What are those things you have been doing in your relationship and have not been doing?
The initial intimacy spikes that often characterizes new relationship are over after some months and both of you feel you need to do something to keep you going strongly.
A relationship is a beautiful thing when you are in it with the right person. However, it must be worked upon to achieve good results.
A typical machine consists of different moving parts, if you do not lubricate these parts from time to time, they will gradually wear and tear they are no more useful. Liken a relationship to a machine, its own oil are those things that seems little but which many fails to do.
Young persons must realize that keeping a relationship for a long period of time is challenging but not impossible.
Regardless of the stage you are in your relationship, these 7 things I mentioned here are necessary for its growth and survival.
1. Be Open!
Never keep a secret! It would interest you that some lovers keep issues from their other half. Doing this is tantamount to gradual destruction of your relationship. Why bottle up your feelings and emotions when you can communicate them with him or her?
When you are open with him or her, it eliminates costly assumptions and “mind reading” which could all go wrong.
Don’t assume your partner will go berserk when you are open about your feelings, thoughts and actions, you are not all knowing.
2. Remind Them How Much You Care
Let your partner see the extent to which you care with your actions. Buying them little gifts or offering to help when they are overwhelmed with work can send the right message that you care a lot about them.
I know it is easier to take your partner for granted when you’ve been together for a while. However, that your relationship has been on for a long time should not remove the care you were showing in the early days of your affair.
By resources, I mean books, audios and movies which centers on how to build a strong relationship. Many lovers for instance, have never seen a good relationship movie together nor read books before.
I’ve seen no fewer than 10 movies on relationships together with my fiancee. We have also exchange books that give us better understanding of how relationships work. After seeing a movie together with her at the cinema last year, our further discussions on it gave both of us better perspectives of a healthy relationship and the bonding between us increased.
According to a research conducted at Rochester University, couples who discuss relationship movies after watching, enjoy a lot of benefits which can be likened to that of counselling. The act also reduce rate of separation by 50%.
4. Give Your Full Attention While Having A Discussion
When having a serious conversation with your partner, give your undivided attention. Listening is a skill which cannot be faked. In addition, when your partner talks, you need to listen to hear, not listen to respond.
Don’t fiddle with your phone or electronic gadgets while you are having an important discussion with your partner, it can be annoying to them. That is not a time to bury your head in a book or novel, finish that discussion before you engage in other things.
5. Communicate More
You have been communicating before, but it’s never enough. To have a long lasting relationship requires effective communication which can only be achieved if both of you are committed to it.
Don’t come to a point where you think your communication in your relationship has reached a limit that do not need further effort.
From experience, once your line of communication breaks down, the relationship is heading for destruction.
6. Respect Your Partner
Respect, respect and respect, it is never too much. You need to respect the opinion and thoughts of your partner. When discussing about any issue, respect their view and perspective about it while giving your own opinion on how best to solve the duduk perkara at hand.
It should not be a blame game when something goes wrong in your relationship, after all, it takes two to tango.
7. Do Things You Love Together
Engaging in activities you both love leads to better bonding between the two of you. Take courses, cook your favourite meal and pray all together!
Start doing these simple things today if you have not been doing them before or improve upon those ones you have been doing. Then, you can minimize friction in your relationship.
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