How To Get Anything You Want In Life: 6 Simple Rules

<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <img alt="When you learn that you have the power to achieve anything you want in life How To Get Anything You Want In Life: 6 Simple Rules" border="0" data-original-height="1350" data-original-width="735" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkDwtY1yGH06XNpAERowZuYqYTbzsepahyLr_L_8rkv_NNvmJQe1KZA2q5dJ6ml93FQ6bBcg_-aNVASVixmyiXuvgIef3iv2Bir5tCbRQ1bk_BbtWnYbCMZRSMd-0JOwe7ebQopTabhTw/s1600/how+to+get+anything+you+want+in+life.png" title="How To Get Anything You Want In Life: 6 Simple Rules" width="348" /></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;">When you learn that you have the power to achieve anything you want in life, you open up a whole world of possibilities. You can get anything you want in life when you realise that <i style="font-weight: bold;">you have the power to do so, </i>all you need is to learn the simple but crucial steps to getting the life you want.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">You might be asking yourself, how do I get what I want in life? The one thing that taught me everything about getting what I want in life is <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a>. I read this book and it completely changed the way I think and the decisions I make. I'll explain the main concepts I learnt from <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a> and how you can use them in your life too to get anything you want.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">To get what you want in life, <b>you need to <i>attract</i> the things you want</b> and constantly remind yourself of what your goals are. Picture your ideal life in your mind every day and focus your energy solely on that. The more you convince yourself that you will get what you want, the more likely it is that you will actually achieve it.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It may seem like some crazy spiritual idea, but after reading <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a> I started to practice the following tips and I began to get the things I've always wanted in life, purely from changing the way I use my own thoughts and my mind.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">You can achieve anything with a powerful mind. The mind is one of the most powerful things, yet many people don't use it to its full advantage. There is no limit to what you can achieve in life and by using your mind you will get anything and everything that you want, no matter how big.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Many people aspire to achieve things in life such as:</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Financial freedom</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>A dream career</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Money</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Success</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Happiness</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Love</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Fulfilment in life</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Being able to travel</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Fitness and health</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Fame</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>•<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Peace</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 26px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">These are only some of the things that people want in life. Some are smaller, more manageable goals and some may seem like vast, far off ideas. The secret is, everything on that list is achievable by every single person in this world. Some people will focus on one specific goal and some will want to achieve several. There's no limit to what you can get in life and you have the ability to get every single one of those things.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Law Of Attraction</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">The law of attraction is how we attract things into our lives. You are doing it every day without noticing and once you understand how to use the law of attraction, you'll be able to attract anything you want into your life through the thoughts you put into the universe.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Everything currently in your life is down to the decisions you've made so far. Only <i>you</i> can change the way your life is and you are the only person fully in control of your circumstances. Something I regularly tell myself is, 'If I'm unhappy, I'm the only one who can change it.' Your life is in your hands and you truly have the power to change it to anything you want it to be. It may not happen overnight or in a week, but with persistence, the right mindset and practicing the law of attraction every day, you will without a doubt, reach your goals.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I highly recommend you to read <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><i><span style="color: #e06666;">The Secret by Rhonda Byrne</span></i></a> as it explains the law of attraction in great detail. Some of the main concepts of the law of attraction are:</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span></div> <ul> <li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">Like attracts like, so when you think a thought, you are also attracting similar thoughts to you.</span></li> <li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you think about the most or focus on the most will appear as your life.</span></li> <li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">Your thoughts become things.</span></li> <li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">You're like a human transmission tower, transmitting a frequency with your thoughts. If you want to change anything in your life, change the frequency by changing your thoughts.</span></li> <li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">The way to get anything you want is to summon it through persistent thoughts.</span></li> </ul> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 26px; text-align: left; text-indent: -36px;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a> explains how you can be, have, or do anything you want and how to use the power of the Secret in your everyday life.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>How To Achieve Anything You Want</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">These are the 6 simple rules on getting anything you want in life and how to achieve everything you want.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">1. Manifesting What You Want</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">To manifest something is to bring things into existence and for those things to show up in your life. This reiterates the idea that our thinking creates our reality. The more you think about a thing, the more that thing will show up in your life. If you constantly have negative thoughts, those thoughts will manifest themselves into your life and make you feel negative. Instead, you need to focus on the positive aspects of your life and focus only on the positives of what you're trying to achieve.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Don't focus on what you don't have, focus on what you're going to have when you reach your goal. Focus on what your life will be like whenever you get what you're aiming for.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you tell yourself, 'I want to go after my dream, but I don't want to run out of money,' then you will run out of money. If you tell yourself, 'I don't want to be unhappy,' then you will be unhappy. <b>Whether you say you want it or not, it will happen to you, </b></span><b>because you're thinking about it.</b></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">That's why you need to stop yourself from saying the 'I don'ts' or 'I can't' or 'No, because.' These negative thoughts will manifest into your life because you're thinking them, so stop thinking about them completely.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you wan't to manifest something into your life, keep it in your thoughts at all times and tell yourself, 'I will get this goal' and 'This is what my life will be like when I reach my goal.'</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Start with small things to manifest in your life and work your way up to get whatever you want by keeping it in your thoughts and telling yourself 'I will.' Ask the universe for it and it will grant it to you.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">'It is as easy to manifest one dollar as it is to manifest one million dollars,' - <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">2. Be Clear On Your Goal</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">To get what you want in life, you need to know exactly what it is that you want. If you're not sure on what you want, then it will never happen because you don't know exactly what you're asking for. Write down on a piece of paper exactly what you want in life and visualise it. Know every aspect of what you want and see the end goal in your mind.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you're not sure on what your goal is, ask yourself what makes you the most happy in life and focus on that. Once you focus on what makes you happy, you'll attract a lot of other things into your life that make you happy. 'Expect the things that you want, and don't expect the things that you don't want.' - <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret.</i></span></a></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">3. Remind Yourself Constantly</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">You've probably realised by now that the only person who can create your perfect life, is you. As spiritual mumbo-jumbo as it sounds, your thoughts are the one thing holding you back from getting anything you want. Keep reminding yourself everyday of what you're working towards and what actions you're taking to reach your goal. Tell yourself things like 'I'm going to be...' 'In a few months I'll have achieved...' 'I'm going to wake up and do...' Visualise your life when you get what you want and keep it in your mind at all times.</span> <br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <br /> <div class="mailmunch-forms-widget-614785"> </div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: "avenir next condensed"; font-size: 38px;">4. Convince Yourself Of Success</span><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">A great way to create your dream life is to convince yourself that you <i>will</i> get everything you want and more. You need to believe in yourself and the laws of attraction that you will get what you want no matter what. <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a> teaches that believing involves 'acting, speaking and thinking as though you have already received what you want, the law of attraction moves people, events, and circumstances for you to receive whatever it is you want.'</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">5. Visualize The End Goal</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">One of the most important things I learned from reading <a href="https://amzn.to/2Gm9LTf"><span style="color: #e06666;"><i>The Secret</i></span></a> is that 'Visualisation is the process of creating pictures in your mind of yourself enjoying what you want. When you visualise, you generate powerful thoughts and feelings of having it now. The law of attraction then returns that reality to you, just as you saw it in your mind.'</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Paint a picture in your head of your ideal life. If you visualise the life you want constantly, you'll be more determined to succeed in achieving that life when it becomes clear in your mind. Imagine it, see yourself living it, visualise how your life will change.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">6. Trust In The Process</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 25px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Many people give up on getting what they want because they don't believe that they'll actually get it or they think it's too risky or it's never going to happen. You need to trust in your own thoughts and actions that you will make this happen and there's not one thing that's going to stop you. The more positive thoughts you put out into the universe, the more you'll see your goals manifesting into reality.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 26px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 19px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It's all about changing your mindset and convincing yourself that you'll achieve anything you want and you attract the energy that you put out. The law of attraction is a universal law that works with or without you knowing it so it's worthwhile to start using the law of attraction today to start getting the things you want in life instantly.</span><br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Pin it for later:</span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHol0hOgBk7k0blDyabhclFK0cvNJysOY9cd1zNiFWpYjwqApyS-VpK_voUwLvbjnE53IbZ9wJBI_GsFKKPDjYz3sPwgAIu9jC7p-FXnAMZeIW9Zt4fSCqoSeaKIGwyxyrvrwNSaMWrmM/s1600/how+to+get+anything+you+want+in+life.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="When you learn that you have the power to achieve anything you want in life How To Get Anything You Want In Life: 6 Simple Rules" border="0" data-original-height="1350" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHol0hOgBk7k0blDyabhclFK0cvNJysOY9cd1zNiFWpYjwqApyS-VpK_voUwLvbjnE53IbZ9wJBI_GsFKKPDjYz3sPwgAIu9jC7p-FXnAMZeIW9Zt4fSCqoSeaKIGwyxyrvrwNSaMWrmM/s1600/how+to+get+anything+you+want+in+life.png" title="How To Get Anything You Want In Life: 6 Simple Rules" width="217" /></a></div> </div>

How To Get Anything You Want In Life: 6 Simple Rules

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How To Be Happier: 14 Ways To Be Happy Now

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhN_11TjV1t7MVAsoVBgYgCMS7qW4yDaNh-vWG-QWhFyKepWB7D8_pefhVaGvCd-a0ql0VjBGinMIz9HThnUSXeIudHmjmhxyTeMBRikbWoL2XYGXmmlzgc-XIB49ULJmEz3zaFSnQPX0I/s1600/how+to+be+happier.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" these are things you can do right now to have a happier mindset How To Be Happier: 14 Ways To Be Happy Now" border="0" data-original-height="1300" data-original-width="735" height="690" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhN_11TjV1t7MVAsoVBgYgCMS7qW4yDaNh-vWG-QWhFyKepWB7D8_pefhVaGvCd-a0ql0VjBGinMIz9HThnUSXeIudHmjmhxyTeMBRikbWoL2XYGXmmlzgc-XIB49ULJmEz3zaFSnQPX0I/s1600/how+to+be+happier.png" title="How To Be Happier: 14 Ways To Be Happy Now" width="410" /></a></div> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you're asking yourself 'How can I be happier?' these are things you can do right now to have a happier mindset. Whether you want to be happier in life, in general, at work or happier with your family, there are things you should be doing everyday in your life that will add to your happiness.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">We often find ourselves in states of unhappiness when we've been worrying about something, gotten into a bad routine, we've made bad choices or we're stressed out about life. There are little changes you can make to be happier everyday and have a lot more joy in your life.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Sometimes we wish we could wake up everyday and be happy, but that doesn't always happen. That doesn't mean to say you can't drastically turn your life around so you fill everyday with things that make you happy.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It might seem like there's some huge secret on how to become happy, but the secret to being happy lies with you and the decisions you make.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Related: </span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=mental-health-books"><span style="color: #e06666;">10 Best Books About Mental Health That Will Improve Your Life</span></a></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=mental-health-books"><span style="color: #e06666;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span>The Six Simple Rules To Get Anything You Want In Life</span></a></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you're feeling down, these are 14 things you can do right now to be happier:</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>1. Focus On You</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">We spend so much time trying to make other people happy and please others through our work, friends and family and we often forget to focus on ourselves. Take some time to put yourself first and do some things that actually make you happy and take a break from the pressure of pleasing others and having to be the best at everything. You won't please everyone in life so don't stress about trying to be perfect. Focus on yourself and pursue your goals and dreams.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>2. Reevaluate Your Life</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Are you unhappy with your job? Does your current living situation make you unhappy? Is your relationship or friends bringing your down? Take a good look at everything in your life and imagine what you would change if you could. Then do it. Don't settle for anything that makes you unhappy, even if it means distancing yourself from people or places.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>3. Travel</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I'm sure you've heard of people who go travelling to find themselves and discover their real purpose in life. This concept actually works and travelling has huge benefits for your health and happiness. There's a whole world out there so if you're feeling stuck and unhappy in life, you should go and discover it.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>4. Let Go Of What's Bringing You Down</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If a situation is out of your control, there's no point in stressing out about it, just let it go. Stop focusing on the negatives in your life and start thinking about everything that makes you happy and what you're thankful for. If someone has got something against you, don't let them get to you. If a situation is persistently affecting your happiness, let it go and get out of that situation as soon as possible. Let go of the negativity and start letting in the positive vibes.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>5. Plan Your Future</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you feel stuck in a certain situation right now, remember that it won't last forever. Whatever you're going through will pass and in a matter of months or years, your life will be completely different and you'll probably make a lot of new friends and have new people come into your life. Think of your ideal life and start planning it. Make little goals to get closer to the life where you wake up every day and feel happy. Anytime you feel like your unhappiness will never go away, remember that this too shall pass.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>6. Clear Your Thoughts</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">We tend to focus on things that are worrying us more than anything, and by doing so we make ourselves extremely unhappy. We get stressed about even the smallest things and can't stop thinking about anything that goes bad or anything wrong that's happened. Take some time to clear your head and listen to some calming music or a relaxation app that can help you focus on positive thoughts and letting go of the negatives.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>7. Don't Look At Social Media</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">We're all guilty of it. We scroll aimlessly through Instagram, check Facebook and Twitter and like pictures of lifestyles that we don't have and follow people who we think have much better lives than us. This has a hugely negative effect on your mental health because it makes you think that so many other people have amazing lives and you don't, which is completely false. People who post about their lives on social media often do so through a filter and make a showreel of their best moments. In reality, they have very normal lives and deal with all the same problems we do. So delete all the apps that you don't need and limit your time on social media to one or two days per week.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>8. Make Better Choices</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">If you feel an emptiness inside and you try to fill it with bad choices such as junk food, alcohol, spending money etc. you should take time to reflect on how these things actually make you feel and if they're really making a positive impact on your life. Try to fill the void with activities or things that will benefit your health, such as, walking, dancing, exercising, going for lunch with a friend or taking up a new hobby.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>9. Distance Yourself From People Who Make You Unhappy</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">We've all had a friend in our lives who we don't really class as a friend because they always cancel plans, are unreliable and only contact you when they need something. Yet we put up with these people even though the only way they impact your life is by making you unhappy. Part of making the decision to be happy is choosing who you surround yourself with in life. If you have people in your life who aren't genuinely there for you and make you unhappy, do not feel guilty about ending that friendship or relationship and distancing yourself from them. It will better your life in the long run.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>10. Have A Routine</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">It might seem difficult to get into a routine if you often stay up late watching TV on your laptop, or you keep working late into the early hours of the morning. However, a steady routine will greatly benefit your happiness and make you more motivated and energetic in your day to day activities. If you let yourself drift from one day to the next, not knowing exactly what you're doing each day, you're not going to have a happy and positive mindset.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>11. Have A Clear Out</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">A great way to clear your mind is to clear your surroundings.  If you have a lot of things lying around your house, adding to mess and untidiness, this can impact your mind and happiness by making you feel unorganised. Go through your wardrobes and drawers and get rid of anything you don't really need. Organising your space will help to organise your life.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>12. Exercise </b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">I know you don't want to hear it, but exercise has a huge benefit for your mental health and happiness. Even if you can't remember the last time you properly exercised, plan to get out of the house this week and go for a light jog and a walk. You'll look and feel better and the more enjoyable the exercise is, the more likely you are to stick at it. Find a type of exercise that is fun for you, it doesn't have to be the gym. You could try pilates, hot yoga, rebounding, boxing, swimming, dancing and so much more. Have a fun exercise routine and you'll feel happier instantly.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>13. Talk About Your Feelings</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">A lot of people tend to keep their feelings bottled up and keep everything to themselves in an attempt to be strong. This is doing the opposite effect of making you happy and keeping everything to yourself is one of the worst things you can do. Talking about how you're feeling can make you feel a million times better and getting everything off your chest will help to make you feel happy instantly. You can talk to a friend, a family member, a co-worker, a counsellor, a therapist or even an online therapist on a site like <a href="http://go.tryonlinetherapy.com/aff_c?offer_id=2&aff_id=1526"><span style="color: #e06666;">BetterHelp</span></a>, which you can do from the comfort of your own home.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: "Avenir Next Condensed"; font-size: 30px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>14. Focus On A Project</b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 27px; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Instead of letting your mind wander to unhappy thoughts and getting stressed out about life, channel your energy into a project that will better your life and make you happy. You could start working on a business idea, start a blog, journal, scrapbook or anything that will fill your time and keep you busy with something that is fun to work on.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Avenir; font-size: 20px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;">Pin it for later:</span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjA-9_jJD1WAKH0ztWkpuMVrQzsdML7jLdq2Lo1pkJOOxdxXkxUigmyDwtXyZb_cF_y1QPWHcWHgZJgcYYfpAyW5cu6z_9sGH0OiaSc2jkCPIEx8Z9KMW7BIDA_Sf4IrwRExr7RXGWo74g/s1600/how+to+be+happier.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" these are things you can do right now to have a happier mindset How To Be Happier: 14 Ways To Be Happy Now" border="0" data-original-height="1300" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjA-9_jJD1WAKH0ztWkpuMVrQzsdML7jLdq2Lo1pkJOOxdxXkxUigmyDwtXyZb_cF_y1QPWHcWHgZJgcYYfpAyW5cu6z_9sGH0OiaSc2jkCPIEx8Z9KMW7BIDA_Sf4IrwRExr7RXGWo74g/s1600/how+to+be+happier.png" title="How To Be Happier: 14 Ways To Be Happy Now" width="225" /></a></div>

How To Be Happier: 14 Ways To Be Happy Now

If you're asking yourself 'How can I be happier?' these are things you can do right now to have a happier mindset. Whether you want to be happier in life, in general, at work or happier with yo…

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7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgczr6TqnYCoH_M-TPTGulpDvCZV28yUnRP7w01gES6IaW-MBfBFNOe3l2Z2pK_5MIYtoHo_sq7V-0TCEAGNULu2l5lcXOx0rmeWy_aUO4lKy8KXS43fGN80hQkzm6TrmQseH62-GPtD68/s1600/Black-Man-Smiling.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="265" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgczr6TqnYCoH_M-TPTGulpDvCZV28yUnRP7w01gES6IaW-MBfBFNOe3l2Z2pK_5MIYtoHo_sq7V-0TCEAGNULu2l5lcXOx0rmeWy_aUO4lKy8KXS43fGN80hQkzm6TrmQseH62-GPtD68/s400/Black-Man-Smiling.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <span style="font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6;">Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there's rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. Thanks to MindBodyGreen for creating that space. Here are 7 things that men really want in a relationship.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">1. To feel like your hero</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, but nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">2. Acceptance</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>There’s a new T-shirt trending Los Angeles titled “Love Me Anyways.” They should make them for men. Because we NEED to feel that when we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behavior and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">3. Not to be left in the dark</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know who you truly are.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">4. Blinders sex</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. Blinders sex gets men to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s a unique connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces glue that cannot happen with anyone else.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">5. The C-word</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. We want you to communicate directly. We don’t get clues. We need things spelled out. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t just want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> For many of us, communication is not our specialty. We need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet us at logic, we will will match your emotions. Hopefully. But we need you to tell us.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">6. Sweat</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;"></strong>There’s nothing sexier than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages us to work on ours as well. We get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked. Now, if we do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit;">7. To have our own lives</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> We may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But we really want you to have your own life. Really. We want you to have your own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course we want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like us to be a part of, but we want you to have your own identity.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #454545; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 2rem; margin-top: 2rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"> Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs. Let’s put our relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is mine. And together, we’ll ride.</div> </div>

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8 Ways To Stay Motivated When You Want To Quit

<div style="text-align: left;"> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNDX8WPWXL1hS_5Si85kS_Te8SJN9cGSaDX3ZrFhDjP5jjlVDyUb9i6Zr2KOd2PahoGTDgWsvpxD2yMyKIhccy4jNG70IbmW22GGu0rVjkTewTvB8naGA1Q65RXcCNSMsLEwe0ezz0c4s/s1600/how+to+stay+motivated+when+you+want+to+quit+life.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" ways to stay motivated when you want to quit 8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" border="0" data-original-height="1300" data-original-width="735" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNDX8WPWXL1hS_5Si85kS_Te8SJN9cGSaDX3ZrFhDjP5jjlVDyUb9i6Zr2KOd2PahoGTDgWsvpxD2yMyKIhccy4jNG70IbmW22GGu0rVjkTewTvB8naGA1Q65RXcCNSMsLEwe0ezz0c4s/s1600/how+to+stay+motivated+when+you+want+to+quit+life.png" title="8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" width="520" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Have you ever felt like you wanted to quit everything? Everyone in life has faced a time when they've wanted to quit. However, quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and if you feel like quitting right now, <b>here's why you shouldn't</b>.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">I had a MAJOR wanting to quit moment this week. I started a new course and to be honest, it wasn't at all what I'd hoped for. I did it because there were certain modules I was excited to study but after the first day, I realised it could be a long time before I get to do any of the things I signed up for. I came home that evening with a very heavy head and went into 'wanting to quit' mode.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">I was so convinced that I wanted to quit everything and drop out that very minute. What changed my mind? <b>Time</b>. I asked myself the following questions and really assessed if this was something I wanted to go through with and if it was going to better my life in the long term.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="color: #e06666; font-size: large;"><a href="http://amzn.to/2DCisr7"><span style="color: #e06666;">Read 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne to discover your true meaning in life.</span></a></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">If you feel like you want to quit your job or drop out of university or college, or even quit that diet that you've started, take some time to clear your head and ask yourself these questions:</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">1. Why did I sign up for this in the first place?</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">When you reach a point where you feel like quitting, ask yourself why you wanted to do this in the first place. Were you excited about making this your future? Are you passionate about it? Has it been a big interest in your life so far? Go back to the very beginning of when you first started thinking about whatever it is you're doing right now. When you feel like quitting, just remember why you started.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">2. Am I being too swift to make a decision?</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">It's normal to feel uncertain about new things. You've made a big change in your life and part of you will always want to revert back to what you're used to, your comfort zone. This is when you need to fight through those early stages of doubt and give it a chance. It's hard to make a good judgement on a new situation or environment in the first couple of days or weeks. Give it time and see how your feelings change, you might end up growing to like it.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">3. Think of the end result</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Imagine your life when you complete your goal. You could end up losing that weight, or completing that degree or getting that step up the job ladder or whatever it is you're working towards. Envision your future and what it'll be like if you decide not to quit. </span></span><span style="font-size: large;">If you can see the results in your head it can spur you on to keep working for it.</span><span style="font-size: large;"> If it leads to a better future and greater happiness in life then don't give up.</span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">4. Who are you doing it for?</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Are you doing this to please others? Are you doing it to fulfil someone else's dreams? The main person you should be doing it for is you. There's no point following a dream if it's not your own. Remember that you're doing this for your future self. If you're not, then you need to reassess your options and follow your true meaning.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Read: <a href="https://justandmyguys.blogspot.com//search?q=i-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-life" target="_blank"><span style="color: #e06666;">How to discover your true meaning in life</span></a></i></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <br /></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">5. Surround yourself with motivation</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">There are tons of people who have wanted to quit in life but the successful ones are those who didn't. Even if it's just reading some inspirational quotes or reading a motivational book to change your mind set, surround yourself with positivity and motivation and you'll reignite the drive to succeed within yourself. <a href="http://amzn.to/2DCisr7"><span style="color: #e06666;">A great self help book about the law of attraction and succeeding in life is <span style="color: #e06666;">The Secret</span> by Rhonda Byrne</span></a>. A lot of people have said this book has changed their life so it's definitely worth a read!</span></span><br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Read <a href="http://amzn.to/2xV7zl6" target="_blank"><b><span style="background-color: white; color: #ea9999;">The Secret</span></b></a><span style="color: #a64d79;">:</span></span></span></div> </div> <center> <iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-eu.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=GB&source=ss&ref=as_ss_li_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=heyitsemily-21&marketplace=amazon&region=GB&placement=1847370292&asins=1847370292&linkId=97072436726bb719ea26aa7d99506432&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe></center> <img alt=" ways to stay motivated when you want to quit 8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-uk.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=heyitsemily-21&l=li3&o=2&a=1847370292" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" width="1" /> <br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">6. Find a solution to the reason you want to quit</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">Really ask yourself why you want to quit. Is it because you find it boring? Are you too tired from working at it? Do you need a break? Instead of packing it in altogether, find solutions to the problems you're facing. Take a break when you need it, find ways to make it more interesting, talk to someone about it. Once you get to the core reason for wanting to quit, focus on how to make that better.</span></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <br /> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: large;">If you're a blogger and you're feeling a bit overwhelmed with how to get your blog off the ground and running, check out the</span><span style="font-size: large;"> <a href="https://transactions.sendowl.com/stores/7731/45410"><span style="color: #e06666;">Career in the Making Ebook</span></a></span><span style="font-size: large;"> by Krista Aoki, she'll help you get your blog to where you want to be.</span></li> </ul> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <div style="line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">7. Don't let a bad start put you off from finishing the race</span></b></span><br /> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></b></span> <span style="font-size: large;">You might of had a crappy first day but that doesn't mean you should judge the rest of your time based on that. Things will get better, it takes time to adjust to new environments. It's common to go into fight or flight mode when you're in an unsure situation. Try to fight those feelings of wanting to give up and find the power to keep going.</span></div> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: x-large;">8. Believe in yourself</span></b></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">As cheesy as it sounds, believe in yourself! Look how far you've made it and all you've achieved so far, it'd be such a shame to throw that all away due to some negative feelings. You have the strength to keep working hard and achieving your goals and you<i> will</i> reach that end result.</span></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal; min-height: 22px;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-kerning: none;"></span><br /></span></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> </div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: 'Avenir Next'; line-height: normal;"> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;">It's normal to feel like quitting when things get tough, it's a natural response mechanism. Keep going and fulfil what you started and just remember that it won't be like this forever. Once you reach your end goal you'll thank yourself so much for sticking with it. </span></span><br /> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span> <br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> Pin it for later:</div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhc4zyhf6Xs-Q4A2zDwiMLb3DsstszxCdQvQqwC70PerCH9_rieAM7Zz-_YiR4NqcJe2qziOKXp3eYpeZYsBWgIME4rGw28xYIc8caG5PEwxQ_Wu-7IMP9bBGYMrdwJ7RwY_K0JxoGGBYg/s1600/how+to+stay+motivated+when+you+want+to+quit+life.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" ways to stay motivated when you want to quit 8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" border="0" data-original-height="1300" data-original-width="735" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhc4zyhf6Xs-Q4A2zDwiMLb3DsstszxCdQvQqwC70PerCH9_rieAM7Zz-_YiR4NqcJe2qziOKXp3eYpeZYsBWgIME4rGw28xYIc8caG5PEwxQ_Wu-7IMP9bBGYMrdwJ7RwY_K0JxoGGBYg/s1600/how+to+stay+motivated+when+you+want+to+quit+life.png" title="8 Ways to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit" width="225" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">This post contains affiliate links which means I make a small commission through sales but this doesn't cost you anything :)</span></span></div> </div>

8 Ways To Stay Motivated When You Want To Quit

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17 Must-Have Conversations with Your Child

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <header class="article-header"><h1 class="entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline"> 17 Must-Have Conversations with Your Child</h1> <div class="single-featured-image"> <img alt="" class="attachment-gz-thumb-750 size-gz-thumb-750 wp-post-image" height="426" itemprop="image" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Fotolia_53954545_S-750x500.jpg" width="640" /></div> </header><section class="entry-content clearfix" itemprop="articleBody"><div style="text-align: center;"> <strong>Life coach, Mark Chernoff, breaks down some important life truths that can shape how children view themselves and their place in the world.  Parents, no matter how old your child (or adult child), it’s never too late to help them integrate these lessons.</strong></div> Our children grow up so fast.  Before we know it they’re out there somewhere in the real world, and we’re left hoping that we’ve done enough to prepare them for everything they’ll encounter.  Angel and I talk to course students and coaching clients on a regular basis – mothers and fathers alike – who share these sentiments.  They worry about their children.  They wonder if they’ve done a good enough job parenting up to this point.  And Angel and I totally get it too.  Oftentimes we feel the same way.  We’re concerned about our son Mac’s well-being and education, and we discuss it frequently, just like most parents.<br /> In fact, from what we’ve researched and studied, the well-being and education of their children is more important to most parents than just about anything else – health care, cost of living, public safety, and even their own well-being.  And believe it or not, most non-parents also say they’re concerned about the well-being and intellectual growth of society’s youth; this concern seems to cut cleanly across gender, ethnicity, age, income and political affiliation.  So the reality is, to a great extent, we all collectively care about our children.   And that’s a really beautiful thing when you think about it.<br /> Anyway, I awoke this morning thinking about all of this – especially the miraculous, life-changing responsibility of parenthood – and two related thoughts immediately crossed my mind:<br /> <ul> <li>Whoa!  Time flies.  How in the world did Angel and I suddenly become parents to a little boy that’s running all over the place and asking questions about everything under the sun?</li> <li>There are so many important truths I want to share with Mac… as soon as feasibly possible.</li> </ul> So I’m writing this post as a reminder to myself, and to all parents…<span id="more-4358"></span><br /> Here are 20 simple yet powerful truths you can add to your daily conversations with your child that will gradually change how they think about themselves and their place in the world, and ultimately transform how they live their life.  Please remember, also, that it’s never too late to discuss these truths – in most cases they are equally relevant to youngsters, adolescents, and adult children alike.<br /> <ol> <li><strong>Learning how to think is far more useful than learning what to think.</strong> – A big part of your life is a direct result of the decisions you make; if you don’t like your life for some reason, it’s time to start making changes and better decisions.  And the same is true for all of us, including our children.  It’s crucial that our children gradually grow to understand that THEY must learn to make good decisions for themselves, without us.  Parents can only guide by example and put their offspring on the right path, but the final forming of a person’s character and life story lies in their own hands.  You can walk beside your child most of the time, but not in their shoes.  And someday, when you’re not around, they’ll come to a fork in the road that forces them to think for themselves.  Which is why it’s important to teach your child how to think, not what to think.  (The remaining points in this article will help you do just that.)</li> <li><strong>Everything is hard before it’s easy, and we get stronger as we go.</strong> – One of the best things you can do for your child as they grow is to let go and allow them to do things for themselves, all<img alt="" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-10408" height="200" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" src="http://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Fotolia_93394019_S-300x200.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Fotolia_93394019_S-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Fotolia_93394019_S-768x512.jpg 768w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Fotolia_93394019_S-350x233.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Fotolia_93394019_S-750x500.jpg 750w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Fotolia_93394019_S.jpg 849w" width="300" />ow them to be strong and responsible, allow them the freedom to experience things on their own terms, allow them to take the bus or the train and learn from life firsthand – allow them to be better people, allow them to believe more in themselves and do more by themselves.  Journeying through life on your own two feet is a learning process – you become stronger as you go.  It’s like a little girl who struggles to find her way home from school without her parent’s help – doing it the first few times is daunting and scary, but in the long run she’s safer and better off having learned the way.</li> <li><strong>The biggest disappointments in life are often the result of misplaced expectations.</strong> – When we are really young our expectations are few, but as we age our expectations tend to balloon with each passing year.  The key is to help your child understand that tempering unrealistic expectations of how something “should be” can greatly reduce unnecessary stress and frustration.  With a positive attitude and an open mind, we often find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than we thought it was going to be; it’s just that “the easy” and “the hard” aren’t exactly the way we had anticipated, and don’t always occur when we expect them to.  This isn’t a bad thing – it makes life interesting, if we’re willing to see it that way.</li> <li><strong>Worry is the cruelest enemy of personal growth.</strong> – Worrying does nothing but steal your joy and keep you very busy doing absolutely nothing at all.  When you spend time worrying, you’re simply using your imagination to create things you don’t want.  And, as every child knows deep down, there are much better ways to use an imagination.  Do your best to remind them of this.</li> <li><strong>Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.</strong> – If you want to be effective in life, you can’t base your attitude on how things are.  Instead, you have to choose your attitude so it supports and expresses the way you wish to be.  It’s not about expecting the best to always happen, but instead accepting whatever happens and then making the very best of it.  Truly, most of our long-tern frustration and stress comes from the way we respond and react to circumstances, not the circumstances themselves.  Learn to adjust your attitude, and all that extra frustration and stress is gone.  Practice this in your own life, so your child can witness the results firsthand.</li> <li><strong>Reflecting on what we’re grateful for makes us happier and healthier.</strong> – In <em>1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently,</em> Angel and I discuss the powerful benefits of keeping a gratitude journal.  And the really good news is it works for children too.  In one celebrated example, Dr. Robert Emmons, of UC Davis, asked teenage students to keep a gratitude journal – over ten weeks, the young undergrads listed five things that had happened in the past week which they were grateful for.  The results were astoundingly powerful – the students who kept the gratitude journal were up to 25% happier, more optimistic about their future, and got sick less often during the controlled study.  They even got more exercise than usual.  The bottom line is that children who keep a gratitude journal are statistically happier, more optimistic, and healthier.  As soon as your child is old enough, help them start one.</li> <li><strong>The lifelong pursuit of happiness is about finding meaning.</strong> – Pursuing happiness is not <img alt="" class="alignright size-full wp-image-9811" height="266" sizes="(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px" src="http://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Fotolia_37190292_S-e1494606571373.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Fotolia_37190292_S-e1494606571373.jpg 400w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Fotolia_37190292_S-e1494606571373-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Fotolia_37190292_S-e1494606571373-350x234.jpg 350w" width="400" />at all the same as feeling happy, which is a fleeting emotion dependent on momentary circumstances.  This is something that tends to confuse us when we’re young.  Happy moments feel great and are often fun-filled – if the sun is shining, by all means we should bask in it.  But happy moments always pass, because time passes.  The lifelong pursuit of happiness, on the other hand, is far more elusive; it’s not based on a particular momentary circumstance.  What you are really pursuing is meaning – living a meaningful life.  It starts with your “why.”  (Why are you doing what you’re doing every day?)  When your “why” has significance, you are living your life on your own terms, which makes the inevitable obstacles that arise on your path that much easier and more fulfilling to overcome.  In essence, you are putting forth effort and pushing forward because doing so brings meaning into your life.  (Do your best to help your child find their “why,” and let them know that it’s OK if it changes over time.)</li> <li><strong>The right journey is the destination.</strong> – The most prolific and beneficial experience is not in actually achieving something you want, but in seeking it.  It’s the journey towards an endless horizon that matters – goals that move forward with you as you chase them.  It’s all about meaningful pursuits – the “moving” – and what you learn along the way.  Truly, the most important reason for moving from one place to another is to see what’s in between.  In between is where passions are realized, love is found, strength is gained, and memories are made.  You can’t get any of that without firsthand living.  In other words, the right journey is the destination.  Remember this truth, live by it… set an example for your child.</li> <li><strong>The most effective way to move away from something you don’t want, is to move toward something you DO want.</strong> – “Don’t think about eating that chocolate donut!”  What are you thinking about now?  Eating that chocolate donut, right?  When we focus on not doing something, we end up thinking more about it.  The same philosophy holds true in all walks of life, regardless of our age.  By persistently trying to move away from what we don’t want, we are inadvertently forced to think about it so much that we end up carrying it’s weight along with us.  But if we instead choose to focus our energy on moving toward something we DO want, we naturally leave the negative weight behind as we move forward with our lives.</li> <li><strong>Actions always speak 100% louder than words.</strong> – Children have never been perfect at listening to their parents, but they have never failed to imitate them.  Keep this in mind.  Let your children watch you set an example every day in all that you do, and then reinforce your actions with verbal guidance.  Ultimately, all of us – young and old alike – need to remember that what we really want in life comes from what we really do in life.</li> <li><strong>The willingness to do hard things opens significant doors of opportunity.</strong> – One of the most important abilities you can help a child develop in life is being OK with some level of discomfort.  Because the best things are often hard to come by, and if you shy away from difficulty and discomfort, you’ll miss out on them.  Mastering a new skill is hard.  Building a business is hard.  Writing a book is hard.  A marriage is hard.  Parenting is hard.  Staying in shape is hard.  All are amazing and worth every bit of effort you can muster.  If you get good at doing hard things, you can do almost anything you put your mind to.</li> <li><strong>Uncertainty is inevitable and must be embraced to achieve anything worthwhile.</strong> – When we act with some level of uncertainty, this uncertainty often chases us out into the open where opportunity awaits.  Thus, learning to embrace uncertainty relatively early in life is a must.  Because if we need to know exactly how every little thing will turn out, we’ll avoid many life-changing projects, career moves, relationships, etc.  Starting a business, for example, could be a very worthwhile thing to do, but if you’re scared of uncertainty you’ll skip it.  Continually cowering in the face of uncertainty like this means you will never know anything for sure, and in many ways this unknowing will be worse than finding out your hunch was wrong.  For if you were wrong, you could make adjustments and carry on with your life without ever looking back and wondering what might have been.</li> <li><strong>Lack of effort holds more people back than intelligence ever could.</strong> – It doesn’t matter if you have a genius IQ and a PhD in Quantum Physics, you can’t change anything or make any sort of real-world progress without putting forth diligent effort.  There’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it.  Knowledge and intelligence are both useless to a person who’s unwilling to put in the effort and take action.  Remember this, and do your best to praise your child for their effort, not their intelligence.  When you praise your child’s efforts you are bringing attention to something they CAN control – the amount of time and energy they put into their work.  This is immensely important because it teaches them to persist, and that progress through hard work is possible.  They come to see themselves as “in control” of their success in life.  Conversely, emphasizing God-given intelligence takes progress out of your child’s control, and it provides no good formula for responding to failure.  In turn, your child may begin to think that innate intelligence is always going to be a missing element for them, and thus disregard the importance of their effort to learn and grow.</li> <li><strong>Not everything will go as planned, but we can still be prepared.</strong> – For every youngster that succeeds in doing exactly what they set out to do in the exact time frame they set out to do it in, there are dozens of others who start strong and get derailed.  Help your child understand that if this happens to them, it isn’t a bad thing.  Unexpected obstacles may come along to shift their perspective, to strengthen their resolve, or to change their direction for the better.  And the destination they fall in love with someday may not even exist now.  For example, just a few short years ago the esteemed career paths of working at Facebook and Snapchat didn’t exist.  Neither did the job of professional coach and writer at Marc and Angel Hack Life.  So if a child can’t plan out their future in its entirety, what should they do?  Focus a little less on the future and focus more on what they can do now that will benefit them no matter what the future brings.  Read inspiring books.  Write.  Learn and practice useful skills.  Build things.  Be adventurous and seek real-world experiences.  Help people.  Cultivate healthy relationships.  These efforts will assist in any future circumstances that come their way.</li> <li><strong>Incredible distance can be covered over time with tiny steps.</strong> – Most people fritter their free time away on things that don’t matter, like TV, video games, social media, etc.  A year of that and you have absolutely zero to show for it.  But if you painted every day, or practiced your web design skills, or wrot<img alt="" class="size-medium wp-image-10647 alignleft" height="200" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" src="http://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/Fotolia_142119393_XS-300x200.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/Fotolia_142119393_XS-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/Fotolia_142119393_XS-350x234.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/Fotolia_142119393_XS.jpg 424w" width="300" />e on a blog, or updated and perfected a video channel on YouTube, or started building a side business/passion project, or spent more time networking with the right people… at the end of a year you’ll have built something interesting.  And you’ll have some great life experiences too – experiences you can point to and say, “I built that, and I learned this,” which, sadly, many people can’t do.  Also, it’s important to mention that although it may seem easier for younger people to do these things, it’s 100% possible for all of us to take tiny steps in the right direction, day in and day out, for the rest of our lives.</li> <li><strong>Goals don’t make positive changes happen, rituals do.</strong> – What’s the difference between goals and rituals?  As a parent, your goal is to be a great role model, while your ritual is the time and energy you commit to setting a great example for your child each day.  If you’re an entrepreneur, your goal is to grow a successful business, while your ritual is your daily work ethic combined with your management, marketing and sales processes.  If you’re a fiction writer, your goal is to write a novel, while your ritual is the writing schedule you follow each day.  Now think about this:  If you ignored your goals for a while and focused solely on your rituals, would you still get positive results?  For example, if you were trying to lose weight and you ignored your goal to lose 20 pounds, and instead focused only on eating healthy and exercising each day, would you still get results?  Yes, you would.  Gradually, you would get closer and closer to your goal without even thinking about it again.  The earlier we learn this in life, the longer we have to make our positive daily rituals work in our favor.  But it’s never too late either.  <em>(Angel and I build tiny, daily, life-changing rituals with our students in the “Goals and Growth” module of Getting Back to Happy.)</em></li> <li><strong>Trustworthiness is the foundation of progress.</strong> – The underlying key, for all of us, is to be trustworthy in our relationships.  When someone gives someone an employment or business opportunity, the biggest fear is that this person is not trustworthy – that they’ll slack off and try to cheat the system.  Someone who has established a positive reputation over the years will likely be more trusted, and more likely to be recommended.  So do you best to teach you child to be trustworthy by being honest, admitting mistakes and fixing them, and generally going above and beyond the call of duty in all personal and professional relationships.  When we adhere to this philosophy, we end up building a good reputation and people appreciate and endorse us more openly, which is the best way to get a job, a business investor, or another good friend.</li> </ol> </section></div>

17 Must-Have Conversations with Your Child

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