How To Reduce The Pressure Of The First Date

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLH-X9v3WePD73wpP4Iz3rFPw7YxkbsXSm4QJqitW2hEa5N-rVa8vbDc6E0w4_bwmOpBeQsgASuzSs8IA8ZDCn4joNzPWm1sIzfqpCOw87wgcCZ-NxdMgqsURmEC0pGclw0Gzx9BU52Hs/s1600/tip.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLH-X9v3WePD73wpP4Iz3rFPw7YxkbsXSm4QJqitW2hEa5N-rVa8vbDc6E0w4_bwmOpBeQsgASuzSs8IA8ZDCn4joNzPWm1sIzfqpCOw87wgcCZ-NxdMgqsURmEC0pGclw0Gzx9BU52Hs/s400/tip.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <br /></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Whether you’re 25 and fancy free or 65 with grown children, first dates for the majority of people are <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">pressure moments</em>—a situation in which you have something at stake and the outcome is dependent on your performance.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When pressure is your chaperone, you become overly self-conscious, anxious, a poor listener, and abrupt speaker, and poor judgment that causes you to be unlike a “gentleman or lady.” Pressure makes you unattractive — it’s the opposite of your Fairy Godmother. And while performing under pressure does not guarantee love at first meeting, it does increase the chances that there will be a second date. Then, anything is possible. Here are the 4 most common first date pressures and how to reduce them so you can be your best when it matters most.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. The Pressure to Look Good</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Pressure on first dates is created by wanting to be attractive to others and uncertain if you will be. Most try to reduce this pressure by enhancing how they look via their dress or hairstyle. These “attractiveness boosters” help but physical appearance only takes you so far. It’s more effective to reduce first date pressure by <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">switching your focus</em> from how you <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">look</em> to others to how you <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">feel </em>about yourself.  Prior to the date, remember your assets, reaffirm your self worth, and look for fun. You’ll feel more confident and positive and your own experiences will confirm — as do many studies — that people who are positive and confident are attractive to others.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. Date Place Pressure</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Dates, like battles, can be won and lost because of location, and choosing the wrong location can turn a date into a battle. Where to go becomes a pressured decision and decisions made under pressure are usually bad. Reduce <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">right place pressure</em> by remembering that nature guides you to seek an empowering environment so you can flourish. Be considerate of your date, but take more time to think about what type of location allows you to be authentic. A restaurant you can’t afford doesn’t. Even if your date doesn’t choose the meeting place, if you are relaxed and authentic, you will be having fun and most likely he or she will too. Case in point is that most people try to reduce this first date pressure by selecting a place his or her date would like. A hot place might be impressive to your date, but it could also prevent you from having a charming, fun conversation, let alone hearing one. A celebrity chef restaurant might be impressive, but the expensive hidangan makes you jittery, especially when ordering!</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Conversational Pressure</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Conversation is a natural and spontaneous occurrence, but when it comes to a first date, people feel pressured to do it “right.” Topics to discuss or not, what information to share or keep private, often turn into worry. Nobody wants a dating aftermath to be, “I never should have said that. I was boring, and we had nothing to talk about. I was too quiet, and I sounded silly.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Most people reduce conversational pressure by increasing their awareness to what they will say and how they say it and before the date, deciding what they will not disclose, like past relationships, or financial status.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You can reduce conversational pressure by expressing your thoughts and feelings about the topics you discuss in the moment. Thoughts and feelings represent intimate levels of communication—they are your uniqueness and add color to the conversation. Sharing them makes you more interesting to others and knowing their thoughts and feelings make them more interesting to you.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> It’s easy to integrate thoughts and feelings into your first date conversation. Just preference your statements with “I think…I feel.” Instead of giving details of your job, express your thoughts and feelings about your job –your date will learn a lot more about what makes you tick.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Encourage your date to share his thoughts and feelings too and refrain from evaluating them – that would add pressure; rather ask for more of his thoughts and feelings so you make the conversation even more authentic. The goal is to have a first date conversation that helps you feel connected. If you do, you will want a second date. If you don’t, you don’t.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Because it’s a hardwired human need to want a relationship, first dates are important to us. Your most effective way to reduce the pressure is to remember that a first date is not a do or die situation, but an <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">opportunit</em>y to have <em style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">fun</em> and meet someone that can enhance your life and even if it doesn’t work out, there are always more dates to come. When you date along these lines, you’ll feel less first-date pressure and enjoy yourself when it matters most!</div> </div>

How To Reduce The Pressure Of The First Date

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Ladies: 10 Signs To Know He Wants To Marry You: Put Him To The Test

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> It’s no secret, women have strong intuition and we can usually sense what our partner is thinking. If you suspect he’s thinking about marriage, you are probably right. Sometimes it’s hard to tell what men are thinking though, especially when it comes to commitment.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If he is doing any of these 10 things, you might be closer to walking down the aisle than you think. If you have been dying to know if he’ll take the plunge but don’t want to make him feel pressured, just look for signs he wants to marry you. The proof is in the pudding.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> These 10 signs can help you navigate where you stand in his mind, even without him telling you. If he is doing these things you can be pretty sure he’s taking the relationship seriously. No one likes to be with a guy who won’t commit, so don’t! If he is dragging his feet and not treating you like a queen, find someone who will.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 1. Investing in your future</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img alt=" women have strong intuition and we can usually sense what our partner is thinking LADIES: 10 Signs To Know He Wants to Marry You: Put Him to the Test" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-72233" height="347" src="http://youqueen.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Beautiful-young-couple-standing-at-the-car-dealership-and-making-their-decision.jpg" style="border: 0px; display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;" width="585" /></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Has he offered to help you buy a car or pay for higher education? Maybe he’s offered to pay off your debt or help you consolidate debt. If he is starting to look to the future when your finances will be joined, chances are he’s not going to think twice about making investments that will benefit your future life together.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If he asks for your opinion when making big purchases, it is a good sign he sees you both enjoying his new purchases together. If he has got you a really nice piece of jewelry lately, he might be testing the waters so to speak in order to see your response. Remember, guys don’t want to be rejected when they pour their heart out and their entire life is on the line with the power of your one word: ‘yes’ or ‘no’.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Why not get a house magazine, a travel magazine or a parenting book. I mean don’t freak him out, but give him signs that you’re ready so he can feel more comfortable. As you do the pre engagement dance, you will start to change as you think about what your life together will be like and what you want it to be like. When you begin planning, he will also begin to pick up on the signs, so that’s a good thing.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="color: #666666; font-size: 34px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 24px;">2. Planning vacations together</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Here’s a sign that he’s taken a strong interest in you. If he’s planning vacations with you and his family or closest friends, he’s taking you pretty seriously. Even if it’s just the two of you but you can tell he is really trying to impress you, get to know you and get closer, it’s a pretty big sign my friend.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Okay, planning in general is a sign he’s up to something. Have you noticed if he has been more frugal lately, is he saving up to buy you a ring maybe? Did he plan a vacation to a romantic location where he might be thinking of asking you? Is he buttering you up like a thanksgiving ham so he can stick you in the marriage oven? Sounds delicious, doesn’t it?</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 3. He wants to work out your differences</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When a guy goes the extra mile to try to improve communication and maybe suggests couples therapy, this is a sign he wants to make it work. If he is making an effort to see your perspective or has curtailed some of the behaviors that get under your skin, maybe he is growing up and planning your future as a happy couple. If he has softened up recently, he might be warming up to the idea of forever.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Is he letting go of things that used to really make him mad? In that case, he must be doing some deep thinking. If he has made an effort to be nice to your friends that you know he doesn’t like that much, he is probably trying to impress you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When a man, simply put, starts acting like a man and less like a child, it’s definitely on purpose. A man cannot act without motivation and if he’s been looking in the mirror recently and getting in touch with his inner truth, you’ll know something is up. If you’re reading this article and things are ringing a bell, congratulations, he might be about to change your whole life.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> It might be time to break open the champagne and call Aunt Mindy pretty soon (she’s the one you never talk to, but feel compelled to call just to tell her you’re getting married).</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 4. He can’t get enough of you</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img alt=" women have strong intuition and we can usually sense what our partner is thinking LADIES: 10 Signs To Know He Wants to Marry You: Put Him to the Test" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-72236" height="390" src="http://youqueen.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/young-couple-with-playful-behavior-in-bedroom.jpg" style="border: 0px; display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;" width="585" /></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Does he invite you over every night? Has he talked about moving in together? Has he been spending an inordinate amount of time with you? Chances are he is smitten and thinking about the next step. If you’ve been together for a while, at least six months, chances are he’s thinking about it, even if he hasn’t mentioned it.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If he keeps choosing to hang out with you over his friends, he might be ready to take the plunge. If he is showering you with compliments and seems really happy, this man is most likely very satisfied with you and thinking about that big decision.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Has he put pictures of you everywhere, in his wallet and at his office? Does he call you and text you a lot? Does he ask to have dates and surprise you with fun things? When a guy is really excited about you, he won’t be able to stop. They aren’t that good at hiding it.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 5. He introduces you to everyone he knows</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Here’s a big sign. Has he introduced you to all of the people that are important to him? This includes best friends, coworkers, and family. If he’s not ashamed of your relationship and he’s making sure everyone knows you guys are an item, chances are you’ve got yourself a committed man that will be on his knee in not too long.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You’ll pick up on how he’s behaved in the past; maybe you’re the first one he has introduced to everyone. Guys are usually very cautious about bringing girls into the circle of trust. But when you’re in, it’s a big sign he loves you. Pay attention to how he introduces you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> What did he say, does he compliment you, and is he proud of you? Does he hold your hand in front of them? This man wants to literally hold onto you until death do you part.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 6. Meeting the parents</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Guys are funny creatures. Some of them will bring their parents on their first date (yes I’ve seen this happen), some guys will introduce you to their parents within the first week of dating, and some guys are more protective and wait for a while. Whatever the case may be, if he’s introduced you to his parents, this is a sign that he’s serious about you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If he had cold feet about meeting your parents and suddenly warmed up to the idea like it was no big deal, this man’s mind has changed. Is he asking to meet your parents and siblings? Is he asking what your parents like, trying to get to know them and get on their good side? Is he trying to score brownie points?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you’ve never been married before, you might not even realize what you’re walking into when a man gets serious about the relationship. Don’t think he’s just being nice because likes you. A man will not embrace a woman’s family unless he’s thinking they are going to become his family.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 7. Looking at houses</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Has he become obsessed with looking at houses recently? If so, he might be thinking about wedding bells my dear. Usually guys don’t buy houses with girls they aren’t serious about. If he’s looking at them with you, he’s probably planning on living in one with you. Is this getting you excited? Getting nervous?</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Has he started talking about furniture or mortgages? Has he been obsessed with figuring out the job that will offer you both a great lifestyle? Has he been talking about or looking over “figures” a lot? He’s got nuptials on his mind if he’s plotting to nest.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 8. Talking about children</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Yes, this is a big one too. If he keeps bringing up how he wants to be a dad or what a great mom you would make, his mind is in the future and he sees you guys starting a family. If you have noticed him commenting on babies or talking about friend’s kids, this man’s primal instincts are kicking in; he’s looking long term.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Now, if you’re shopping, and he takes a turn into the kid section, you can almost guarantee his mind is scheming. Has he bought any self-help books recently? When men are thinking about becoming fathers, they often try to better themselves and prepare. For that matter, when they are getting ready for marriage, they will often do that as well.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Maybe he dropped a bad habit, cleaned up his diet, started an exercise plan or made an effort to get a better paying job. If he has become more responsible lately, he might be thinking about settling down.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 9. He’s really open with you</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img alt=" women have strong intuition and we can usually sense what our partner is thinking LADIES: 10 Signs To Know He Wants to Marry You: Put Him to the Test" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-72238" height="390" src="http://youqueen.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Couple-having-a-spritz-time-with-a-lake-view.jpg" style="border: 0px; display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px auto; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;" width="585" /></div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When a man becomes vulnerable, it’s a good sign. If he has suddenly begun to share embarrassing moments, feelings, and other sensitive things, he might really have serious plans with you. When a man trusts you, he behaves differently. He lets his guard down and is more of his goofy self.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Remember to be sensitive to him as he opens up, so he doesn’t feel like you’re going to attack him if he does let his guard down. Try not to judge him, and see him as a fellow human that is learning life lessons and doing the best he can.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 34px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; padding: 10px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> 10. He’s extra attentive</h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Have you noticed him being extra nice to you recently? Has he been noticing when you change your hair or complimenting you on your outfits? Has he offered to take you out to dinner and gotten you flowers. Maybe he’s stopped leaving a mess in the living room or made sure to put down the toilet seat.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When a man starts being a gentleman and stops being a boyfriend, he’s thinking seriously about something. Has he become more supportive of your ideas or asked you about your goals? Why is he evaluating your five year plan? What is he trying to figure out? If you sense that your guy is trying to see if your goals line up, this guy is sizing up wife material.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If he’s not doing any of these things, it doesn’t mean he isn’t serious about you. Only you can know for sure. If you’re wondering, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just asking. If you do want to marry this man, you want to be able to be open about your feelings anyway, right? If you’re so curious, just see what his thoughts are.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> What if you never asked and you spent years with someone just trying to ‘read the signs’ and not wanting to scare him off. Maybe he’s not looking for marriage and you can save yourself the heartache early on. Don’t pressure him by saying something like ‘when do you want to get married?’ but see if it’s something he’s considering.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Open and candid relationships have the best chances of making it. Don’t be afraid to speak up and be open.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When you feel his energy turned towards you, you will know something is up. If he is remembering what you say, listening intently and cancelling fantasy football with his buddies so you can have a movie night, this man has a ring on his mind.</div> <a class="bannerclick h2" data-id="70547" href="http://3b4ceei8r1ir5mabni-dscgifm.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=H2A1" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition: 0.2s; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #1aadd2; display: block; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-stretch: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none; transition: 0.2s; vertical-align: baseline;"></a><br /> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: 'Source Sans Pro'; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 26px; padding: 0px 0px 20px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you know someone who could benefit from this article, do them a favor and pass it along. I would love to hear feedback from you amazing women, and I thank you for being a part of the You Queen community.</div> </div>

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6 Things To Remember When Rejection Hurts

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <div style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img src="http://www.gossipgirlsa.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/back-to-back-bed-fight.jpg" /></div> </div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">We have all been through rejection at some point in our lives, when you are being criticised, laughed at or dismissed by a person you really care about. </span><span id="more-525" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;"></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;">It can be gut-wrenching and downright embarrassing, you might even start feeling unworthy. These points might help you  stand up on our feet again, when the initial feelings of hurt have passed.</span><br /> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 6. Do not expect the person to change</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> The first and the hardest step is to accept and let go, understand that the person who you were in love with or had any kind of a bond with, has no feelings of affection left to offer, all they can and will give you is more pain and rejection. So don’t try to cling to that person hoping that one day your persistent love can make them go back on their decision. Prepare yourself to move on and that comes only after you fully accept the situation.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 5. It is not the end of the world</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> It is crucial to understand that this is just a temporary situation, you cannot dwell on it forever- it is not the end. This is just God’s way of redirecting you to something better, let that plan fall into place by being strong and patient. You are broken and hurt, but it’s the toughest storms that make the bravest sailors. Understand that you will come out of this, nothing ends here.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 4. Do not beg and plead</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> In a situation like this, it is normal to try and make that person see things your way, to make them reconsider their decision but after that initial justification and persuasion, comes a point where you need to stop begging them to take you back. Every time you knock on the same door and it keeps shutting, right on your face, you lose a little piece of your self-respect to them, even if they do take you back, temporarily, it will be out of sympathy and soon you will find yourself at their feet, again.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 3. You deserve better</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> A person who doesn’t realise or respect your feelings for them, wants to push you away and let go, doesn’t deserve you. What you ought to have, is a person who reciprocates your feelings, loves you, respects you and doesn’t take you for granted. The person rejecting you is not the last person on the planet, it might feel like he or she is ‘the one’ in that moment, but there is always someone out there who is better suited for you and you will have a chance to meet this person, only after you end this toxic chapter.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 2. Stop looking for closure</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> Some relationships have to end, without proper closure but that does not mean that you still have a chance to make it work. No matter how hard you try to fix it, you never will. You will be stuck in between trying to fix it and trying to end it, what you need to understand is that some relationships are meant to stay that way, broken.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Roboto Condensed', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 36px; font-weight: 200; line-height: 1.1; margin: 20px 0px;"> 1. Be your own hero</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #353535; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 20px;"> If you look for happiness in other people you are most likely to come out disappointed, happiness comes from within. You need only one person to make you happy, who has complete control over your life and that person is you. Respect yourself enough to let go of that person. Happiness is a decision, it does not happen miraculously. The moment you pick yourself up, have the courage to face your problems, is the moment you have taken the first step toward contentment.</div> </div>

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2 Simple Words You Need Much More To Be Saying In Your Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody> <tr><td style="text-align: center;"><img alt=" Two simple words that feel so good to hear 2 Simple Words You Need Much More To Be Saying In Your Relationship" src="http://static.eharmony.com/dating-advice/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/thank-you-in-relationships.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" /></td></tr> <tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">"Thank you" Two simple words that feel so good to hear.</td></tr> </tbody></table> So, why do so many couples use them so infrequently? William James, the great American psychologist, said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”<br /> <br /> Appreciation is a gift we give others that costs us nothing! And giving just a little bit of it through effective communication goes further towards improving our relationships more than any over-priced “thing.” We all know this. So why are so many of us stingy when it comes to showing appreciation?<br /> <br /> Are we too busy? Too self-important? Too entitled? Or simply too stubborn and emotionally ungenerous?<br /> <br /> Sure, you can say “Well, s/he’s supposed to do that.” Right. Possibly. But does that mean people in your life don’t deserve acknowledgment? After all, I’ll bet you’d have something to say about it if those things didn’t get done (or that kindness and affection wasn’t shown to you).<br /> <br /> At home, we don’t appreciate—we expect! We say things like, “If you really love me, you would ______.” Where is the appreciation for our loved ones? Do you expect the garbage to go out and the dishes be put away? Why? Because it’s their “job?” Well, in life we get paid for doing a job, so how about paying them with a “thank you?” Everyone craves recognition for their efforts. So, show a little appreciation. It’s a very easy habit to acquire.<br /> <br /> <b>Transform your relationship with your teenager.</b><br /> <br /> Ever lived with teenagers? It’s pretty hard to motivate them, right? Or is it? The easiest way to engage a teen is to catch them doing something right. That means recognizing and rewarding the behavior you want to see more of. Saying “thank you” is an easy way to do that.<br /> <br /> Tell them what you like about what they’re doing, thinking, and wearing. And skip all the criticism about what you don’t like. Simply look and you’ll find many things each day worthy of acknowledgment. Try it for a month and watch their attitude (and your relationship with them) transform.<br /> <br /> <b>Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.</b><br /> <br /> Once you make a point to acknowledge the contributions of your family and partner, remember: once is not enough. Each time they take the trash out, bring you your coffee, or extend themselves on your behalf, say those powerful words,”thank you.”<br /> <br /> <b>Know what to overlook.</b><br /> <br /> There is another side to showing appreciation. It is as equally important as mulut recognition. Knowing what to compliment is one thing … but knowing what to overlook is also a way of showing love.<br /> <br /> <b>Ah! That’s worth thinking about, isn’t it?</b><br /> <br /> William James once said: “The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.” He was right. When things don’t go according to our expectations, we start pointing fingers. Tempers flare and nitpicking escalates. A wise person takes a step back and looks at the whole picture. They put their needs and wants aside for a moment and make space to see the other person’s wants and needs, as well. They ask themselves: What is happening here? What do we truly want to happen?<br /> <br /> Whether at home or at work, this is the time to focus on appreciation and then follow it with conscious problem-solving.<br /> <br /> When you feel things getting tense, pause and reflect on a time you felt appreciated. More importantly, ask yourself when was the last time you actually found something to appreciate in another? This helps diffuse the anger, frustration, fear or hurt that you are feeling and allows you to refocus your energy on good communication.<br /> <br /> <b>Start with yourself.</b><br /> <br /> Demanding to receive respect or appreciation when the other person is feeling deprived of it will only escalate the conflict. Whoever is most sane at the moment, in any relationship, is the one responsible for bringing that relationship back to positive connection. Let that “sane” person be you.<br /> <br /> <b>Appreciation is never wasted.</b><br /> <br /> Find things to acknowledge. Notice what others do well. Catch them doing things right. Notice what others do for you. Offer your thanks. You’ll feel better. And, very soon, it will come back to you. I promise.</div>

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Why People Are Afraid Of Change (And How To Be More Accepting Of It)

<div style="text-align: left;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhK4Tmexs7fvfscDdVHZWRG8xm2Jn_q0sUEMMgypLhqwlBDRR5PteWBVJ_kqsg7LTH1hedpXz-cii8K2ml_Cj_I5xw-aJ_Go_Gy4P9qgY1N9f_EZtUq4yQttOAsdYweaeTzTsvl4wG3vaw/s1600/learn-to-accept-change.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="How we deal with change is what defines us Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="735" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhK4Tmexs7fvfscDdVHZWRG8xm2Jn_q0sUEMMgypLhqwlBDRR5PteWBVJ_kqsg7LTH1hedpXz-cii8K2ml_Cj_I5xw-aJ_Go_Gy4P9qgY1N9f_EZtUq4yQttOAsdYweaeTzTsvl4wG3vaw/s1600/learn-to-accept-change.jpg" title="Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" width="600" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Change is good. Change is scary. <u>Change is inevitable.</u> </span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">How we deal with change is what defines us. How we embrace change is what makes us. We can run from change, avoid it all costs, but it always catches up with us and we have no choice but to face it head on. We often avoid change because<b> the outcome is uncertain</b>, <i>it's easier to stick with what we're used to.</i> I'm going to talk a bit about dealing with change in relationships, change in work and life decisions that can lead to huge changes within ourselves.</span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I get scared of new situations, whether it's work or education. When I'm going to be in a place where I'm surrounded by new people, I get anxious. I don't know the outcome, I don't know if I'll get along with anybody or if I'll fit in there, but it's something I have to face. Can you notice a similarity in my thought process? We quickly imagine <b>the worst case scenario</b> when it comes to change. We think up all the possibilities that could go wrong and make it hard for us, but we never really focus on the positives. Instead of thinking that I might meet some amazing people, I might make great friendships and I might experience an amazing change in my life, I immediately fear for the worst.</span><br /> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="color: #e06666; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2DIgoC9"><span style="color: #e06666;">Want to make change in your life? Read 'Change Your Mind: 57 Ways To Unlock Your Creative Self'</span></a></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-size: large; font-weight: normal;"><i>It's ok to be scared of change. It's ok to be afraid of the unknown. It's human to feel that way.</i></span></div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">So many people stay in<b> </b>toxic relationships because they're scared of what will happen when it ends. <b>They've become so dependent </b>on someone who they know is having a negative impact on their life, however, they physically can't leave them because they're scared of how their life will change when the relationship ends. They choose to hold on to something that's bad for them because they don't know how they'll cope with the change of being on their own. </span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><u>I've experienced this myself.</u> </span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I spent years with someone who had a mental hold on me, critiqued my weight and my appearance, had little respect for me. My life outside the relationship wasn't great either but I couldn't make myself leave that person over the fear of not being able to cope on my own, fear of the change that was to come. I thankfully was able to leave the relationship behind and move on with my own life and although the change was difficult, it was something that needed to be done. And even though more negatives than positives came out of that relationship, it changed me as a person and made me so much stronger and<b> I gained the respect for myself </b>to walk away from toxic situations.</span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Leaving a toxic job is also a big decision a lot of people face. Like I mentioned earlier, it can be easier to put up with a negative work environment than to risk leaving your job and actually finding something you enjoy. I used to work so hard at a job that pretty much made me miserable and I'm currently taking steps to change that. The work hours were good, the pay was decent but I was so unhappy and <u>it's only fair to myself<b> </b>if I choose to change that part of my life.</u></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><i>Not quite sure what to do with your life yet? Read <a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q="><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none; -webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(61, 133, 198); color: #3d85c6;">this</span></a></i></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I get scared of the future. I'm comfortable in my life at the moment. I live in a nice house, I have my family close by, I have a dog that I love to pieces. However, I haven't fulfilled everything in my own life yet. I know I'm probably going to have to move away for work opportunities in the future and leave the life I'm used to behind for a while, and that scares me. It would be easier if I chose a smaller life and stay where I am. But life isn't about taking the easy route. It's so important to fight that feeling and push yourself through the anxiety that comes along with change.</span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"></span><br /> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"><i> As humans we're built to adjust to our surroundings, we're built to adapt to changes.</i></span></div> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"> </span> <br /> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <span style="color: #444444; font-family: "avenir next"; font-size: large;"> </span></div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">I always say you choose the life you're living. If I'm unhappy in life, it's because of choices I've made and I'm the only one who can change it. <b>The changes I make determine the life I have. </b>So if you're unhappy in life or afraid to make a big change that could lead to much greater happiness, you owe it to yourself to put that change into action and live the life you deserve. You deserve to be happy and you have the power to make that change.</span><br /> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;"><span style="color: #e06666;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2DGz2tY"><span style="color: #e06666;"><span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: small;">Read </span><span style="color: #e06666;">Change Your Mind: 57 Ways To Unlock Your Creative Self</span></span></a></span></span></div> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="font-family: 'avenir next'; line-height: normal;"> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="color: #444444; font-kerning: none; font-size: large;">Have you ever faced a difficult change in your life?</span></div> </div> <div style="font-size: 16px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none; font-size: x-small;">Pin it for later</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgttsjRcaKBhvLkikXskPcsRLHRJPMVqrHND5ogCalsHGkh6vL-fkASJg26qXAyMLSkq8tFDNc73x4exhfL3vibX-npaC3Iv0lPtG2ExgoWWv1Z7gDtqla09hAKMeB6xPOYvbZyjf-dJiA/s1600/how-to-deal-with-change.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="How we deal with change is what defines us Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" border="0" data-original-height="1400" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgttsjRcaKBhvLkikXskPcsRLHRJPMVqrHND5ogCalsHGkh6vL-fkASJg26qXAyMLSkq8tFDNc73x4exhfL3vibX-npaC3Iv0lPtG2ExgoWWv1Z7gDtqla09hAKMeB6xPOYvbZyjf-dJiA/s1600/how-to-deal-with-change.png" title="Why People Are Afraid Of Change (and How To Be More Accepting of it)" width="220" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 16px; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-size: 18px; text-align: center;"> </div> </div> </div>

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Seven Things That Are Important To Men

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <img height="425" src="http://i.huffpost.com/gadgets/slideshows/207659/slide_207659_663714_free.jpg" style="text-align: left;" width="640" /></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px;">it can be rather difficult to build successful relationships with men. That is due to the fact they are absolutely different from women. If you really want to understand men, I should say that simple communication is not enough. There are lots of books available about men and their psychology. Perhaps you’ll be surprised to find out some interesting things about women that are important to men. I recommend you to get acquainted with these things if you want to avoid numerous misunderstandings with your man. Here are some of them.</span></div> <div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 1. Respect</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> One of the greatest things that really matter to men is respect. They do everything possible in order to be respected by their friends and colleagues. When a guy sees that he is not respected enough by others, he suffers greatly. Moreover, lack of respect may even lower his self-esteem. When it comes to relationship with women respect also should be taken into consideration. We usually don’t pay much attention to this thing, but those girls who give boys respect will win over.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 2. Appreciation</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> I was amazed to discover that almost all men can’t live without appreciation. They constantly need compliments on their achievements. The only thing you have to do is to be grateful to a man and his happiness will be endless. He will experience the same feeling as you do when hearing about his love. Just say a few compliments to your guy and you will see the difference.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 3. Your Smile</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> Do you know that your smile is fantastic? You can charm everybody with it, especially your man. Let him enjoy the warmth of your happy smile. Surely, every man wants to have an optimistic woman in his life who will always share her positive emotions with him. If a girl is happy that means she has a loving and caring boy. By showing your happiness to your guy you’ll give him an opportunity to understand how good he is. Remember that such small thing like your smile contributes greatly to your relationship with the one you love.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 4. Time to Think</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> The fact is that men don’t think very quickly. When some great events happen in their life, they need extra time to process everything. Every time your man has to make a serious decision he will always hesitate and think it over for a long time. As a rule, it takes him much time to consider all pros and cons of the situation. As for women, they always know what they think of the issue discussed.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 5. You Look Beautiful</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> It doesn’t mean that your guy will grudge when he sees you wearing your favorite pajamas at home. However, it will bring him more pleasure to watch you looking your best. But you shouldn’t use a lot of makeup or buy the most expensive and stylish clothes. Actually, being beautiful is not looking like a top model. Natural beauty is much more appreciated than anything else. Your sweetheart will be happy to know that you make efforts to look amazing only for him.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 6. Compliments on His Work</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> Another thing that matters to your man is your praise for his work. Try to compliment him whenever he deserves it. If a guy works hard to achieve success, your appreciation will certainly motivate him for greater results. No matter what your husband or boyfriend does, your compliments will cheer him up. Moreover, you can improve his mood with your pleasant words.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 28px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 40px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: justify;"> 7. Your Laugh</h3> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> You can be sure that your laugh influences your man in the same way as your smile does. Without a doubt, your laugh has a magical effect on your close people. It is the brightest sign of your joy and happiness. If you smile and laugh a lot, your guy will always feel comfortable with you. I’m convinced it’s impossible to build a happy and successful relationship with a man if he often sees you dissatisfied and unhappy.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> It is obvious that you should be aware of your man’s likes and dislikes, things that make him happy. In such way you can reach a mutual understanding with the most precious person in your life. Bear in mind all these things when you communicate with your sweetheart. Which of them do you find the most effective? Please share your thoughts in the comments section.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: justify;"> <br /></div> </div>

Seven Things That Are Important To Men

it can be rather difficult to build successful relationships with men. That is due to the fact they are absolutely different from wome...

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