5 Tips For Starting A New Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5L3oeBKplVY1XHMT-1w-Qa33P7UbeAbQ74LTNenRV4mEmds7k-AeZR0u3PZtJzmE_PGU1GxEnQi1KOr5qC07xBGn22vB3b3JdHkXGJyq00C0mStzWUfXhak1ltQ7wGQ8kB6TwiZpH0Kk/s1600/5-tips-start-relationship-1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5L3oeBKplVY1XHMT-1w-Qa33P7UbeAbQ74LTNenRV4mEmds7k-AeZR0u3PZtJzmE_PGU1GxEnQi1KOr5qC07xBGn22vB3b3JdHkXGJyq00C0mStzWUfXhak1ltQ7wGQ8kB6TwiZpH0Kk/s400/5-tips-start-relationship-1.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Beginning a relationship can feel a lot like entering uncharted waters (no matter how many times you've done it). There's no map. Every girl you date has unique personality traits, needs and desires, so you can't necessarily approach each relationship the same cookie-cutter way.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Perhaps you're ready to take things to the next level with someone you've been dating. Or maybe you want to be with a friend you've developed feelings for over time. Regardless of how you've arrived at this crossroads, five practical tips can help you get off to a good start and navigate your path as a couple. These tips aren't tricks, rules or games. Leave that to dating -- you know, that casual, noncommitted time spent together doing things like going to movies or out to dinner. The approaches we'll discuss here are fitting if you want to set yourself up for something much more: a relationship that's about an emotional, committed connection.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: table-cell; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; height: 46px; line-height: 19.695999145507813px; margin: 15px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: middle; width: 380px;"> 5. Get Clear on What You Want</h2> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> First things first. Identify what you want out of a relationship. Think big picture here. Maybe you want to see multiple girls at one time to play the dating circuit. Or maybe you want to fall in love and be in a monogamous relationship. Whether casual or committed, relationships are much easier (and more fun) if you know what you want out of the experience before you start one.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Our brains are wired to experience lust, romantic love and attachment (a sense of calm and security for a long-term partner), according to Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and expert on romantic love. She says it's possible to experience these three distinct types of love simultaneously -- even for three people at the same time. Which ones are most important to you? If you're after all three in one person, great! Just get clear on what you desire so you can manifest it.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Actualize your ideal relationship by listing qualities you’re looking for in a partner. Religious values, intelligence, hair color: Whatever you care about, put it on your wish list. Next, whittle it down to qualities you can’t live without. You might have a list of 30 preferences, but only seven non-negotiables. Consider only dating people who make your short list. Why? It’s simple: You’re more likely to find the relationship you want.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> When you find your non-negotiables in one person, you've got something special! That kind of connection doesn't happen every day, so protect and cherish what you have.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: table-cell; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; height: 46px; line-height: 19.695999145507813px; margin: 15px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: middle; width: 380px;"> 4. Share Your Intentions With Her</h2> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Share your intentions with the girl you're dating. Do it relatively early on, not six months into seeing her. This means explaining your expectations and hopes not only for your own future, but for your future together. Do you hope the relationship grows into something long-term, or do you plan tosplit up when you move across the country for school soon?</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Talk instead of making assumptions. Different activities and gestures mean different things to different people. Meeting each other's parents or getting physically intimate automatically equates to a monogamous relationship to some people, but it might mean casual dating to others. Remember, sharing intentions doesn't mean you have to know specifics like whether this girl is right for you now or is the one you want to marry down the road. It's about disclosing the direction you're going, not necessarily the destination. Where are you headed? Answering this question helps avoid miscommunications, hurt feelings, lost time and bruised egos.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: table-cell; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; height: 46px; line-height: 19.695999145507813px; margin: 15px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: middle; width: 380px;"> 3. Be Your (Best) Self</h2> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> You should be able to be yourself around your special lady friend. What are you normally like when it comes to things like hobbies, humor, spirituality or goals? Do you change when you're around her? Hopefully, not much. Sure, sometimes change can be a good thing if she helps you evolve and mature. But in general, if you behave in ways that are inconsistent with who you really are to satisfy, impress or appease her, you might be dating the wrong person.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Real affection is when someone is into you for you. It comes from a place of acceptance, not a place of deception where a woman has been duped by an act you've put on.</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> Gravitate toward girls who celebrate and encourage the authentic you, not the ones who press you to change for them rather than for yourself.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: table-cell; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; height: 46px; line-height: 19.695999145507813px; margin: 15px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: middle; width: 380px;"> 2. Show Her You Get Her</h2> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> People mostly feel (and give) affection in one of five main ways, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of best-selling book "The Five Love Languages." Chapman defines the five love languages as physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time and gifts. He advocates <a href="http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/tips/5-communication-tips-for-romantic-relationships.htm" style="color: #005288; text-decoration: none;">communicating</a> your feelings for your partner using the language she most identifies with. You can tell her "<a href="http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/advice/first-to-say-i-love-you.htm" style="color: #005288; text-decoration: none;">I love you</a>," "You're so beautiful" or other words of affirmation 100 times a day, but if her language is physical touch, she's not going to feel the magnitude of what you're trying to communicate. A hug and kiss when she walks in the door or a foot rub while watching a movie probably will go further in making her feel cherished and close to you. (And don't forget to let her know your own love language.)</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> A big part of a successful relationship is to show your girl you get her. For example, don't keep giving her roses if she's made numerous comments that wildflowers are her favorite. If spending quality time together is big for her, say yes to her invitations to go on walks, watch the sunset or turn off the TV at dinner and talk instead. If you don't, no matter what you do, she probably won't feel very loved or understood.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: table-cell; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; height: 46px; line-height: 19.695999145507813px; margin: 15px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: middle; width: 380px;"> 1. Mind Your Money</h2> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> If you want to date one or more people at a time just to have fun, carefree experiences, knock yourself out. Spend whatever you've budgeted for the ladies. Have a great time!</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> But if you're looking for an intimate relationship and perhaps something more long-term, let's assume you want to be with a woman who's with you for you -- not your money (or lack thereof). It's fairly easy to have a good time with almost anyone when you're doing fun things like dining at nice restaurants, attending swanky events or living the high life. Right?</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-top: 15px; padding: 0px; width: auto;"> So, find out if you two have a close bond by doing free or cheap things together. If you're able to feel closeness and have a blast without spending a dime, what's holding you two together probably has more to do with your dynamic than you simply being a vehicle to fun times.</div> <h2 style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: table-cell; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; height: 46px; line-height: 19.695999145507813px; margin: 15px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 10px; vertical-align: middle; width: 380px;"> <br /><br /></h2> </div>

5 Tips For Starting A New Relationship

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7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgczr6TqnYCoH_M-TPTGulpDvCZV28yUnRP7w01gES6IaW-MBfBFNOe3l2Z2pK_5MIYtoHo_sq7V-0TCEAGNULu2l5lcXOx0rmeWy_aUO4lKy8KXS43fGN80hQkzm6TrmQseH62-GPtD68/s1600/Black-Man-Smiling.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="265" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgczr6TqnYCoH_M-TPTGulpDvCZV28yUnRP7w01gES6IaW-MBfBFNOe3l2Z2pK_5MIYtoHo_sq7V-0TCEAGNULu2l5lcXOx0rmeWy_aUO4lKy8KXS43fGN80hQkzm6TrmQseH62-GPtD68/s400/Black-Man-Smiling.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <span style="font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6;">Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there's rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. Thanks to MindBodyGreen for creating that space. Here are 7 things that men really want in a relationship.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">1. To feel like your hero</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, but nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">2. Acceptance</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>There’s a new T-shirt trending Los Angeles titled “Love Me Anyways.” They should make them for men. Because we NEED to feel that when we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behavior and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">3. Not to be left in the dark</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know who you truly are.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">4. Blinders sex</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. Blinders sex gets men to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s a unique connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces glue that cannot happen with anyone else.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">5. The C-word</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. We want you to communicate directly. We don’t get clues. We need things spelled out. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t just want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> For many of us, communication is not our specialty. We need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet us at logic, we will will match your emotions. Hopefully. But we need you to tell us.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">6. Sweat</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>There’s nothing sexier than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages us to work on ours as well. We get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked. Now, if we do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">7. To have our own lives</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> We may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But we really want you to have your own life. Really. We want you to have your own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course we want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like us to be a part of, but we want you to have your own identity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs. Let’s put our relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is mine. And together, we’ll ride.</div> </div>

7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there&#...

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15 Ways To Know/Tell If Someone Is The Right Match For You

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img alt=" Every person looking for a great relationship knows the importance of compatibility 15 Ways To Know/Tell If Someone Is The Right Match For You" height="374" src="http://static.eharmony.com/dating-advice/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/how-to-create-love-400x234.jpg" width="640" /><br /> Every person looking for a great relationship knows the importance of compatibility. You want to find someone whose beliefs, interests, and goals align with your own. The level of similarity will largely determine the fulfillment and stability you enjoy (or not) over the years to come.<br /> <br /> Which brings us to a critical question: How exactly do you assess the degree of compatibility between you and a love interest?<br /> <br /> <b>1. Start with a thorough, reliable personality test. </b>This will reveal areas of similarity and differences between you both.<br /> <br /> <b>2.</b> <b>Explore your family background and upbringing. </b>That is what had the greatest influence on who you would eventually become.<br /> <br /> <b>3.</b> <b>Compare your dealbreakers and must-haves.</b> Do you match up well with the qualities you’re looking for and wanting to avoid?<br /> <br /> <b>4.</b> <b>Ask yourself if you’re pretending to enjoy your partner’s interests (and vice versa).</b> Sometimes we intentionally or unintentionally fool ourselves–and our partners—by acting enthusiastic about hobbies and pursuits. Over time, this false enthusiasm will fade away.<br /> <br /> <b>5.</b> <b>Assess your combination of passion and companionship.</b> The most enduring chemistry between two people includes both passionate “sizzle” and deep friendship.<br /> <br /> <b>6. Recognize any cute quirks that might irk over time.</b> Sometimes the habits and idiosyncrasies that seem charming while dating will grate on you through the years.<br /> <br /> <b>7. Gauge the level of acceptance you feel.</b> Compatible couples feel a strong sense of harmony and freedom to be themselves.<br /> <br /> <b>8. Talk at length about your core values.</b> Are you similar when it comes to your strongly held beliefs about social issues, spirituality, finances, politics, and child rearing?<br /> <br /> <b>9. Identify the differences that do exist.</b> No matter how compatible the two of you are, there are bound to be some differences. Determine if those are related to significant issues that will impact your relationship over time—or relatively small issues that are be negotiated.<br /> <br /> <b>10. Observe each other in lots of different circumstances. </b>Watch how each of you acts around family, work colleagues, at home, with children, and so on.<br /> <br /> <b>11. Evaluate your effectiveness at resolving conflicts.</b> Where dissimilarities exist, are you and a partner able to talk them through and reach a fair resolution?<br /> <br /> <b>12. Look ahead.</b> The standard job interview question is, “Where do you see yourself in ten years?” This is also a question you should carefully consider. Do your goals and aspirations for the future complement each other’s?<br /> <br /> <b>13. Take a hard look at your personal habits.</b> All the nitty-gritty aspects of daily life punctuality, neatness, grooming, weight management can prove to a source of tension if two people having much different styles of living.<br /> <br /> <b>14. Notice how stress is handled.</b> Pressure-filled situations tend to reveal our true nature. As Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot a person by the way he or she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas lights.”<br /> <br /> <b>15. Appraise your adaptability.</b> A flexible personality enables you to ride out storms and adjust to all kinds of challenges. This will be essential for dealing with the areas where you aren’t compatible.</div>

15 Ways To Know/Tell If Someone Is The Right Match For You

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2 Simple Words You Need Much More To Be Saying In Your Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody> <tr><td style="text-align: center;"><img alt=" Two simple words that feel so good to hear 2 Simple Words You Need Much More To Be Saying In Your Relationship" src="http://static.eharmony.com/dating-advice/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/thank-you-in-relationships.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" /></td></tr> <tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">"Thank you" Two simple words that feel so good to hear.</td></tr> </tbody></table> So, why do so many couples use them so infrequently? William James, the great American psychologist, said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”<br /> <br /> Appreciation is a gift we give others that costs us nothing! And giving just a little bit of it through effective communication goes further towards improving our relationships more than any over-priced “thing.” We all know this. So why are so many of us stingy when it comes to showing appreciation?<br /> <br /> Are we too busy? Too self-important? Too entitled? Or simply too stubborn and emotionally ungenerous?<br /> <br /> Sure, you can say “Well, s/he’s supposed to do that.” Right. Possibly. But does that mean people in your life don’t deserve acknowledgment? After all, I’ll bet you’d have something to say about it if those things didn’t get done (or that kindness and affection wasn’t shown to you).<br /> <br /> At home, we don’t appreciate—we expect! We say things like, “If you really love me, you would ______.” Where is the appreciation for our loved ones? Do you expect the garbage to go out and the dishes be put away? Why? Because it’s their “job?” Well, in life we get paid for doing a job, so how about paying them with a “thank you?” Everyone craves recognition for their efforts. So, show a little appreciation. It’s a very easy habit to acquire.<br /> <br /> <b>Transform your relationship with your teenager.</b><br /> <br /> Ever lived with teenagers? It’s pretty hard to motivate them, right? Or is it? The easiest way to engage a teen is to catch them doing something right. That means recognizing and rewarding the behavior you want to see more of. Saying “thank you” is an easy way to do that.<br /> <br /> Tell them what you like about what they’re doing, thinking, and wearing. And skip all the criticism about what you don’t like. Simply look and you’ll find many things each day worthy of acknowledgment. Try it for a month and watch their attitude (and your relationship with them) transform.<br /> <br /> <b>Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.</b><br /> <br /> Once you make a point to acknowledge the contributions of your family and partner, remember: once is not enough. Each time they take the trash out, bring you your coffee, or extend themselves on your behalf, say those powerful words,”thank you.”<br /> <br /> <b>Know what to overlook.</b><br /> <br /> There is another side to showing appreciation. It is as equally important as mulut recognition. Knowing what to compliment is one thing … but knowing what to overlook is also a way of showing love.<br /> <br /> <b>Ah! That’s worth thinking about, isn’t it?</b><br /> <br /> William James once said: “The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.” He was right. When things don’t go according to our expectations, we start pointing fingers. Tempers flare and nitpicking escalates. A wise person takes a step back and looks at the whole picture. They put their needs and wants aside for a moment and make space to see the other person’s wants and needs, as well. They ask themselves: What is happening here? What do we truly want to happen?<br /> <br /> Whether at home or at work, this is the time to focus on appreciation and then follow it with conscious problem-solving.<br /> <br /> When you feel things getting tense, pause and reflect on a time you felt appreciated. More importantly, ask yourself when was the last time you actually found something to appreciate in another? This helps diffuse the anger, frustration, fear or hurt that you are feeling and allows you to refocus your energy on good communication.<br /> <br /> <b>Start with yourself.</b><br /> <br /> Demanding to receive respect or appreciation when the other person is feeling deprived of it will only escalate the conflict. Whoever is most sane at the moment, in any relationship, is the one responsible for bringing that relationship back to positive connection. Let that “sane” person be you.<br /> <br /> <b>Appreciation is never wasted.</b><br /> <br /> Find things to acknowledge. Notice what others do well. Catch them doing things right. Notice what others do for you. Offer your thanks. You’ll feel better. And, very soon, it will come back to you. I promise.</div>

2 Simple Words You Need Much More To Be Saying In Your Relationship

"Thank you" Two simple words that feel so good to hear. So, why do so many couples use them so infrequently? William James, t...

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13 Tips To Make A Good Relationship Great

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilyYvD4vL6k7MvlJGFckVT3mjOOq8aYePCtFMA-7zJLjtdTZ-4RrzI9_HacU0j7gvetHXwawLYtXlNUgU1AecwOkYOV3cdbUqQ-sN3BywrcaSA_yj0BXFTLe5-Tpu2fAyaM3r6sbNCTFM/s1600/CoupleLyingInBedAndKissingOnNose-850x400.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilyYvD4vL6k7MvlJGFckVT3mjOOq8aYePCtFMA-7zJLjtdTZ-4RrzI9_HacU0j7gvetHXwawLYtXlNUgU1AecwOkYOV3cdbUqQ-sN3BywrcaSA_yj0BXFTLe5-Tpu2fAyaM3r6sbNCTFM/s640/CoupleLyingInBedAndKissingOnNose-850x400.jpg" width="640" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">1. Do the things you did the first year you were dating.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">2. Ask for what you want.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Over time, we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">3. Become an expert on your partner.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Think about who your mate really is and what excites him or her (both physically and emotionally). We can become consumed by what WE THINK he/she wants, as opposed to tuning in to what truly resonates with the other person. Remember that if it’s important to your partner, it doesn’t have to make sense to you. You just have to do it.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">4. Don't ask "how was your day."</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>At the end of a long day, we tend to mentally check out of our lives and consequently, our relationship. We rely on the standard question, “How was your day?” Generally, that boring question will yield a boring answer such as, “Fine, how was yours?” This does nothing to improve your connection and instead, can actually damage it because you're losing the opportunity to regularly connect in a small way.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Instead, try asking things like, “What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?” You’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get, with the added benefit of gaining greater insight into your significant other.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">5. Create a weekly ritual to check in with one another.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> It can be short or long but it begins with asking each other what worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week. Additionally, use this opportunity to get on the same page with your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what you would like to see happen in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. Without an intentional appointment to do a temperature check, unmet needs and resentments can build.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">6. Keep it sexy.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t? Think about this in the broadest form. “Sexy” can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives. Do you find it sexy if he/she helps with the housework? Do you find it "unsexy" when he/she uses the restroom with the door wide open? Talk about what it specifically means to "keep it sexy" in your relationship. Be amazed, be humored, be inspired!</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">7. Get creative about the time you spend together.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Break out of the “dinner and a movie” routine and watch how a little novelty can truly rejuvenate your relationship. On a budget and can’t go big? Jump on the internet to look for “cheap date ideas” and be blown away at the plethora of options. Can’t afford a sitter? Try swapping babysitting time with friends that have kids. It’s free and they will likely be thrilled to take your kids because they will get to take advantage when they drop their kids at your place.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">8. Get it on.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>Unless you have committed to an asexual partnership, sex, sexual contact and touching (kissing, holding hands, cuddling etc.) are vital components of a romantic relationship. The frequency is of course, up to you and it's imperative that you discuss your ideas about it in order to prevent resentment. Rare are the moments when both partners are “in the mood” at the exact same second, but that doesn’t mean that you have to decline their advances. Remind yourself that you will almost always “get there” after the first few minutes and that an intimate interaction of any kind builds connection and elevates your mood and health. Bear in mind that you are never required to say “yes.” If you truly don’t feel it, the best thing you can do is to postpone. Just make sure that you initiate or accept within a reasonable amount of time thereafter.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">9. Take a (mental) vacation, everyday.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Life and work distractions can become paramount in our minds and that leaves little time or energy for our partner. Practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.” This means that (barring any emergencies or deadlines), we are fully present when we're with our mate. We truly hear what they are saying (instead of pretending to listen), we leave our distractions behind and we don’t pick them up again until the sun comes up and we walk out the door.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">Some tips to improve communication</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Sadly, we aren’t born with the innate ability to effectively communicate but it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn. Use the following techniques to better navigate and limit the tension in your relationship:</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">10. Take "fight breaks" when you need them.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Before you’ve hit the point of no return and as you see the stress beginning to escalate, one or both of you can call a break so that cooler heads can prevail. The crux of this tool lies in the fact that you must pick a specific time to revisit the conversation (I.e. 10 minutes from now, 2:00pm on Tuesday etc.) so that closure can be achieved.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">11. Dig deep to unearth your true feelings.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> In most disagreements, we communicate from the “Top Layer,” which are the obvious emotions such as anger, annoyance and the like. Leading from this place can create confusion, defensiveness and ultimately distract from the real issue. Start communicating from the “Bottom Layer” (i.e. What feelings are really driving your reactions such as disappointment, rejection, loneliness, disrespect etc.).</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> This type of expression creates an instant sense of empathy because it requires honesty and vulnerability to share from this space. Tension will dissipate and from here, solutions can spring. Just be sure to use kind, non-reactive phrasing when expressing these bottom layer feelings, such as “I felt hurt by…” as a replacement for “You’re such a jerk” etc.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">12. Seek to understand ... not agree.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Easy in concept, difficult in application. Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we're invested in hearing our partner admit that we were right or when we are intent on changing his/her opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant other’s perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blow out or lingering frustration.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">13. Make your apology count.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>It’s well understood that apologizing is a good thing but it only makes a real impact when you mean it. Saying things like “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry you see it that way” are a waste of time and breath. Even if you don’t agree that your action was wrong, you will never successfully argue a feeling.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Accept that your mate feels hurt and from this place, a real apology can have a significant impact. When you love your partner and hurt them (intentionally or not) you can always legitimately apologize for the pain you caused regardless of your perspective on what you did or didn’t do.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> You are now, officially armed with the comprehensive exercise routine to fully reshape your relationship. Trim the fat and build your hottest relationship for life!</div> </div>

13 Tips To Make A Good Relationship Great

1. Do the things you did the first year you were dating. As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpa...

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7 Things You Need To Do To Heal After A Breakup

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> <img alt=" things you need to do to heal after a breakup 7 things you need to do to heal after a breakup" src="http://cdn.relrules.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/heall.png" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> The hardest part of any relationship is the breakup, when months and years of struggle has to come to a close, it hurts more than anything. Sometimes, breakups are one-sided, sometimes they’re mutual, but both of them almost hurt the same. A lot of people, myself included, find it nearly impossible to completely heal after a breakup. But I’ve learned my lessons and I have a lot to share about what it takes to properly heal yourself after a breakup. These are the seven things you can do to heal yourself, let’s begin.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 7. Cease all communication with your ex</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> I can’t stress this point enough, this is the first very vital step and your foundation to move on from the past and have a better future without any haunting memories or relapses. Stop all ways of communication with your ex, don’t text them if you suddenly start missing them, fight your urge to talk to them. If you have to, think of all of the bad things, think of why you broke up, do whatever you can to stop yourself from contacting them. This can be a little more difficult for some people if they have a lot of mutual friends, but even that isn’t impossible because I’ve done this myself.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 6. Focus on yourself more</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> When someone goes through a breakup, they slowly start losing touch with themselves and start neglecting themselves, don’t be that person. Breakups happen, they’re a part of life, they’re a life lesson for you to always remember and not make the same mistakes again in your life. So they’re bound to happen, I’ve seen happily married couple who’d been together for more than twenty years instantly break apart and start new lives without each other, it’s okay because you’re not alone so don’t forget yourself in the process.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 5. Let it all out</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> When you go through a breakup, it’s very vital to let all of the emotions out. Don’t keep anything in or it will grow more than you can imagine and you’ll end up exploding with emotions one day, so let it all out. If you have to cry, cry your heart out, if you have to reminisce about the past, reminisce and let it go, if you need to scream, scream your lungs out, just make sure you let all of the emotions out and don’t let anything in.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 4. Accept the fact that it’s over</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> A couple days into the breakup, you’ll sometimes feel as if it’s not over, as if things are just bad and it’ll get better soon, don’t make yourself think like that. Slowly but surely, learn to accept the fact that it’s over and for good reasons too, don’t give yourself false hope and don’t start living a lie.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Acceptance is one of the hardest things to achieve after a breakup but it needs to be done sooner than later. Remember why it ended, if they left you for someone else, you need to accept the fact that you got cheated on because there are bad people in this world and you deserve someone who can cherish you. If it was a mutual breakup (which are very rare), accept the fact that it was for the better of the both of you and it was done to avoid future traumas.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 3. Live your life</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> This is a continuation of not forgetting yourself and paying more attention to yourself. After breaking up with someone, it’s important to not fall too deep into the limbo of sorrow and sadness, it’s important to let the emotions out and then start living your life again. Go out with your friends, be more social, spend time with family, do projects and spend time doing the things you love.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 2. Spend time at the gym</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> This is from personal experience and a lot of my friends have done this too, working out after a breakup is one of the best workouts you’ll experience. You have so much energy and frustration to let go of and nothing could be better than you actually spend that energy on yourself.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> You’ll be more motivated because you’ll want to get back to normal and also be a better and healthier person while you’re at it. I went to the gym for three months straight after my ex cheated on me, because I wanted to look better and to live better, that was one of the best things I could do to myself because I was happier in the end. When you work out, your body releases a lot of hormones that actually make you happy, so do it, go hit the gym!</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 1. Look ahead</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> You broke up, it’s over, there’s no point in rekindling that fire because it’ll be a failed relationship again, look forward and look towards the future. Your ex is your ex for a reason and it needs to stay that way, in the past, your ex shouldn’t have anything to do with your future, they shouldn’t be a part of your future in any way because you won’t be able to be completely happy with them being in it, we always end up resenting people in the end because we are all human and we aren’t perfect and even the best of us can fail at it. Look for someone who’s more compatible, remember the reasons why you broke up and make sure the next person you date doesn’t have anything similar with your ex. It’s your life and only you have the power to take it forward, don’t stay in the past because you’ll find nothing but regret there.</div> </div>

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11 Signs You Are With The Person You Should Marry

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img alt=" Signs you are with the person you should marry 11 Signs you are with the person you should marry" src="http://cdn.relrules.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/marry.png" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px;">While being the most fantasised moment of our lives, marriage is also one of the  most dreaded experiences and hey, why not? It is one of the </span><i style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px;">biggest</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px;"> decisions of our lives, changes almost everything, with the right person these changes will be for the better and long lasting. So, how do we know if we have found the right one, they sure don’t come with  flashing red lights or a halo on their heads, if only that was possible, but in the real world you have to look out for these pointers. Here’s our guide to help you with this leap of faith.</span><br /> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 11. You feel at home with them</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> There is a feeling of comfort with this person, an unmatched sense of familiarity, the  time spent with them is free of any pretence. They are easy to talk to, about anything and everything, you can go from having a deep conversation with them to talking about nothing in particular, or just share a peaceful silence with them. It is extremely easy being with them.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 10. You want similar things in life</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> This does not necessarily mean working in the same profession, that will just be a bonus, but you know that life will constantly change and grow but it will not affect your relationship, you will grow together. Your long term goals run parallel to each other; whether it is choosing which city to live in, marriage, kids etc, you two are on the same page.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 9. You get along with each other’s family</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> This one’s important, marriage is not just a bond between two people, but two families. Having a harmonious relationship with each other’s family will make things easier and happier, you won’t have to deal with the family drama all the time, you can enjoy spending time with your partner’s family and consequently it will also strengthen your relationship.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 8. You crave for their presence</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> It’s not like you two can’t be all by yourself, you just prefer not to, because you miss them when they are not around. You enjoy each other’s company, it makes you happy. You give each other space but even when you are doing fun things with your friends, like watching a movie, you think what your partner would’ve said at this dialogue or how hard they would’ve laughed, their presence just makes everything better.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 7. You make big decisions together</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Whether it’s moving to a new house, getting a pet, changing your career etc; you two always make decisions keeping your partner in mind, instead of being selfish and doing things your way and enforcing your choices. You discuss things, explore all options, consider each other’s feelings and then take the big steps. You think ‘we’ rather than ‘me’.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 6. There is no judging</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> We all have things that we are not very proud of, we don’t reveal this side to everyone as it makes us vulnerable especially if we feel it could be used against us. When you are with the right person, you feel comfortable in revealing your true self to them, they know all your deepest, darkest secrets, and the best part is that they still love you, they accept your good with the bad. If you want to see how close you are to them, just go through all the things that you have revealed about yourself to them and how much more you are willing to share.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 5. You are an exemplary couple</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> When you are happy in a relationship, you radiate positive vibes. Your friends, family, colleagues even strangers can feel the love. Anybody could tell how much you two love each other, while the troubled couples look at you with envy.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 4. You have managed to surpass the rough times</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> Life is not all about rainbows and butterflies, there is no way you have a healthy relationship without recalling a few ‘serious’ fights. If you have managed to go through these tough times and came out stronger, then it means you know how to keep the fights away from the breaking point. You know how to fight fair.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 3. You are not just lovers, but best friends</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> There is a sense of trust and loyalty between you two, you guys have fun together, and it doesn’t matter if you share the same sense of humour as long as it gets you to crack a smile. Your partner is the first person that comes to your mind when you want to share some big news, know that a new movie is releasing, you love them not just as your significant other but as a person.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 2. They are your support system</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> The person you want to share your life with, should be your ultimate support system. Life has the ability to throw all kinds of challenges at us, in times like these you need your partner who balances you out, they give you strength. You know you can win any battle as long as they are by your side.</div> <h1 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #1a1919; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 33.2px; line-height: 1.21; margin: 2.25rem 0px 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> 1. You have imagined a future with them</h1> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #424242; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.600000381469727px; margin-bottom: 1.5rem; padding: 0px;"> You have married them in your head more times than you remember, it’s because you can see a future with them, planning a life with them doesn’t give you cold feet, instead it brings a smile to your face and you are ready to take the next step with them.</div> </div>

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12 Golden Rule To A Happy And Long Lasting Marriage/Dating

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img src="http://static.yourtango.com/cdn/farfuture/KAo2PPwFWDG0Fwq7dQMNqrkMNprh4Fmm6mivRRQb9CA/mtime:1427941577/sites/default/files/styles/listing_big/public/image_feature/golden.jpg?itok=xae17eRc" /><br /> <br /> <div class="field-value value-bold summary dek no-label" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <div class="field field-name-field-daily-dish-feature-summar field-type-text-long field-label-above" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> <div class="field-items" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> <div class="field-item even" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> Fairy-tale love is hard to find. Here are some tips for keeping your relationship healthy and happy.</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field-value body no-label" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> One of the most common questions we hear is, "<em style="box-sizing: border-box;">How do we make our relationship work?</em>" The answers are complicated, varied, and after a while, start to sound like muddled platitudes. But these commonplace sayings get repeated because <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">they work</em>. With this in mind, we pulled together 12 cliches that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a healthy, happy relationship. Read on and let us know what you think:</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. Mind your manners.</strong> "Please," "thank you" and "you're welcome," can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love him and don't take him for granted.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. Variety is the spice of life.</strong> Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close. </div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. The couple that plays together, stays together.</strong> Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV doesn't count) and make it a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains. .. whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. Fight right.</strong> In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind: Don't call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don't initiate a discussion when you're angry.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5. I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine.</strong> No one likes demands (unless you're in a BDSM role play) but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your lover to do something and you're not sure he'll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: "Sure, I'll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next movie of my choice."</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6. Two heads are better than one.</strong> Being in a relationship basically means you've made a merger; you've not only joined assets but inherited the other's problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he's gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise kegiatan together.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">7. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.</strong> Maintain your own friendships and occasionally have a night out without your significant other. Doing things without your s.o. not only makes you miss him or her, it also keeps you sane. And in case the relationship doesn't work out, you'll still have your friends.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">8. Sound it out.</strong> It other words: communicate! Talking out the tough subjects — money, religion, fidelity, raising kids —will not be the most fun you've had, but it'll be valuable.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">9. Laughter is the best medicine.</strong> Learn to laugh at yourself and at silly mistakes. If he throws your $300 cashmere sweater in the dryer, laughing it off is better than getting angry in the long run. It's just a $300 cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">10. Keep your eyes on the prize. </strong>Yes, he forgot your co-worker's name for the tenth time, but it probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal — to be in a happy, functioning partnership — you're less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">11. Quitters never win.</strong> Find a ritual and keep it alive, no matter what. Whether it's always kissing each other good night, renewing your wedding vows every year, sleeping in as late as you want once a month or committing to having sex once a week, pick something that makes you both feel good and stick to it, even when you're tempted to skip.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">12. When the going gets tough, the tough get going ... to therapy.</strong> Studies show that couples who seek counseling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don't. Whether its from a religious figure, counselor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is as wise as forgoing self-installation and hiring a plumber to put in a new sink.</div> </div> </div>

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Nine Signs You're With A Real Man

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUZ0BQ3ZY6KrjBviGs1Ezh_nPNkZTdlcpHlzTK15bOCjPG29u4yJXx4x9nRpm7ck9PNOz9LbNKLoWe9P0mgWCbG0LOg7h0b6up51zV8sOYTldLUZTEBAoCNg0WLYj85K7nfmpkOb7W278/s1600/Q.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="363" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUZ0BQ3ZY6KrjBviGs1Ezh_nPNkZTdlcpHlzTK15bOCjPG29u4yJXx4x9nRpm7ck9PNOz9LbNKLoWe9P0mgWCbG0LOg7h0b6up51zV8sOYTldLUZTEBAoCNg0WLYj85K7nfmpkOb7W278/s1600/Q.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> This one is going to be for the ladies. We live in a crazy world and it keeps getting crazier each day. A lot of women think “real men” don’t exist, that’s certainly not true, chivalry is still alive and very much so. A few bad people can make a lot of good people look bad, it’s just the way things are and it’s pretty sad. <span id="more-332" style="box-sizing: border-box; max-width: 703px;"></span>Being a man, I never really thought of myself as the “perfect guy” because I don’t like abiding by the standards set out by society, I just like doing things that sound and feel right, I live to learn, I learn every day and I live by that rule. This article is based on personal experience and the things I’ve learned from thousands of other men, who really set out an example for the rest of the world. Let’s begin.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 35px 0px 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px; word-break: break-word;"> 9. He respects you for who you are</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> A true gentleman will always respect you for who you are, for your individuality, for the person you represent. He will never try changing you into someone else for his own selfish reasons. He will make sure you feel proud about the person you are and he’s going to try with all of his power and will. A real man will respect the decisions you make and will not criticize you every step of the way, and if you ever fail, he will never bring it up, he will rather make sure you never give up and keep following your dreams, every day.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 36px 0px 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px; word-break: break-word;"> 8. He loves your intelligence more than your looks</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px;"> A smart man knows that beauty is very temporary, and among other things it is bound to fade away. He knows what’s more important, he doesn’t fall in love with you solely because of how you look, he falls in love with you because of who you are, because of your intelligence, because of your humor, because of how you make him feel, he’s not one to pay heed to whether you’re wearing the right amount of make up or wearing the best dress possible, he is going to love you in your pajamas and he’s going to often tell you to not wear any make up.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 36px 0px 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px; word-break: break-word;"> 7. He gives more than he expects</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px;"> A real man is truly selfless, he knows love is not about equal give and take, sometimes the ratio may get a bit imbalanced and that’s okay in his eyes because he’ll still do the most he can do for you. He knows selfless deeds have a higher reward, selfless deeds never go unnoticed, selfless deeds give him a sense of happiness that nothing else can. He will keep giving you his one hundred percent regardless of how you treat him, because he will never give up on the relationship.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 35px 0px 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> 6. He will never give up on you</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> A real man knows the importance of each and every relationship, be it family or otherwise. He knows that love is no joke, he knows how to cherish your feelings and is going to try his best to take care of them and preserve them with all of his power. A true gentleman will never give up on you regardless of the fights, regardless of the traumas, regardless of the ups and downs, he will stay strong and have faith in the love the two of you share, because faith is what drives us all, those without faith are those who live empty and emotionless lives.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 35px 0px 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px; word-break: break-word;"> 5. He will make mistakes, but will always make up for them</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> As I said before, there is no such thing as the “perfect guy”, we are all human and we are bound to make mistakes, what matters is what we do to make up for those mistakes. A true gentleman will always accept his mistakes without delay, he will apologize and will mean it. He will always take responsibility for his actions and will always be ready for the consequences, no matter how harsh.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 36px 0px 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px; word-break: break-word;"> 4. He doesn’t believe in lying</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px;"> A real man knows the importance of truth and lives by it. He knows how easily one lie leads to another lie and it turns into a vicious cycle. He will always choose to say the truth, no matter how harsh it may be, no matter the consequences, because deep down inside he will be content with speaking the truth. He knows the importance of trust, he knows how hard it is to develop the perfect form of trust and how easy it is to break it, he will cherish the trust between the two of you.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 35px 0px 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> 3. His past is an open book</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> A real man doesn’t have any skeletons in his closet, he carries his baggage but you know exactly how much his baggage weighs, because he knows the importance of being open, he doesn’t believe in the concept of “keeping it hidden” or “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her”. Before I asked my girlfriend out, we were good friends, we were best friends, I told her all about my past and she told me all about hers, when we got into a relationship, we both were content with each other because we knew exactly what the two of us went through. It just makes life that much simpler.</div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 35px 0px 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> 2. He will never “pose” as someone else</h1> <div> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px;">A real man will be exactly what he is, real. He will never try to be someone else just to impress you, because he knows that’s not true love, that’s just temporary infatuation and he will never want that in his life. He will be weak in front of you, he won’t mind crying in front of you, he will show you all of his vulnerabilities because he trusts you with all of his heart and he knows the importance of being loved by you.</span></div> <div> <h1 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 40px; line-height: 48px; margin: 36px 0px 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px; word-break: break-word;"> 1. He will have realistic expectations from you</h1> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 24px; max-width: 728px; padding: 0px;"> A true gentleman knows how much it hurts when someone expects more than the other person is capable of giving. He will always have realistic expectations. I used to be someone who had unrealistic expectations from his girlfriend, I learned to change, because I was slowly becoming a burden on her, she was trying harder than ever to reach the level I expected from her and it started to have a very severe effect on her health and life, I started hating myself and changed, for both of us.</div> </div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 23px; max-width: 703px; padding: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: white;"></span></div> </div>

Nine Signs You're With A Real Man

This one is going to be for the ladies. We live in a crazy world and it keeps getting crazier each day. A lot of women think “real men” ...

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The Laws Of Keeping A Woman

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #bc0000; font-family: Dosis; font-size: 1.4rem; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.65rem; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> <a href="https://styleisking.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/lipssexy.jpg" sl-processed="1" style="color: #666666; text-decoration: none;"><img alt="Never take a woman for granted or neglect her THE LAWS OF KEEPING A WOMAN" src="https://styleisking.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/lipssexy.jpg?w=426" style="border: none;" /></a></div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> <span style="color: #33ccff; font-size: 17px; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span></div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 1) <span style="font-weight: bold;">Never take a woman for granted or neglect her. </span>The moment you do, she’ll start scanning the field and you won’t know it.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 2) Do not cheat on her, or cheat her. A woman’s revenge could be emotionally lethal.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 3)Do not boss her around, push her to do anything she doesn’t want to do, or force her to give you ANYTHING.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 4) Do not expect her to wait on you hand and foot. She will take your foot and put it in your hand.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 5) Be appreciative for all she does for you and show her appreciation for being in YOUR life. When you start acting like she should be happy she is in YOUR life, she will go out to prove you otherwise.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 6) Never lay a hand on her, unless it is to caress her.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 7) <span style="font-weight: bold;">Never make her second to anything.</span> This is the biggest mistake any man can do.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 8) Don’t ever disrespect her or her family, even if she complains about them. It is OK for her to do it, but never for you. Remember this.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 9) Always GIVE more than you take from her to stay a man in her eyes. When a woman has to support you, in her mind, you are her bitch.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 10) Never treat a woman like a man, or she will treat you like a woman.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 11) Be truthful to her always — even if it hurts. A woman respects a man of Truth and men that lie repeatedly will never be taken seriously — only playfully.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 12) Women are like cats. Even when they play stupid, their radars are always perceptive and receptive to all that is happening around them. Do not play around your woman, or she will play you in the end.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 13) Never be afraid to show a woman your emotions. Do not expect her to know how you feel if you don’t reveal anything. Never hold back on love. When a woman feels something is missing, or that you are not in the relationship 100%, she will seek a more complete love elsewhere. Believe it.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 14) Support your woman’s dreams as if you were her number one fan and you will always be her number one man.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 15) Push a woman to fulfill her passions, and she will always be passionate about you. Stay in tune with the developments of her hobbies and projects, and she will be in tune with you. Even if she loves designing tiny hats for squirrels, what you should love is the excitement from her eyes whenever you see her doing what she loves.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 16) Treat your woman as if she were your precious daughter, more than you treat her as your mother — even if she is older than you. Women are like kittens. They love your attention, affection, pampering, to be spoiled, and really enjoy being showed and told new things. Remember, women will always have more options than men. They will only stay with the one who treats them best.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 17) A woman typically gives a man two chances for serious error. If he messes up more than twice, it is highly unlikely there will be a third. After the second slip-up, she already sees you as a different person.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 18) Always trust a woman’s intuition and never take her mind for that of a fool. If she tells you something, but then you have to go and ask for someone else’s opinion in front of her, if she was right she will never let it go. She will start taking you for the idiot. All it takes is once.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 19) The same way the Sun is the lamp of the universe, your woman should always be treated as the lamp of your life.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 20) Do not ever put her down in front of your friends or family. This will only make her despise your family and friends, and she won’t forget to return the favor.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 21) If she loves her family, try to love them as if they were yours too. She will love you more for sincerely trying.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 22) If you end up with a first-rate woman, never treat her less than first-rate. She will leave you for a first-rate man once you do.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 23) Never give your woman third-rate gifts (junk, used, discounted, as is, tacky). If you can’t afford to get her something first-rate, make her something from your heart, or wait until you have enough money to get her a first-rate gift. A woman would rather be given nice gifts, rather than a bunch of junky gifts. It shows her how you see her. Believe it.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> 24) Never let your woman stand alone when she is being opposed. Always stand by her in the presence of opposition, and when you are in private <span style="font-style: italic;">then</span> you can tell her your real thoughts on a situation. She will love you for not exposing her out in the open. Always stand by your woman. Always! However, if she is someone who always does people wrong, then she is wrong for you. If she is good and she is the one being wronged, if you sit down or do nothing, she will be gone. Women do not like weak men. Those women that tolerate weak men are very weak women.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> Treat your relationship as if you are growing the most beautiful sacred flower. Keep watering it, tend to the roots, and always make sure the petals are full of color and are never curling. Once you neglect your plant, it will die, as will your relationship. If your woman has left you heartbroken, then know it is most likely due to you violating at least one of the above. If you violated more than two, then know you had a very good woman.</div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia, 'Book Antiqua', 'Souvenir Lt BT', 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal;"> Now, for women, how do you treat a man and keep him?<br />Do all the above for him too.</div> </h2> </div>

The Laws Of Keeping A Woman

1)  Never take a woman for granted or neglect her.  The moment you do, she’ll start scanning the field and you won’t know it. 2) Do...

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5 Ways To Recover From Relationship Blunder

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; clear: left; color: #333333; float: left; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img src="http://www.naijastories.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/quarrelling-black-couple.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <br /> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Without a doubt there are some nasty men out in the dating world. Guys who use, abuse and laugh about it later; but they are the exception. The much more common man is maybe just a little careless with his comments. Perhaps he just doesn’t think it all through. He’s a little too frank, a little too honest. Or maybe it’s what he does or doesn’t do. Maybe his eyes linger on the attractive waitress, or he just can’t remember to hold the door and let her walk in a room first.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Whatever the cause, this good-hearted, hapless fellow ends up in the doghouse. Here are a few suggestions for recovering from the relationship blunder.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1.    Learn to apologize</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you watch public persons who violate their marriage vows, get caught and then take to the public airwaves to apologize, you’ll notice an interesting trend. Many of these apologies aren’t apologies at all. Oh sure, the guy looks contrite, but if you listen he’s actually blaming his circumstances for his indiscretion. They go on and on about the hounding paparazzi, the pressure, and the power that breeds entitlement and a sense of being above the law. This is not how a real man should apologize.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> You apologize by taking FULL responsibility. You don’t say, “I hadn’t eaten well that day” or “I was busy with work.” You just say, “This is all on me. I screwed up. I’m so sorry to put you through this. There’s no excuse, and I’m going to work hard to never do that again.”</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2.    Happily Accept The Consequences of Your Actions</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> If you’ve committed a blunder, there are going to be consequences. It’s cause and effect. Stand up tall and accept them. In fact, invite them. Saying something like, “I know that hurt your feelings. That’s the last thing I ever want to do. Let’s think about how I can make good on this” can let her know that you’re ready to bend over backwards to do penance for your misdeeds.<br /><strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br />3.    Prove You Get It</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> There are two parts to getting forgiveness – The Apology and Changing Your Ways. It can be difficult to prevent low-level mental lapses, like perhaps calling her by an old girlfriend’s name, but more substantial blunders should be tackled with a plan. Are you always late? Set up an online calendar that text messages you 15 minutes before important appointments. By creating a plan and explaining it to her you’re letting her know that you care enough to work hard at avoiding future trouble in this area.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">4.    Let Your Past Help You</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Relationships don’t happen in a vacuum. If you’re normally a thoughtful, respectful man, bring that up in your defense when discussing a blunder. She may need to be reminded that you’ve never made a similar mistake in the past. Let your track record speak for your good intentions.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> It’s also a good idea to work on extending the benefit of the doubt to each other. When your love does something that seems thoughtless or hurtful, agree to give that person a pass until proven otherwise. Agree to assume that rather than being malicious, the person committed the blunder accidentally or without intent to hurt you. After all, 99% of the time that’s exactly what happened. By letting a track record of love and respect supersede a snap judgment, each person will save themselves a great deal of anger.</div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <strong style="background: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">5.    If You’re Not at Fault, Speak Up</strong></div> <div style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: ProximaNova, Calibri, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1.5em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Being willing to apologize when you’re wrong, gives you the right to stick to your guns when you’re not wrong. For some men, their entire relationship is a long series of, “I’m sorry” statements. You’ve got to be willing to stand up and say, “This isn’t my fault.” You’re not there to be a kick dog or to help someone avoid responsibility for their own shortcomings.</div> </div>

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