherwise the best thing you can do for the both of you is to end things quickly and cleanly and find someone new.</div> </div>

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6 Tips To Get Your Happy Back After A Breakup

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCSsDFiiUhOqseWSG-5zhDdIaE39XWVfJUzNHhg7hOnGIL7UjG3zqwdwBZJAErAIWrdZk8udUifdZmU5G4LsjDCgEufLvvJrByL7-WQOBeAGSbsS-z33shlHTrJAw0hisLwK3N2x1nWds/s1600/breakup-tips.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="425" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCSsDFiiUhOqseWSG-5zhDdIaE39XWVfJUzNHhg7hOnGIL7UjG3zqwdwBZJAErAIWrdZk8udUifdZmU5G4LsjDCgEufLvvJrByL7-WQOBeAGSbsS-z33shlHTrJAw0hisLwK3N2x1nWds/s640/breakup-tips.jpg" width="640" /></a></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <br /></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Getting over a breakup is never going to be easy, but you can make it a lot less painful if you are strategic about how you cope in the first few weeks after it happens. Because I counsel men and women on relationship issues, I have watched hundreds of clients over the years go through a breakup. In this list, I highlight the behaviors that are most successful in helping a person to move on and get their happy back quickly.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. Figure out who your most fun friend is.</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Perhaps you already know who your most fun friend is. If not, take inventory of your social crew and ask yourself who is the most fun or who makes you laugh the most. In short, spend more time with that person! Happy, fun individuals can rub off on us when we’re feeling low, so make arrangements to get together as often as possible with your most fun friend after a breakup.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. Have a small party at your place.</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you broke up with someone yesterday, you probably won’t feel like having a party today. If the breakup was a week ago or longer, it’s time for you to get social again. Schedule a gathering at your place in a couple of weeks – a dinner party, sports-watching party, or a movie night with a handful of friends. Nothing heals a broken heart like reminding yourself that you have friends who dig you.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Put a mini trip on the calendar.</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Having something to look forward to is an absolute requirement to feeling happy and motivated. Though you might not feel like taking a trip at this moment, planning one in a few weeks or a month might be just the medicine you need to soothe your broken heart. Plan a mini vacation – two or three days – that you can look forward to and you will instantly plant a little hope on the horizon.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">4. Force yourself to engage in physically exhilarating activities.</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> For all you workout haters, I have good news: This step doesn’t require running five miles on the treadmill. No, I’m talking about something else. We have enough research these days to know that getting physically active boosts your mood and gives you more energy. After a breakup, it’s precisely these two factors – bad mood and low energy – which suffer. To get out of your funk, try at least one exhilarating activity per week. While physical exercise at the gym counts, that’s not the real goal here: The real goal is to try activities which get your heart pumping and give you a happy rush. Call a friend and make a plan to go dancing one night, or try the bumper cars or a roller coaster at an amusement park.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">5. Take a class or workshop.</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Taking a class or workshop at a local school or community college is one of the best things you can do for yourself after a breakup. Self-disclosure alert: A pottery class was especially helpful for me years ago! Taking in something new and fun – cooking, guitar lessons, whatever – is a great way to focus your mind and distract you from the sadness of the breakup. Plus, meeting new people is a total bonus!</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">6. Set one new challenge.</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> I wouldn’t be a good psychologist if I didn’t encourage you to set one new challenge for yourself when you’re feeling down in the dumps. Even though setting a goal may sound like it takes work on your part, it actually does something else: it gives you hope for a fresh start. Set one new challenge after a breakup and you will give yourself something productive to focus on instead of wallowing in sadness or bitterness. Try losing ten pounds if you’re overweight; finally update that resume; or repaint or reorganize your entire bedroom. These challenges are helpful because they make you feel like it’s time for a new beginning.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Conclusion…</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> All of these behaviors can significantly improve your mood and distract you from the sadness and anger you may feel about the relationship you lost. Yet perhaps the most important behavior to keep in mind is to avoid all contact with your ex.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> After a relationship ends, one ghost that haunts you for the next few weeks is inevitably the I-need-my-stuff-back dance. “But I need to call him to get my stuff back!” Honestly, go without it – at least for a while. Do not have contact with your ex in the first month after a breakup if you truly want to try to get your happy back. You will thank yourself later, once you’ve moved on!</div> </div>

6 Tips To Get Your Happy Back After A Breakup

Getting over a breakup is never going to be easy, but you can make it a lot less painful if you are strategic about how you cope in th...

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15 Ways To Know/Tell If Someone Is The Right Match For You

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img alt=" Every person looking for a great relationship knows the importance of compatibility 15 Ways To Know/Tell If Someone Is The Right Match For You" height="374" src="http://static.eharmony.com/dating-advice/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/how-to-create-love-400x234.jpg" width="640" /><br /> Every person looking for a great relationship knows the importance of compatibility. You want to find someone whose beliefs, interests, and goals align with your own. The level of similarity will largely determine the fulfillment and stability you enjoy (or not) over the years to come.<br /> <br /> Which brings us to a critical question: How exactly do you assess the degree of compatibility between you and a love interest?<br /> <br /> <b>1. Start with a thorough, reliable personality test. </b>This will reveal areas of similarity and differences between you both.<br /> <br /> <b>2.</b> <b>Explore your family background and upbringing. </b>That is what had the greatest influence on who you would eventually become.<br /> <br /> <b>3.</b> <b>Compare your dealbreakers and must-haves.</b> Do you match up well with the qualities you’re looking for and wanting to avoid?<br /> <br /> <b>4.</b> <b>Ask yourself if you’re pretending to enjoy your partner’s interests (and vice versa).</b> Sometimes we intentionally or unintentionally fool ourselves–and our partners—by acting enthusiastic about hobbies and pursuits. Over time, this false enthusiasm will fade away.<br /> <br /> <b>5.</b> <b>Assess your combination of passion and companionship.</b> The most enduring chemistry between two people includes both passionate “sizzle” and deep friendship.<br /> <br /> <b>6. Recognize any cute quirks that might irk over time.</b> Sometimes the habits and idiosyncrasies that seem charming while dating will grate on you through the years.<br /> <br /> <b>7. Gauge the level of acceptance you feel.</b> Compatible couples feel a strong sense of harmony and freedom to be themselves.<br /> <br /> <b>8. Talk at length about your core values.</b> Are you similar when it comes to your strongly held beliefs about social issues, spirituality, finances, politics, and child rearing?<br /> <br /> <b>9. Identify the differences that do exist.</b> No matter how compatible the two of you are, there are bound to be some differences. Determine if those are related to significant issues that will impact your relationship over time—or relatively small issues that are be negotiated.<br /> <br /> <b>10. Observe each other in lots of different circumstances. </b>Watch how each of you acts around family, work colleagues, at home, with children, and so on.<br /> <br /> <b>11. Evaluate your effectiveness at resolving conflicts.</b> Where dissimilarities exist, are you and a partner able to talk them through and reach a fair resolution?<br /> <br /> <b>12. Look ahead.</b> The standard job interview question is, “Where do you see yourself in ten years?” This is also a question you should carefully consider. Do your goals and aspirations for the future complement each other’s?<br /> <br /> <b>13. Take a hard look at your personal habits.</b> All the nitty-gritty aspects of daily life punctuality, neatness, grooming, weight management can prove to a source of tension if two people having much different styles of living.<br /> <br /> <b>14. Notice how stress is handled.</b> Pressure-filled situations tend to reveal our true nature. As Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot a person by the way he or she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas lights.”<br /> <br /> <b>15. Appraise your adaptability.</b> A flexible personality enables you to ride out storms and adjust to all kinds of challenges. This will be essential for dealing with the areas where you aren’t compatible.</div>

15 Ways To Know/Tell If Someone Is The Right Match For You

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12 Signs You’Re Dating A Man, Not A Boy

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQmxb8e5eRpXZwwvBQduQEmoQIy-1E6ViGvx4r307LX_pZu05ghQ6LJFggD9UUde4o56HDe0aVROaiT8d84SnW0vIxnE1o0EgJiliyVv2GKYACR-PKZ_6Jx3alkdNokNx1CihdAkR4QvA/s1600/CoupleLyingInBedAndKissingOnNose-850x400.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQmxb8e5eRpXZwwvBQduQEmoQIy-1E6ViGvx4r307LX_pZu05ghQ6LJFggD9UUde4o56HDe0aVROaiT8d84SnW0vIxnE1o0EgJiliyVv2GKYACR-PKZ_6Jx3alkdNokNx1CihdAkR4QvA/s640/CoupleLyingInBedAndKissingOnNose-850x400.jpg" width="640" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Let me start this article off by telling you that all women are different and what they expect from a man will be different. Most women want to date men but for some reason, ironically, end up dating boys. It’s not your physical appearance, money or age that makes you a man. I personally wanted a boy in my life not a man; I ended up dating and falling in love with a boy. Dealing with a boy wasn’t easy; when he finally transitioned, I noticed that he turned out to become a man who was way manlier than many men I have known. My bad boy grew up with me, and I am proud of the gentleman he has become. Many of you might not agree with me but for me the criterion which differentiates boys from men is completely different. I don’t believe in the ‘Men will be men’ and ‘Boys will be Boys’ BS.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Remember, boys grow up to become men, some grow up young and others never will and that’s okay, there are people who love them for who they are. Just try this one thing next time you want to date a guy, try to know him as a friend, you won’t be friend zoned, I am married to my best friend. Don’t be like, ‘ooh that guy is hot, I so want to be his girlfriend’. For all you know, he might turn out to be the biggest jerk you have ever known. Here is my definition of what a man should be like.</div> <ol style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He is a good listener</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Every relationship has issues, but they cannot be dealt with if he doesn’t listen. A man is willing to listen no matter how harsh the criticism might be, he might not agree with you, but he will listen. Any boy who loves his woman will man up enough to at least hear his girl out. If he is incapable of doing so, your relationship might not go a long way! He might have a million flaws but if he listens and tries to correct his ways to put a smile on your face, you have a man on your hands.</div> <ol start="2" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He will respect you and others</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> He will treat your family with compassion and will respect their opinion. I am sorry but if he curses or abuses you or someone else because you guys don’t meet his standards, he is definitely a boy. Boys get intimidated by certain things women do and because they cannot express their feelings of fear, they resort to cursing. He might still be a good lover but he has issues. My bad boy used to curse all the time but he stopped and began to accept people for who they are. I sat him down and we talked about how I felt when he cursed and told him how pathetic he looked when he did. He didn’t even realize how wrong he was until I brought his attention to the topic.</div> <ol start="3" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He knows his Goals</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A man knows what he wants to do with his life and works hard to achieve his goals. You can see him working and doing his best. You might even be his inspiration to push forward. Boys tend to have a lot on their might but you don’t see them pushing in the direction they should. They are just disoriented and they need time to get their act together!</div> <ol start="4" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He gives his 100 percent to you and your relationship</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A man might not earn thousands or millions, but he isn’t afraid to spend each and every penny he has on you. He might not be able to buy you an iPad for Christmas but he will get you the best thing he can afford!</div> <ol start="5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He trusts you with other men</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A man will trust you and won’t be insecure about the fact that other men would ever take his place. He could be a 1000 miles away but he knows that no one would love you better and your heart and loyalty lie with him. A business trip, a long distance relationship or an all-nighter with friends wouldn’t bother him. He might miss you but he will always trust you.</div> <ol start="6" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He accepts your decisions</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Although he will cherish the decisions you both take together, he wouldn’t fuss if you make a decision on your own. He will admire you for stepping up and taking initiative.</div> <ol start="7" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He will be proud of your stability and confidence</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> If you are financially stable and confident, it wouldn’t mess with his ego. He would proudly brag about you and claim you as his ‘sexy, miss independent’. A man will see his success in your success!</div> <ol start="8" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He would be way above looks</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A man would love if you dress up for him, but nothing will stop him from loving and admiring you for who you are. You might be on your period and feel like an ugly smelly alien, but this will not stop him putting his arms around you and swinging you off your feet.</div> <ol start="9" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He will do his share of the chores</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A man would consider chores as an act of bonding and home making, he wouldn’t be afraid to fix you a meal or clean the dishes. Working around the house will not make him feel less of a man.</div> <ol start="10" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He will be loyal no matter what</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A Victoria secrets model might be sitting in front of him but this will not stop him from loving or admiring you for who you are! He will not want more women in his life to satisfy his selfishness. He will stay by you no matter what.</div> <ol start="11" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He will take a stand</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> He will stay by you no matter what. No matter what comes your way, he will stick by you. He won’t be afraid to stand against the world alone to defend your honour! He will be your biggest support and will make sure that you both get through the blizzard no matter what!</div> <ol start="12" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 22.8571px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 0px;"> <li style="box-sizing: border-box; padding-bottom: 5px;"><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; color: inherit; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">He will look forward to starting a family with you</strong></h2> </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> <div style="color: #353535;"> The idea of marriage or having children wouldn’t scare him away. He might not be ready right away but he would love to discuss the idea with you. The idea of starting a family with you will get him all hyped up and excited. His smile would say it all. A good man is no doubt a blessing.</div> <div style="color: #353535;"> <br /></div> <b><span style="color: red;">Read: </span></b><span style="color: #353535;"><a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=">9 Signs you are Dating a Mature Woman, Not a Girl</a></span></div> <h2 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 30px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px;"> Ladies, talk to me</h2> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> What do you guys look for in a man? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!</div> </div>

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Time to Rethink What Thought You Knew About Romantic Relationships and Affairs

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <header class="article-header"><h1 class="entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline"> Time to Rethink What Thought You Knew About Romantic Relationships and Affairs</h1> <div class="single-featured-image"> <img alt="" class="attachment-gz-thumb-750 size-gz-thumb-750 wp-post-image" height="426" itemprop="image" sizes="(max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_94618063_S-750x500.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_94618063_S-750x500.jpg 750w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_94618063_S-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_94618063_S-768x513.jpg 768w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_94618063_S-350x234.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_94618063_S.jpg 848w" width="640" /></div> <div class="social-share-container"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <br /></div> <span class="st_facebook_large" displaytext="Facebook"></span> <span class="st_twitter_large" displaytext="Tweet"></span> <span class="st_pinterest_large" displaytext="Pinterest"></span> <span class="st_linkedin_large" displaytext="LinkedIn"></span> <span class="st_googleplus_large" displaytext="Google +"></span> <span class="st_email_large" displaytext="Email"></span></div> </header><section class="entry-content clearfix" itemprop="articleBody">Esther Perel has an unmistakeable presence.  The Belgian speaker, therapist, author and TedX sweetheart has been challenging us all, including therapists like myself, to rethink our paradigms around romantic relationships and infidelity.<br /> Recently at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in DC, I had the opportunity to hear her speak about shifts in romantic relationships and the heart of the matter in modern day affairs.<br /> According to Esther, “expectations put on a romantic relationship are at an all time high” and mirror cultural shifts that have occurred.  There is more ambiguity with roles, social hierarchies and prohibitive religious structures are less intact, there is more freedom for self expression and happiness seeking for the individual is a higher priority.<br /> As we have moved away from community living with families and friends nearby, we have less sense of belonging.  “When we lived in the village we knew everything about the couple; every fight and every fuck,” she said, matter of factly.  As many issues there surely were with such intertwined living, now that the pendulum has swung to the other side and we now face the public health crisis of loneliness.  And couples have become more isolated, often rely on one person, each other, to be their trusted confidante, best friend, best lover and intellectual equal.<br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <em>“Our modern model for modern marriage is that one person will give us what an entire village used to provide.” </em></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> – Esther Perel</div> This is why the pain around infidelity is different today.  This betrayal can be incredibly traumatic because it threatens the sense of self, challenging the idea that this person was “the one.”  And the digital age of social media, texts and emails can feel like “death by a thousand cuts” to the one who has been betrayed and has discovered messages and other cyber evidence of an affair.<br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_194581581_XS-300x100.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-11046" height="100" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_194581581_XS-300x100.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_194581581_XS-300x100.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_194581581_XS-350x117.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Fotolia_194581581_XS.jpg 600w" width="300" /></a></div> <strong>What lies at the heart of an affair?</strong><br /> Esther reports it’s not usually really about the sex.  In her experience, she has found there has been a yearning to bring back some kind of vitality, recapture lost parts, an entitlement to seek out desires or simply be happier than we are.  Some affairs happen after years of monogamy in a relationship where the person never thought they would do such a thing but they feel driven to feel special, important, to beat back a sense of deadness.  And wanting what you can’t have can also be intoxicating.<br /> She touches on the issues that come up around “romantic consumerism,” that we now have thousands of people at our fingertips via dating apps and online sites.  This raises the question, how will you know when you’ve found “the one” with so much choice?<br /> <strong>What can modern couples do differently to preserve their relationships?</strong><br /> <ul> <li>Reconsider the expectations you put on each other.</li> <li>Rely on friends and family for some of your emotional burdens and need for connection.</li> <li>Keep your relationship dynamic fresh with new experiences, breaking up routines and maintaining even a little mystery between each other.</li> <li>Continue to find ways to make each other feel special and prioritized.</li> </ul> Intimate relationships, particularly long term, can inherently run into problems when the couples focus drifts too far away from the living, breathing relationship itself.  Like most plants, it needs attention and water to survive.  Yes, the paradigm around romantic relationships has changed but this doesn’t need to mean they are all destined for failure.  It’s an alert signaling the need for us all to rethink their meaning in the context of the world around us as and maybe most importantly, face and adapt to our societal issue of loneliness head on.<br /> <br /></section></div>

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<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="section summary" id="section-0" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; clear: left; float: left; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img src="http://si.wsj.net/public/resources/images/RV-AD855_BMARRI_DV_20110805183710.jpg" /></div> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Many women are attracted to much older men. Men who are 15 or even 20 years older can appear more confident, more stable, and even sexier than their younger counterparts. An older date may have interesting stories to tell about his life, and he can expose you to a new world with exciting adventures. Older guys can also seem more stable, and many older men are looking to marry.</div> </div> <div class="section" id="section-1" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <h2 style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: black; font-family: inherit; font-size: 14px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 5px; text-transform: uppercase; vertical-align: baseline;"> HE'S MATURE</h2> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When a younger woman calls her date mature, she's not just referring to his age. An older man has a better sense of himself. He's well established in his career and his life. He doesn't engage in late-night drinking binges with his friends. Instead, a much older man has reached a more settled point of his life. He doesn't want to pick up a variety of women; instead, he is often looking to establish a serious relationship with just one woman.</div> </div> <div class="section" id="section-2" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <h2 style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: black; font-family: inherit; font-size: 14px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 5px; text-transform: uppercase; vertical-align: baseline;"> HIS EXPERIENCE COUNTS</h2> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When it comes to sex, an older male is perceived as knowing his way around the bedroom. He's had to time to perfect his technique, and he can show his younger lover a good sexual time.With an older man, women don't expect any awkward moments in the dark. They expect the guy to know exactly what he is doing and to take the time to meet their needs.</div> <div class="section" id="search-600" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; text-transform: uppercase;"><b>READY FOR COMMITMENT</b></span></div> </div> <div class="section" id="section-3" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Many older guys have already had time to experiment and play the field. Now, they are looking to settle down and commit to a long-term relationship or even to marriage. At this point in his life, he knows that he doesn't want to be alone, and he knows the type of woman who will make him happy. If they have not already had children with previous spouses, older men may wish to immediately marry and start a new family, Women who are ready to marry and have children find that much older men may be the perfect fit for them.</div> </div> <div class="section" id="section-4" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <h2 style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: black; font-family: inherit; font-size: 14px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 5px; text-transform: uppercase; vertical-align: baseline;"> BETTER AT COMMUNICATING</h2> <div style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Women are drawn to older men because they are better communicators. Men with an age advantage of 15 years or more have already been through previous relationships. They have learned from their mistakes. They will try not to repeat these actions as they work on a new relationship. Older guys may dwell less on jealousy issues and instead focus on communicating clearly with you so that there will be no misunderstandings. He will be ready to work at making this relationship succeed.</div> </div> </div>

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<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <header class="article-header"><h1 class="entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline"> When Honesty is Not the Best Policy in Relationships</h1> <div class="single-featured-image"> <img alt="" class="attachment-gz-thumb-750 size-gz-thumb-750 wp-post-image" height="426" itemprop="image" sizes="(max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Fotolia_39989248_S-750x500.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Fotolia_39989248_S-750x500.jpg 750w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Fotolia_39989248_S-350x233.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Fotolia_39989248_S-300x199.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Fotolia_39989248_S.jpg 850w" width="640" /></div> <div class="social-share-container"> <h3> I once heard a client say with great pride that she has always been “honest” in her relationships.  She told people how she felt about them and situations at hand.  For her it was inauthentic or “fake” not to be this way.  I validated that this has been her belief system, likely learned at some time, then moved to how it might have made others feel to be on the receiving end of her honesty.  This generated a pause…</h3> </div> </header><section class="entry-content clearfix" itemprop="articleBody">“Well, I have never really had a filter…”  After another pause she was able to look at the possibility that her honesty has caused some pain for those around her.  She was able to question whether this style had ultimately served her and how learning to edit might improve her relationships.<br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <em>“Words are powerful.  Be careful how you use them because once you have pronounced them, you cannot remove the scar they leave behind.”  </em></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> – Vashti Quiroz-Vega</div> Honesty and open communication in relationships are strengths and couples that engage this way have a better chance of avoiding the build up of resentment as well as solidifying their very foundation as emotional safety with each other is reinforced. Even topics producing anger are better off handled openly.  A study by James McNulty, PhD looked at the positive effects of expressing anger around important issues in relationships.  This is quite the opposite of the common practice of sweeping problems under the rug (not a healthy relationship choice).  Couples with strong interaction and self-soothing skills to contain reactivity can benefit from this type of honesty.<br /> Honesty that doesn’t work so well are feelings expressed as criticism or contempt.  Regardless of how you feel about a situation it serves the relationship well to shape your language in a way that is most likely to be received and not elicit a defensive reaction. But when anger is involved it can be challenging to manage your reaction to allow for a more productive response.  If you’ve often engaged with people in an unfiltered way, there have surely been consequences along the way.<br /> Having disagreements and yes, arguments, are often part of the couple dynamic.  It doesn’t mean there’s necessarily anything wrong with your relationship but if you navigate the blips efficiently, your relationship can thrive as you both learn through experience that you can work things out, together.  If communication and self-soothing are skills that you and your partner struggle with, consider educating yourself around these topics to be better prepared to practice the healthy and loving kind of honesty.<br /> So toss out, <em>“I’m just being honest”</em> from your vocabulary because if you have responded that way, you’ve probably said something that hurt your mate and you feel the need to defend, which is never productive.  Find a more loving and compassionate way to relay the message and be prepared for the chance that your partner will still react with anger.<br /> Part of being human is that sometimes we piss each other off.  How we work through that is what counts.</section></div>

When Honesty is Not the Best Policy in Relationships

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How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <header class="article-header"><h1 class="entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline"> How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff</h1> <div class="single-featured-image"> <img alt="" class="attachment-gz-thumb-750 size-gz-thumb-750 wp-post-image" height="426" itemprop="image" sizes="(max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_28122035_S-750x500.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_28122035_S-750x500.jpg 750w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_28122035_S-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_28122035_S-768x512.jpg 768w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_28122035_S-350x233.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_28122035_S.jpg 849w" width="640" /></div> <div class="social-share-container"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <br /></div> <span class="st_facebook_large" displaytext="Facebook"></span> <span class="st_twitter_large" displaytext="Tweet"></span> <span class="st_pinterest_large" displaytext="Pinterest"></span> <span class="st_linkedin_large" displaytext="LinkedIn"></span> <span class="st_googleplus_large" displaytext="Google +"></span> <span class="st_email_large" displaytext="Email"></span></div> </header><section class="entry-content clearfix" itemprop="articleBody">If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role.  “I have a role?” you ask.  Yes, you just might.  The baggage you’ve been carrying could be weighing you AND your relationships down.<br /> There are many ways that your stuff can get in the way of how you relate to people.  What is your narrative about yourself and how others will treat you?  Your value?  This story plays out as an <em>underlying belief system</em> in which you filter how you see the world.  You might be unconsciously scanning your environment for evidence to support your story.  What if your story is inaccurate?<br /> Here are some possible ways you might be sabotaging your relationships by not owning your stuff:<br /> <ul> <li>You have rigid expectations of how others are with with you and can be easily disappointed, leading you to cut off from people –><ul> <li>Underlying Belief:  <strong>People will let me down.</strong></li> </ul> </li> <li>You are a people pleaser to avoid conflict but you carry resentment for doing more than your share or being taken advantage of –><ul> <li>Underlying Belief:  <strong>People will reject or abandon me unless I make them happy.</strong></li> </ul> </li> <li>You struggle to let intimate partners in too close to you yet desperately want connection. –><ul> <li>Underlying Belief:  <strong>I am unlovable</strong> …or… <strong>Intimate relationships</strong> <strong>can’t be trusted.</strong></li> </ul> </li> <li>There is a big difference between how your portray yourself to others and how you feel.  –><ul> <li>Underlying Belief:  <strong>I am not ok</strong>…or…<strong>There is something wrong with me.</strong></li> </ul> </li> </ul> Belief systems such as the ones above can develop from painful experiences or messages received from the important people in your life about connection, love, safety and your value.  This can reflect itself in unhealthy relationship patterns.  You might even be attracting partners who reinforce your negative story!<br /> If you’ve never worked through your painful experiences, you can inadvertently sabotage your relationships with your narrative.  You might ASSUME that things happen a certain way and these expectations can either make it be so (self fulfilling prophecy) or make it hard to believe someone’s intentions.  This can also ultimately lead to a self fulfilling prophecy when the partner who never gains trust finally leaves because it’s too painful to stay!<br /> If you take ownership of your wounds and the strategies in which you developed to defend against further pain, your world view can actually shift.  Self-love, fulfilling relationships and a sense of peace become possible.<br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_40322538_XS-300x216.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" border="0" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-9109" height="216" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_40322538_XS-300x216.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_40322538_XS-300x216.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_40322538_XS-350x252.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Fotolia_40322538_XS.jpg 408w" width="300" /></a></div> <strong>How to unwind out of a painful past</strong><br /> If you can do the following three things, you have a great chance of lightening your load and break out of unhealthy patterns.<br /> <ol> <li>Identify your issues.</li> <li>Understand the source of the problem.</li> <li>Resolve the issues with deeper level change.</li> </ol> This can be done by finding a local therapist to help, processing with a trusted friend or diving into the world of self help if you’re more of a “Do-It-Yourself” type.  Check out my mini guide, Break Your Unhealthy Relationship Patterns for a step in the right direction.<br /> What you’re trying to avoid is inadvertently sabotaging your relationships with unresolved emotional issues.  This deeper kind of work is the ultimate act of self-care for YOU and your relationships, potentially with life long impact.<br /> Be well.</section></div>

How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff

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