Your Relationship Is In Serious Trouble, If You Do These 3 Things

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div class="dek" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; clear: left; float: left; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img src="https://thegrio.files.wordpress.com/2012/07/black-man-woman-fighting-16x9.jpg?w=560" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <br /> <div class="dek" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 15px;"> You might be doing these things without even realizing it!</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> At the beginning of your relationship, things are great. They can feel perfect in fact. The two of you are effortlessly connecting and those hours just seem to breeze by. Sound familiar?</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> But then things start to get a little more difficult down the road.</div> <div class="ym" id="ym_1003415940242979181" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">  </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Maybe you start fighting once in a while. Maybe you have more and more <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">off days</em>. Maybe that chemistry you felt in the beginning just isn't there anymore.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Why does that happen? Are all <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">relationships</strong> doomed to end up like this? Actually, no.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Sure, relationships go through different phases as they mature. But when they're good, they improve with age. They don’t just die off in a disappointing puddle of complacency.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Here’s why this usually happens:</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> The success of a relationship is based on the overall quality of the emotional interactions that you have with a man. When those emotional interactions are positive and high quality, that <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">increases</em> his positive feelings for you. When those interactions are negative and low quality, that <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">decreases</em> his positive feelings for you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> So the secret is to keep having positive, high quality interactions that feel good.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> OK, that probably seems obvious. Maybe I need to explain what exactly a <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">positive </em>or <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">high quality </em>interaction actually is.</div> <a name='more'></a><br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Well, it probably isn’t exactly what you think it is. Most people think of positive interactions as happy, fun, and romantic. Sure, that can <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">sometimes</em> be a positive, but not always.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> A positive interaction is simply anything where the two of you are being 100 percent emotionally real and transparent with one another. Maybe that involves being happy and a lot of <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/romance" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #21568a; text-decoration: none;">romance</a></strong> but it might also involve crying in each other’s arms or about sharing what you’re afraid of or anxious about.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> The more real and honest you can be with one another, the more the interaction will be high quality and positive. <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">And that’s what’s going to bring the two of you together.</em></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> OK, you might be thinking right about now that this all sounds great, but what if you can’t get the guy to talk about his feelings? What if you aren’t having those positive interactions? And here’s my advice:</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> A lot of people want to connect with their partner, but struggle because the way that they are bringing themselves toward any interaction is actually encouraging their partner to shut down emotionally.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> You could be encouraging his emotional shutdown by doing one of the following things:</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. You're too busy analyzing your relationship to be present with him in the moment. </strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> You worry about what he thinks, analyze his behaviors or words, worry that you're not good enough, or try to think of the next thing to say.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Why would a guy want to connect with you, be open and vulnerable with you, and share his deepest feelings with you if you’re not even <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">there</em> with him? You’re stuck in your head and not in the preset moment.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. You focus on labels and moving things forward without enjoying your relationship as it is. </strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> You're trying to get him to be your <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">boyfriend</strong> or get him to propose to you, evaluating him to see if he lives up to your expectations, or looking to him to somehow take responsibility for your emotional wellbeing and <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">happiness</strong>.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Why would a guy want to bring all of himself to you and share himself with you if he suspects that you’re not going to accept him for the man that he is? It’s very off-putting when you suspect that someone else is just auditioning you to play the role of boyfriend rather than getting to know you. And it’s a turn off when you don’t feel comfortable being yourself around others because they are trying to get you to be a certain way or get something from you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. You're hiding your true feelings and thoughts to make him happy.</strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> You're always agreeing with him (even when you don’t really), not chiming in with your honest opinion, saying whatever you think he wants to hear to make him happy, or even going to the other extreme and pretending as if he doesn’t have any impact on you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Again, a guy isn’t going to want to open up to a woman who is closed off herself and isn’t willing to open up. Men want to know the real you. They don’t just want to have you agree with them, too afraid to rock the boat. And they don’t want to be with someone who is so closed off that they have no impact on whatsoever.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> When you can start to work on these three things, you’ll begin to change the way that you bring yourself to any interaction, date, or relationship. And when this happens, don’t be surprised if you suddenly find that you man is slowly opening up to you again.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Being with you will start to feel good again. You'll create positive emotional interactions and increase his connection to you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> This will keep your relationship from fizzling out, ending in a breakup or suffering the slow death of complacency.</div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> Remember, relationships don’t happen on the romantic dates with the flowers and the chocolate. Relationships live and die by the small moment by moment choices we make on a daily basis.</div> </div>

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12 Golden Rule To A Happy And Long Lasting Marriage/Dating

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <img src="http://static.yourtango.com/cdn/farfuture/KAo2PPwFWDG0Fwq7dQMNqrkMNprh4Fmm6mivRRQb9CA/mtime:1427941577/sites/default/files/styles/listing_big/public/image_feature/golden.jpg?itok=xae17eRc" /><br /> <br /> <div class="field-value value-bold summary dek no-label" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <div class="field field-name-field-daily-dish-feature-summar field-type-text-long field-label-above" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> <div class="field-items" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> <div class="field-item even" style="box-sizing: border-box;"> Fairy-tale love is hard to find. Here are some tips for keeping your relationship healthy and happy.</div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="field-value body no-label" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> One of the most common questions we hear is, "<em style="box-sizing: border-box;">How do we make our relationship work?</em>" The answers are complicated, varied, and after a while, start to sound like muddled platitudes. But these commonplace sayings get repeated because <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">they work</em>. With this in mind, we pulled together 12 cliches that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a healthy, happy relationship. Read on and let us know what you think:</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. Mind your manners.</strong> "Please," "thank you" and "you're welcome," can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love him and don't take him for granted.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. Variety is the spice of life.</strong> Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close. </div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. The couple that plays together, stays together.</strong> Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV doesn't count) and make it a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains. .. whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. Fight right.</strong> In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind: Don't call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don't initiate a discussion when you're angry.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5. I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine.</strong> No one likes demands (unless you're in a BDSM role play) but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your lover to do something and you're not sure he'll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: "Sure, I'll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next movie of my choice."</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6. Two heads are better than one.</strong> Being in a relationship basically means you've made a merger; you've not only joined assets but inherited the other's problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he's gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise kegiatan together.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">7. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.</strong> Maintain your own friendships and occasionally have a night out without your significant other. Doing things without your s.o. not only makes you miss him or her, it also keeps you sane. And in case the relationship doesn't work out, you'll still have your friends.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">8. Sound it out.</strong> It other words: communicate! Talking out the tough subjects — money, religion, fidelity, raising kids —will not be the most fun you've had, but it'll be valuable.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">9. Laughter is the best medicine.</strong> Learn to laugh at yourself and at silly mistakes. If he throws your $300 cashmere sweater in the dryer, laughing it off is better than getting angry in the long run. It's just a $300 cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">10. Keep your eyes on the prize. </strong>Yes, he forgot your co-worker's name for the tenth time, but it probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal — to be in a happy, functioning partnership — you're less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">11. Quitters never win.</strong> Find a ritual and keep it alive, no matter what. Whether it's always kissing each other good night, renewing your wedding vows every year, sleeping in as late as you want once a month or committing to having sex once a week, pick something that makes you both feel good and stick to it, even when you're tempted to skip.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 10px;"> <strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">12. When the going gets tough, the tough get going ... to therapy.</strong> Studies show that couples who seek counseling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don't. Whether its from a religious figure, counselor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is as wise as forgoing self-installation and hiring a plumber to put in a new sink.</div> </div> </div>

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How To Make Your Girlfriend Happy Always

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 30px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1em; list-style: none; margin: 25px 0px 10px; outline: none; padding: 0px; text-align: justify;"> <a href="http://iloverelationship.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Make-Your-Girlfriend-Happy-Always.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; display: inline !important; float: left; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt=" or intend to have one very soon and the thought of how to make your girlfriend How to Make Your Girlfriend Happy Always" border="0" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-2214" height="195" src="http://iloverelationship.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Make-Your-Girlfriend-Happy-Always.jpg" style="border: 1px solid rgb(203, 205, 204); display: inline; height: auto; list-style: none; margin-top: 2px; max-width: 100%; outline: none; padding: 4px;" width="400" /></a></h2> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> Do you have a girlfriend? or intend to have one very soon and the thought of how to make your girlfriend happy always is troubling you. You may need not trouble any further as in this article, you’re going to learn what you need to do to make your girlfriend happy always and ensure that there is no dolling moment in your relationship.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> When a girl is in the hand of a guy who is affectionate and loving, she enjoy it so much that she won’t let anything spoil her happy presence. Girls will always love to be in a relationship with a wonderful guy who treats them in a very special way but it’s not always easy for guys to treat their girls in a special ways at all time, although guys still try hard to make them special but somehow along the way, the treatment get overshadow with some other issues in his life.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> Well! If you want to make her happy always, and as well make other couples envies your perfect relationship, you’ll need to think in her perspective. When both lovers in a relationship think from the other partner’s perspective, the relationship can only get better and more loving with time.</div> <h3 style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1em; list-style: none; margin: 25px 0px 10px; outline: none; padding: 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">Below are the things you need to do to make your girlfriend happy always, get pampered and get pleased.</b></h3> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">1.</b> Give her a memorable gift of love on her special occasion</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">2.</b> Make her friends Jealous her, give her that special love and affection especially when she is in the present of her friends. When her friends notice how good a catch you are, her heart will swell with pride and happiness, and you too will feel you’re doing something great as well.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">3.</b> Her friends and family should be your close pal. For every girl, friends and family mean a lot them because these are the people she has shared some intimate details if not all her intimate detail of her dear life with them. She even listen to her friends and family to a large extent that she takes advice from them. So, getting close to these set of people will make her happy the more knowing that her selections of friends are welcome in your side.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">4.</b> Give her ultimate attention when she is with you; don’t try to ignore her maybe because of your love for sport at the time she is with you.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">5.</b> Give respect to her opinion no matter how silly it looks before you</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">6.</b> Compromise your wants for her needs, you may want to watch your favourite Manchester United Football team but she want to watch a romantic movie, you have to let her want take the centre state. She will feel more appreciated knowing how you give up on your want for hers.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">7.</b> Don’t do things as if you know everything, always ask for her help and opinion</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">8.</b> Show her public display of affection and make her feel special.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">9.</b> Tease her often and make her laugh, just be humorous.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">10.</b> Make her feel secure, girls love to be protected by their boyfriends</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">11.</b>  Give much of your attention to her</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">13.</b> Make sure there is enough communication between both of you at all time.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">14.</b> Women love compliments because it makes them feel much more appreciated, so, you need to compliments her to feel that appreciation.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> <b style="border: 0px none; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px;">15.</b> Let her understand that you’re just lucky to have such a nice girl like her, and make sure you remind her of this always.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px none; color: #333333; font-family: 'Droid Sans', Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; outline: none; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: justify;"> You may not totally accept the 15 points I mention above but I can tell you that, no girl will ever get them from her boyfriend and still remain unhappy in the relationship. They are just happiness string that you can pull at all time and make your girlfriend happy always.</div> </div>

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Five Ways On How Better Communication Can Prevent Divorce

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <h1 class="post-title" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; color: #444444; float: left; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: -1px; line-height: 1.3em; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; margin-top: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;"> <img height="266" src="http://www.blackloveandmarriage.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/old_black_couple-e1315319695679.jpg" width="400" /></h1> <br /> <h1 class="post-title" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #444444; font-family: Titillium, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 38px; font-stretch: inherit; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: -1px; line-height: 1.3em; margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;"> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> When asked about making relationships last just about everyone will tell you the same thing: communication is key! It is advice that is as useful as it is vague. It offers no practical steps you can take, and fails to acknowledge that communication takes many forms, and they aren’t all good for your relationship. Here are some tried and tested methods for keeping the communication in your relationship productive and open.</div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Honesty is (usually) the best policy</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Being honest about how you feel and what you need is the most important and effective thing you can do to preserve your marriage. It can be difficult to tell someone you love that you’re unhappy or unfulfilled, but if you don’t tell them, they’ll never know. Be clear and open about what you feel is missing, or what needs to change. Your spouse loves you and wants you to be happy. If you tell them what you need, they will almost certainly want to help you find it.</div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Not everything you think needs to be said</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Sometimes sharing close quarters with someone you love means finding them frustrating and irritating. Sometimes even the sound of them breathing can make you crazy. This doesn’t mean that you don’t love them anymore, and it definitely doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with the way they breathe. Letting thoughts like those out is destructive and hurtful, and accomplishes absolutely nothing. Before criticizing your partner, try to think about how you would feel if they made the same complaint about you, then try to drop it.</div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Don’t bottle it up…</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> The first piece of relationship advice my mother ever gave me was “don’t let it fester.” She said she and my father didn’t have their first fight until they had been together for 5 years, and boy was it a doozy. Even if your spouse does something totally inappropriate or cruel, once you’ve held onto your anger for long enough, you’ve given up the high ground. If an issue isn’t important enough to be addressed in a timely manner, it isn’t important enough to be used at a later date either.</div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">But bottle it up a little</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> There is a difference between passive-aggressively holding onto past mistakes, and thinking calmly about a perkara before discussing it. When you are hurt, or angry, or frustrated, your ability to talk reasonably and come up with a solution is going to suffer. Sometimes it is a good idea to wait a little while and let the most extreme emotional responses fade before broaching a subject. This will allow you to come at it with some perspective, and to say calmly to your partner, “it bothers me when you do this, for this reason.” No yelling, no accusations, just a simple conversation about ways to make living together easier for both of you.</div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: 600; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Find new ways to discuss difficult issues</span></div> <div style="border: 0px; color: #666666; font-size: 18px; font-stretch: inherit; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 28.7999992370605px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> For some people confrontation is more than just difficult. My sister suffers from actual panic attacks during difficult encounters, which makes those hard conversations even more of a challenge. She and her husband work online from two separate offices in the same house, and occasionally they will discuss touchy subjects via online chat. It allows her to distance herself from the stress of the conversation without sacrificing her own needs. There are other advantages to the written word; it gives you an opportunity to reconsider what you wish to say before it is too late, and it forces you to abandon sarcasm, the great American crutch. Since your tone can’t indicate whether or not you are serious, you should be writing only what you mean.</div> </h1> </div>

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<br /> <br /> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAJ9JSJwYfe0s2a0hdsWhf-zVpa9PpQEw6ZbI-Iyoxdyz1tqxCn0bF3PZ8-zRx2N4aqcXRdRBKTFXOpbwd3f9RGuh5KzabpA3uFbH_zEVh6VLXo-Fz95FXD1jLBHpUcLan0Js937gZOlo/s1600/proposal.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="168" data-original-width="300" height="358" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAJ9JSJwYfe0s2a0hdsWhf-zVpa9PpQEw6ZbI-Iyoxdyz1tqxCn0bF3PZ8-zRx2N4aqcXRdRBKTFXOpbwd3f9RGuh5KzabpA3uFbH_zEVh6VLXo-Fz95FXD1jLBHpUcLan0Js937gZOlo/s640/proposal.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><figure class="entry-thumbnail" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 1.25rem; max-width: 1030px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"></figure><br /> <h2 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.5rem; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: 1.3; margin: 0px 0px 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Dear Editor of  9JAPEN, I’m in a dilemma as a write this because of an action I took few weeks ago concerning my relationship life.</h2><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I want you to please publish my story on your platform so that your readers can advice me on how to get myself out of this trouble.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">My name is Folasade and I’m in my late 20s. I decided to give a brief description of myself so as to prevent people from connecting the dots to fully identify me.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I have had my own safe of heartbreaks while growing up and I will say it took me sometimes to recover from some of them.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">A bit into my heartbreaks:</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">My very first heartbreak came 2 years into my first relationship then I was still in my early 20s. I loved this guy (name withheld) wholeheartedly and I looked forward to nothing but getting married to him.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">His friends were already referring to me as “iyawo wa” (our wife) and I blushed anytime was addressed like that.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Fast forward to two years after, it was his birthday, we spoke in the morning and we agreed to meet at his place by 6:00pm</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Let me say while I worked 8-4pm a day, he is self employed.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I decided to surprise him by arriving his place with gift earlier than agreed. I approached my supervisor and requested if I could close for the day by 2:00pm.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">She knew I don’t make such request if I’m not in dire need of it, so without hesitating, she stamped my request.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Excited like a girl who just got her first toy, I raced home to freshen up and package the gift I had already bought.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I decided to surprise him by going to his place earlier than scheduled. I have a my own key to his apartment and I gaining access was not an issue.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Thirty minutes later when I arrived his place, it took me forever to recover from the shock that enveloped. I met ‘my man’ half naked with my best friend (if there is anything like that), who on her part was completely naked.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">What followed was history, they both made an attempt to justify the obvious but it was too late, both for them and me.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Since then, I find it rather difficult to open my heart to any man. I was so devastated that he could keep me in darkness while cheating with my supposed best friend.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Several other men have tried coming after that encounter but they’ve met a bricked wall.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">After my mum advised that I cannot continue to seal my heart and expect to see a good man, I decided, with every strength within, me to give chance to a man who appeared and looked responsible.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Two months after, I found out he was already married with kids. That was the end of the journey for the two of us.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I concentrated fully on my career for two years without getting distracted by men issue. My friends are leaving spinsterhood one after the other but I was unperturbed. I was buying the Aso udang kering and attending their weddings and mum kept disturbing not to be an uniform slayer. I began to feel really lonely thereafter, but I felt it was not the affection of a man I needed.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">There is this guy that met me in a bank some months ago and has been ‘struggling’ to get around me, but I was not to be deceived again. With my heart still sealed, he invited me for couple of dates to which I made it clear to him that man is not the next thing in my life. He made frantic efforts at convincing me to see life from a different perspective.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I decided to give him a chance but not without still withholding a part of my heart.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Just 3 months into our relationship, we were out for dinner and after explaining how he won’t be complete without getting married to me, he went on his knee and brought out a ring to pop the usual question, “Will you marry me”.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Not wanting to embarrass him, I stylishly moved closer to whisper into his hears that I was not ready for that. But he wasn’t listening to my whispers. People have started giving us unpaid photoshoots with their smart phones with others clapping like they just won a lottery.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I reluctantly stretched my hand forward for the ring which fits in perfectly.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">It’s been days after the tawaran and I still feel like returning his ring, I have told him on phone that collecting the ring was not to embarrass him not because I was ready to get married.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">I need your advice as I am really confused at this point.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Thank you.</div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /> </div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: "Open Sans", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant-numeric: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.25rem; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Do you have an issue you want advice on, please send your letter to </em><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>9japen@gmail.com</b><span style="font-weight: inherit;"> and we will publish it according to your spec to get quality pieces of advice from our teaming readers and followers.</span></em></div>

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The Ebb and Flow of Marriage

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <header class="article-header"><h1 class="entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline"> The Ebb and Flow of Marriage</h1> <div class="single-featured-image"> <img alt="" class="attachment-gz-thumb-750 size-gz-thumb-750 wp-post-image" height="426" itemprop="image" sizes="(max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px" src="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Fotolia_30955574_S-750x500.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Fotolia_30955574_S-750x500.jpg 750w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Fotolia_30955574_S-768x512.jpg 768w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Fotolia_30955574_S-300x200.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Fotolia_30955574_S-350x233.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Fotolia_30955574_S.jpg 849w" width="640" /></div> <div class="social-share-container"> <div style="text-align: left;"> <br /></div> <span class="st_facebook_large" displaytext="Facebook"></span> <span class="st_twitter_large" displaytext="Tweet"></span> <span class="st_pinterest_large" displaytext="Pinterest"></span> <span class="st_linkedin_large" displaytext="LinkedIn"></span> <span class="st_googleplus_large" displaytext="Google +"></span> <span class="st_email_large" displaytext="Email"></span></div> </header><section class="entry-content clearfix" itemprop="articleBody">Marriages change over time.  Couples who are able to navigate the ebb and flow of their relationships have an advantage in doing better over the long haul.<br /> Consider for a moment how much you’ve changed in your maturity, likes, dislikes, priorities, stressors, life experiences, etc.  If you haven’t changed a bit – consider yourself extremely unique.<br /> Most of us experience a change in ourselves to some degree over time.  A marriage or long-term relationship will also change.<br /> <strong>Here are a few ways couples can navigate the inevitable change of their marriage:</strong><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/wedding-marriage-300x243.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Marriage Tips, Tools Advice: The Ebb and Flow of Marriage" border="0" class="size-medium wp-image-2825 alignright" height="243" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" src="http://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/wedding-marriage-300x243.jpg" srcset="https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/wedding-marriage-300x243.jpg 300w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/wedding-marriage-350x284.jpg 350w, https://loveandlifetoolbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/wedding-marriage.jpg 385w" style="cursor: move; margin-top: 5px;" title="Marriage Tips, Tools Advice: The Ebb and Flow of Marriage" width="300" /></a></div> <ul> <li>Check-in with each other periodically.<ul> <li>How are things going?</li> <li>How are you doing?</li> <li>How are we doing?</li> </ul> </li> <li>Make adjustments in the way things have always been done.<ul> <li>Break routines</li> <li>Do things differently</li> <li>Shake it up a bit</li> </ul> </li> <li>Prioritize your relationship.  It’s very easy to take your eyes off of each other, especially after having children and other life stressors show up.</li> <li>Get away.  An overnight can do wonders for your relationship.  Don’t underestimate the power of a new environment away from your routines and responsibilities.</li> <li style="text-align: left;">Laugh and create new memories.  Don’t allow a negativity bias to creep up in your relationship.  Counter it with some good laughs and positive experiences to counteract negative experiences.</li> </ul> Just because your marriage has “changed” isn’t automatically cause for alarm.  It’s about addressing the change together honestly  and finding creative ways to adapt to that change.<br /> If you are concerned that so much has changed at this point that your marriage feels disconnected and the gap too wide to bridge without assistance, find a local couples counselor to help.  If you’re not quite ready for couples counseling you can try my tool for couples, The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples, to help you strengthen the foundation of your relationship.</section></div>

The Ebb and Flow of Marriage

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75 Love & Relationship Quotes That Will Change Your Life

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"> <img src="http://sophisticatedignorance.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/black-happy-couple.jpg" /></div> <br /> <ol style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.799999237060547px; margin: 0px 0px 15px 40px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">In life you’ll realize there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.  If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off.  It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.  </li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling.  And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Choose your relationships wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean<span id="more-483" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"></span>you are alone.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life.  Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Some relationships are like glass.  It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Just because one person doesn’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">It is okay to be angry.  It is never okay to be cruel.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Silence is often the loudest cry.  Pay attention to those you care about.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">We don’t always need advice.  Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down.  Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Don’t expect others to read your mind, and don’t play games with their heads and hearts.  Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out.  Half-truths are no better than lies.  And don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Lies help no one in the long run.  So… 1) Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it. 2) Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue. 3) Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not. 4) Be honest with yourself and your loved ones.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you.  </li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Falling in love is not a choice.  To stay in love is.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Love doesn’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority.  Loyalty is everything.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own.  Don’t waste your time on jealousy.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Do not become possessive.  The purpose of a relationship is to complement each other, grow together, and achieve your common goals as a couple.  At the same time, you must each maintain your individual identity as a human being.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t ever change just to impress someone.  Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used.  Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">You don’t really need someone to complete you.  You only need someone to accept you completely.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.  Let it go.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends will.  Stay in touch.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never waste a moment, it may be the last with someone you love.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If you love someone, tell them.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never stop doing little things for others.  Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">A real person is not perfect, and a perfect person is not real.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">To the world, you might be just one person.  But to one person, you might be the world.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">No relationship is a waste of time.  The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">The first to apologize is the bravest.  The first to forgive is the strongest.  The first to move forward is the happiest.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">If a friend is in trouble, don’t bother them by asking if there is anything you can do.  Think of something appropriate and do it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right.  We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Be the friend that you want to have.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family.  Both sets of people are priceless.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Don’t try to be everything to everyone.  Be everything to someone.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Let us remember that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We can’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave and be with someone else.  This is what love is all about. However, the end of love is not the end of life.  It should be the beginning of understanding that love leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When things fall apart, consider the possibility that life knocked it down on purpose.  Not to bully you, or to punish you, but to prompt you to build something that better suits your personality and your purpose.  Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together.  </li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Everyone wants a perfect ending.  But over the years I’ve learned that some of the best poems don’t rhyme, and many great stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, or end.  Life is about not knowing, embracing change, and taking a moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection.  Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart.  So stay in touch with those who truly matter to you.  Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Never neglect the people who are most important to you simply because you think they will always be there.  Because one morning you might wake up and realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive.  Don’t waste it.</li> <li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px;">Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.</li> </ol> </div>

75 Love & Relationship Quotes That Will Change Your Life

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10 Mariage Tips Every Wife Need To Learn

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; clear: left; color: #404040; float: left; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <img height="130" src="https://deenaroseministries.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/marriage-logo12.jpg" width="400" /></div> <br /> <ol style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #404040; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; margin: 0px 0px 20px 3em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Respect your husband</strong>.  – </em>Notice how it doesn’t say “Respect your husband if he has earned it”. A man’s greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife.  The trap that we’ve all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they <em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">earn </em>it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately garner our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone. Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn’t deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn’t mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren’t. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Guard your heart</em>.</strong>  – The grass is not greener on the other side. Do not believe the lie that with a slimmer figure, a higher salary, a faster car, or a bigger house, you will be a happier woman. The world is full of things and people that will serve as reminders that you don’t have the best of the best, but it’s simply not true. Live the life you’ve been blessed with, and BE THANKFUL. I get that we all have struggles, and there are even times when I would love 1,000 more square feet of house to live in, but square feet is not fulfilling – relationships are. Guard your heart from things and people that will try to convince you that your life or your husband is not good enough.  There will always be bigger, faster, stronger, or shinier – but you’ll never be satisfied with more until you’re fulfilled with what you have now.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">God, husband, kids…in that order</em>.</strong>  – I know this isn’t a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It’s no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. Now unless you’re married to someone who is abusive  (in which case, I urge you to seek help beyond what my blog can give you), no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means. When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. Take it from me – I tried. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Forgive</em>.</strong>  – No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make forgiveness a habit – for everything from major mistakes to little annoyances (every day, I have to forgive my husband for leaving the wet towel on the bathroom counter ;)) – you will keep resentment from growing.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Over-communicate</em>.</strong>  – I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Schedule a regular date night</em>.</strong>  – This one isn’t new, but it’s very important. Never stop dating your spouse.  Even if you can’t afford dinner and a movie (which we seldom can), spending some regular one-on-one time with your spouse is essential. Don’t talk about bills, or schedules, or the kids. Frankie and I often daydream about our future, or plan our dream vacation. We connect emotionally and often learn something new about each other – even after four years.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Never say the “D Word”</em>.</strong>  – If you’re gonna say it, you better mean it. Plain and simple, threatening divorce is not fighting fair. I did this a lot in my previous marriages. I’m not proud of it, but I learned better. I was hurting deeply, and I wanted to hurt back, but it never helped me feel better.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Learn his love language</em>.</strong>  – Everyone has a love language. The way you perceive love is often different from the way your spouse perceives love. Does he like words of affirmation, or does he respond better when you give him gifts? Whatever his love language is – learn it and USE IT.  Edited to add: If you are unfamiliar with the principles behind love languages, you can learn more about it <a href="http://www.5lovelanguages.com/" sl-processed="1" style="border: 0px; color: #9c5d5f; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">here</a>.</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Never talk negatively about him</em>.</strong>  – I learned this lesson the hard way too. If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage and you need advice, see a counselor. Family counseling is a great tool, but try to remember that your family members and friends are not the most objective people to give advice. The argument they are hearing is one-sided and they often build up negative feelings toward your spouse, which usually doesn’t subside once you and your husband have gotten past it. Protect his image with those that you’re close with and seek help from those that can actually be objective.  News flash, ladies – your mother cannot be objective!</li> <li style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Choose to love</em>.</strong>  – There are times in a marriage that you may wake up and not feel in love anymore. Choose to love anyway. There are times when you may not be attracted to your husband anymore. Choose to love anyway. Marriage is a commitment. In sickness and health, in good times and in bad. Those vows are sacred. They don’t say “if you have bad times”. They say “in good times AND in bad”, implying that there WILL be bad times. It’s inevitable. So choose to love anyway. He’s worth it.</li> </ol> </div>

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Ten Dating Tips To Follow

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; border-width: 0px; clear: left; color: #363127; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em; margin-top: 2px; padding: 0px;"> <img src="http://betterafter50.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/online-dating-tips.jpg" style="background-color: transparent;" /></div> <br /> <div style="background-color: white; border-width: 0px; color: #363127; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 2px; padding: 0px;"> Whether you are new to the dating scene, are reentering the dating scene, or are a serial dater, you can use dating tips and advice. No one is a dating expert – even the most beautiful and wealthy people all struggle with matters of the heart. Everyone can learn something about how to date more, how to attract the types of people we want to attract, and how to make sure initial chemistry blooms into an enduring relationship.</div> <div style="background-color: white; border-width: 0px; color: #363127; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 2px; padding: 0px;"> The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no fail-proof tricks, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right. There are however some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that -- tips, not one-size-fits-all guarantees. Different tacks will work for different people. It depends on the situation, who we are, where we are in our lives, etc. However, there are some threads of advice that are fairly universal and can benefit anyone who practices them:</div> <div style="background-color: white; border-width: 0px; color: #363127; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 2px; padding: 0px;"> <b style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Top 10 Dating Tips</b></div> <ol style="background-color: white; color: #363127; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups -- anything that might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this approach.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.</li> <li style="border-width: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 30px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2px;">Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away. </li> </ol> <div style="background-color: white; border-width: 0px; color: #363127; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 2px; padding: 0px;"> <br /></div> </div>

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